Guys, how do you respond when a girl says she likes you, unexpectedly?

[martyfellow]

Do you take it as an invitation for a date, or do you play it cool...?

[fal312]

Had it happen to me recently, thing is she has a boyfriend. We'd been flirting and touching like crazy on a number of occasions. I don't remember what I did, I was at a party. Probably just made some joking remark she can't have both and walked away, only to resume messing around shortly afterwards.
Not gonna lie though, it felt so good. Even though I knew damn well she was really into me, just hearing her whisper it into my ears came as a surprise.

Honestly I wouldn't know what to do if it were actually unexpected. If she had to tell me before much if any flirting took place I'd just find it weird. Nonverbal is much better in my opinion.

[anonymousbastard]

I take it as a cruel mean joke to be honest.

[martyfellow]

An honest man!

[animalwithin]

I've had that happen, and the girl didn't turn out to be too great haha. She unexpectedly told my friend to tell me that she liked me. I had talked to her on other occasions and she seemed fine. We went on our first date and she was all over me...at the museum haha. She ended up being the complete opposite of what I look for in a woman and I should have seen the warning signs prior, great learnin lesson though! My experience aside, I think it depends on the girl. Just like a strong, confident man can tell a woman he likes her and wants to get to know her more, a strong confident woman can tell a man that she likes him and would like to get to know him more. It all depends on the woman. Just know, most guys are total wussies and might get intimidated/flustered by such forwardness and wouldn't know how to handle the situation.

[LossofWords]

If she took the liberty to basically ask you out first, it means she has thought about you a whole lot and just couldn't wait any longer. She would rather take the chance of rejection than to lose you. At this point, playing it cool just waste both of your time (and might upset her). She is already really in to you. Dive right in to it man.

[may04]

I hope your way of thinking is true- I'm going to try and grow a figurative pair and go for it. :)

[Quadrophonic73]

Women are generally incapable of such directness and candor. That is why they are repulsed by guys who are - they're projecting their own weird paranoid BS.

That said, the only ones I've heard it come from were pretty weird, as other posters have said.

[EPhantom]

Has only happened from the really weird ones :/

The only girl that showed that she liked me in high school that, wasn't really weird, didn't say anything to me and just tried to get my attention during class... not a very good thing to do to a guy that isn't very social.

[ObscuredBeyond]

If I'm not into her, I try to let her down easy. If I am into her, I try to read just how open she is. And if she's up for anything, I try to talk my way into a kiss. So far, that hasn't happened yet.

[TedStar]

If I like her back I ask her out right there and then. If I don't like her I let her know that I'm not romantically interested. Overall I feel that it's better to let someone know right away if they reveal something like that to you

[curious71192]

It depends on the girl, and the current situation. personally I play it cool because if you go straight for the date it could come off as eager or in a way desperate

[siriusly_insane]

If a girl comes up to you and tells you that she likes you, she wants a date ... and if you're interested ... go on a date with the poor girl ... it takes a lot of courage to go up to the guy that you like and say something like that ...

[iwish46]

I'd run the other way. No one has ever told me that before so it can't be a good thing :P

Honestly, if that did ever happen to me I would probably act pretty awkward. I'm not used to people showing interest in me.

[theydidntnameme]

well when its unexpected, I'm unprepared and not sure how to react. so I try to play it cool/safe... that might not always be the best thing though

[sketchy]

I'll let you know when it happens. I wouldn't hold your breath though...

[ImaginaryReality]

I wouldn't know, since no girl has ever said that to me...

[OpenClose]

I'm usually pretty cool about it. Interested or not.

Apparently some girls are rejected for this? I have no idea where this occurs. Maybe it's rationalization. It certainly doesn't happen anywhere near where I am.

[Heather02]

Well, I've told guys I like that I like them randomly, and I've been rejected, so it does happen.

[siriusly_insane]

I subscribe to what Heather02 said ... it does happen ... and it sucks

[OpenClose]

Yeah, I've had this discussion with girls before. It's usually "I've tried it on a couple guys and they weren't interested. So obviously they hate when a girl makes a move.

But look at it this way, if a guy gave up after trying once or twice and failing:

1. He wouldn't have the option to wait for someone.

2. People would just look at him and say "Well, no wonder you're single! Quit whining about your own laziness."

[Frostie]

ask her if she wants to do something later when I've got some free time.

[ThatBritishLad]

"... Sorry, what's your name?" :P (Being very anti-relationship, I'm not one who remembers names :O)

[1-3-2-4]

That happened to me once it took me by surprise first time I got speechless.

[gtex1991]

women never say that... lol...

[Lj236]

i've never experienced that lol

[JZ_817]

I ask "Really, why?"