Interpreting compliments from Guys/How to Compliment girls?

[Anonymous]

I really struggle with this a lot. I realize that I never compliment women on anything not because I don't appreciate them but because I'm always afraid of coming off as a creep, which is a deeper issue that I'll try not to go too much into. But I thought about it today because there was this girl in my class who I think is pretty attractive, and today she lost her voice and was struggling to talk, but was still making the effort, and I laughed because I legitimately thought it was really cute, then she said screw you guys for laughing at me, which I don't know if she was just having a rough day Because she was sick, or if maybe she's just a bitch, or insecure, I don't know her well enough. But I really wanted to talk to her after and just say I didn't mean to laugh at her expense but that I just thought it was really cute that even though she could barely talk she was still trying. But I decided not to say anything because I figured she'd mistake it for flirting, but at the same time, maybe I wanted her to take it as flirting? I don't know.

I guess the main question I'm trying to ask to girls is when a guy compliments you, how do you interpret it, do you assume he's flirting, or trying to hit on you?

In the case that you interpret this as flirting, how do you respond, are you cold or harsh in response, do you say thank you, maybe flirt back, and how much does your general interest in the guy influence this?

Or say you were the girl in the situation I described how would you respond to me saying that?

THANKS FOR READING ALL OF THIS

[Satire]

That sort of situation sort of depends on the girl in question... and your tone of voice/appearance when you say it. For instance, a male classmate of mine told me that my eyes were gorgeous, and I was confused, because he'd never said anything like that to me before, but pleased, because it came off as sincere and not-creepy. On the other hand, I've had male coworkers compliment me on a variety of things, but the way they do it is disrespectful and creepy. I'm not sure quite how to explain the difference, but there definitely is one. Be sincere, don't leer at her, and don't be anything that *you* might construe as creepy (eg, don't lean over, get too close, breathe heavily, whisper it at her, etc) and she'll probably accept it as a compliment (and with any luck, she'll be intrigued as to why you were so nice in the first place. If you think she's cute and are interested in going anywhere with her, starting off with an honest compliment could be a good way to start things off) but keep in mind everyone is different and will react differently to different things. Girls are complicated, I know. Sorry.

[posted]

Attractive = compliment.

Hideous deformity = creepy.

Some girls take sh*t really serious and most would have said 'screw you guys' whether it was ment as joke or she was sincerely hurt.

I prefer to call a girl cute instead of hot, because 'hot' seems pretty generic, 'cute' is more relationship material instead of just I want to tap that. Also it doesn't put her up on a pedestal compared to 'hot'.