Boyfriend says I don't flirt anymore...

[Anonymous]

How can I fix that?

We've been together for a year now and I truly enjoy being with him, but I do admit that I do shut him down more than I used to.

I do enjoy flirting with him, yes, but I also have moral standards that he is aware of. Call me a prude if you will, but I am saving myself for marriage. He knows this, but yet he still engages in sexual innuendos and hints at it.

Which I understand, I mean, he's a boy and all, but I'm just concerned that if I encourage his sexual talk, he'll actually try to get me to put out, which he knows I won't. We've sat down at the beginning of our relationship and I made it very clear where I stood on that topic and I also made it clear that I wouldn't ever change my mind.

So...where do I find the happy medium? I want him to be happy with the level of affection in the relationship, however, I also don't want to compromise my integrity *just* to keep him around. I'm about 99% positive that I didn't phrase any of this correctly and you'll all think I'm evil, but hopefully someone can see what I'm asking.

It's a bit of an awkward situation, I know, but any ideas?

[TheWaitingOne]

If you're acting like you don't love him, whenever he shows you any attention... what do you think is going to happen. Now I'm not saying, have sex, I'm saying, people need attention and affection, to feel important. If he's complaining that he's not getting that anymore from you, then you'll turn into the women that only ignores him, and eventually he'll look for the feeling of importance somewhere else...

You two need to sit down and talk out how you two are going to get that feeling of importance from each other..

[prophecy]

what a sorryass boyfriend. can't get a decent girl who would please him like a *normal human being.*

[Asker]

So...what you're saying is...he's not a good boyfriend and I'm not a good girlfriend?

[prophecy]

i'm not saying he's a bad boyfriend, I'm saying that he's incompetent to find a woman who acts like a normal human being.

and you, you're right, you're not a good girlfriend. you're neglecting him sexually. maybe in your frigid and prudish world that was created by your sicko parents that doesn't appear important but to a normal guy having sex with his girlfriend is a necessity.

you're being cruel and inhuman. he's suffering and you're standing by doing nothing about it. you should be ashamed.

[Asker]

That is the oddest argument I have ever heard and I am not convinced. He and I SHARE the same views on sex, so your argument is invalid.