I wouldn't cause a scene unless his cuddling was obviously inappropriate and more than 'friendly'. But regardless, we'd definitely be having a serious talk about the whole thing. I'd express how it made me feel, seeing another girl [friend or not] getting similar treatment and being in a position exclusively reserved for ME. I'd make it very clear that their behavior made me extremely uncomfortable and feel disregarded as 'the' woman in his life, whose feelings should be considered a priority, that him doing that and dismissing or not thinking of how I'd feel was unacceptable to me. I'd request that he not do that again in the future if he valued our relationship, how I feel, and wanted me to stick around. There are obvious exceptions, like a long-time friend he considered family who was extremely upset about something, or who he hadn't seen in forever, something to that effect. Still, I'd expect any affectionate touching to be obviously platonic and non-flirtatious, and I'd be pretty p.issed off and upset if it seemed to me like anything but. Outside of those greeting and comfort situations, if he cuddled with another girl again after our talk about it, I'd take it as an ultimate sign of disrespect toward me, a big 'f.uck you' to me and my feelings, he obviously doesn't take me seriously, that the girlfriend he was supposed to care so much about really didn't matter very much to him at all because he selfishly chose that such an insignificant desire/person [person in comparison to what I supposedly represent in his life] OVER me. I'd say good riddance at that point. I don't want to be with a man who half-listens but doesn't care enough to really HEAR me, who consciously pushes me aside enough to do things he knows will bother and hurt me.
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In my case, if I'm in a "committed" relationship, and we've discussed boundaries or pretty much know them already, there's no doubt that I wouldn't be piss** to the maX.
My reaction? Hmmmmm...
First I'd be thinking he was on crack or "something", I don't play that mess. I would laugh hysterically and just end it all, right then and there. No questions, I don't care to know.
If the girl who chose to cuddle with him knew that he was in a relationship, I would have the strongest urge to dig my foot in her a**! Skanktrick! lol
All in all, I'd be through.
Usually cuddling is supposed to only be between a girlfriend/boyfriend or husband/wife. So no it would not b OK :P
[shrug]
It happens all the time in my country, I've never met a girl who had a problem with cuddling. Friends cuddle. Friends cuddle!
Different cultures, man. Jeeze.
If I was bold enough to do something like that, I'd expect to be verbally castigated over it.
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If he hasn't seen her in a while, or if she's a really good friend going through something hard, he can hug her; if we're all sitting on the couch and he cozies right up to her and puts his arms around her and they share a blanket, then he will be single and have a hell of a time explaining the platonic nature of what they were doing.
CUDDLING?! Get the f*** out of here.
He must be very ballsy to cuddle with other girls in front of me.
It'll be over. - He can make her his girlfriend, if he wanted to cuddle up with that bitch.
Very disrespectful.
It would make me feel very uncomfortable.
I wouldn't say anything at the moment because I would be in disbelief, but I would give him the cold shoulder (so he would know that he did something wrong). I would bring this up when we are alone.
Depends on the guy and the degree of cuddling. In high school, I did theater so most of the guys I dated were actors. Consequently, they were very cuddly people... With me, other girls, and other guys lol. So I've kinda learned to be fine with it. But if they're cuddling and they seem to be enjoying it a little TOO much... I might have a problem lol.
shizzlez is gonna hit his wall, reeeal quick. inless the girl is family or a close friend who needs a tight hug...there's sharks in tht water...and it also lays on who went after the embrace...if she embraced him for no clear reason...itz cool...i'll just mace tht mangy trick away...if he started it...i'll just smile and wave as I walk away.
I'm definitively not OK with it. I'm not cuddling with others, neither is he.
I would probably not make a fuss of it in front of everyone, but I'd talk it out later.
If he goes further than a hug, as in kisses/touching, I'd take him down verbally with a cutting remark in a cold tone.
Depends on the situation and the kind of friendship. If it's a good friend and she's sad, then I don't mind him hugging her as comfort or something, if it's someone he hasn't seen in a while, go ahead, hug! But just as a random cuddle...hm, I don't know. I wouldn't be too keen on it.
I would make his balls into hackey sacks haha! and call all of his friends over and make them play with his hackey sacks haha!
Although cuddling can be platonic, it would probably still bother me. If I had a boyfriend, I most likely wouldn't be cuddling any guy friends.
Lol whether in front of me or behind my back, we're over.
I'am fine with a hug or something, but full on cuddling hell no!
He wouldn't have his balls anymore lets just say.
Heck no. Not happening. And I'm pretty sure most guys wouldn't want their girlfriend cuddling with another guy...
Blow my lid! That's disrespectful. Unless she was an old friend who he just hugged which is fine.
i would not react well at all lol. that is very disrespectful and he'd be single if my boyfriend ever did something like that friends or not.
I would have a huge problem with that.
I'd probably talk his ear off about how upset it made me.
Start digging, you've got 6 feet to go.
That's pretty lame. Seriously. I wouldn't be pleased.
Also, when it comes to stuff like this, ask yourself:
Whatever the situation is, ask yourself how you'd feel if she were the one doing it with another guy(s).
I probably wouldn't like him to be cuddling. I had know problem with my him laying his head on his friend's shoulder at a movie though. He fell asleep, they're just friends, and our relationship is long distance.
I would say a similar reaction to your girl cuddling with other guys in front of you
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