Why doesn't my boyfriend flirt with me anymore?

[Anonymous]

what's wrong? is he not attracted to me anymore. I was thinking what's happening and last night when we were talking he brought it up, saying that we haven't even flirted with each other for a while (he is away so we talk online) and when I agree he quickly dismisses it. I mean we talk a lot , we argue more I know he still cares but its like he is not attracted to me. I think I am attractive, other guys drool but he doesn't even see me

[Alessus]

The only way to be sure is to ask the man himself. But you do realize that there are different periods in relationships right? The start is usually where most things are good and happy and you flirt and be romantic and the like. But after starts the period when you know each other now, you have come to terms with the fact that the other person is your girl/boyfriend now and the other person has somehow become "common" in everyday life. That's usually the period that tears through marriages these days. When that glamour of the first period fades away, some people can't stick it out after all that love professing. Have you been together for long now? If you haven't, then it might just be that he found the thrill in getting you and now that you are his, he doesn't feel the thrill anymore. But it could of course be something entirely different and as I said, only the man himself knows the true answer to your question.

[Asker]

about 6 months.

[Alessus]

Then I'd say it's more likely to be my first theory.

[Asker]

alot of people said that we are in the "comfort zone" stage now but it feels weird because a few months ago they would have to pry us away from each other. I am not use to the long term relationships, so its even harder for me and now we argue very often

[Alessus]

Yeah, that's exactly what this is and exactly the reason marriages get broken these days. People do it, not realizing that the rose stage can only last so long. This is usually the make-or-break pahse of a relationship and there is nothing we can really advice you to do because these things are always different. But I'd advice you not to overreact on the thing at least, if of course you want the relationship to hold.

[Asker]

sigh. thanks though

[MrOracle]

Like the other folks said, "flirting" is normally something that's done early on in a relationship, but as you get together and start getting more serious, that tends to fade and is replaced by other things. That's normal and it happens to everyone.

The bottom line is that it sounds like you'd like more attention from him, and to feel desired by him, sexually and otherwise. Tell him THAT. He's not going to "flirt" because you're well past that stage, but he can still do plenty of things to show that he is paying attention to you and that he desires you, but you have to use those words, so he understands what you are looking for.

[rebekkaherin]

I feel the same way. My boyfriend and I are long distance (2 hrs apart) and all we do these days is fight. He doesn't flirt with me or make sexual comments anymore. When I send nudes he doesn't typically respond, just acts like I never sent them. I don't know what to do, it feels like we're almost not together anymore and he gets mad when I ask why he's acting differently.

[CrystalMinds]

How long have you been together? After a while, some people think flirting isn't necessary anymore because the other person is already "won over", they already know there's interest.

Maybe if you see him or if you talk to him, start flirting again, if he doesn't react to it, tell him you miss the flirting and you wanna do it more often.

[lovematters]

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[serious]

He is your boyfriend so why does he have to flirt with you? I mean he loves you and he shows that in his own ways so why is flirting required here

[Anonymous]

Time to spice things up. Act a bit more mysterious, spend less time together for a little while so he wants you more, act less clingy and change your appearance a little bit.

[taz8686]

Take a small break and see if he comes back

and try spicing things up , do different things he might be bored doing the same old stuff

[Anonymous]

He is used to you that’s all, people get complacent after awhile, it’s not unusual

[NATesque]

You need to ask

[In_Trance]

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