I have a boyfriend but I can't stop flirting?

[Anonymous]

I like when men notice me and tell me I'm pretty, hot, etc... I really like the attention I get. I want to stop cause I know many people consider it like cheating but I feel so good when people find me hot / notice me that i can't.

[blissfullpassions]

1. If you can't be emotionally invested in your boyfriend then maybe its not the right time for you to have a boyfriend.
2. If he doesn't compliment/pay attention to you enough let him know that.
3. If you are not satisfied with your boyfriend and you only feel good when tons of people compliment you maybe you should talk to someone...
4. I hope it all works out for the best. Good luck!

[Asker]

1 I love him, I just like all the attention I get, I like flirting and knowing that I can seduce lots of men.
2 I told him but he just tell me that he warned me before we begin to date and that I shouldn't bored him with that
3 It's what I do here XD But do you mean someone in particular?
4 thanks :)

[blissfullpassions]

Oh okay lol Well I meant like a psychologist or something. If this current relationship your in fails and so does the next one because of the flirting.. then you may need to talk to someone thats a professional. You're welcome! :)

[Asker]

I always flirted a lot. I don't think I need to talk to a professional it's just I like to seduce / flirt / being noticed.

[blissfullpassions]

Yes, but if it messes up your relationships then maybe you need to figure out why you need so much attention.

[Asker]

It give me confidence. I feel like someone notice me and that I'm not just another girl. I was very shy when I was a kids and I was always the kids who people never remember the name. it wasn't pleasing.

[blissfullpassions]

I can understand what you mean. But! You are noticed! You have so many people who love you including your boyfriend. Do you want to lose him?

[Asker]

No, I don't i really don't. It's for that I try to stop flirting with so many guys. He's much more important than all the others

[blissfullpassions]

Thats great that you say that! Think about how much you love/like him! If he's worth it you will slow down.

[Asker]

I hope thanks for your advice :)

[blissfullpassions]

You're very welcome! Good luck!

[pr3ttybr0wn]

when you become more confident in yourself you won't need to flirt around for validation. just KNOWING ur the shit will be enough satisfaction for you.

just think about how itll make ur boyfriend look if people know his girlfriend is going around flirting. you'll make him look like a fool

[Asker]

Really? It's will be more about me I think, they would consider me like a slut / whore. Not him really.

[Riri214]

Then girl be single or get a guy that won't care about that. Or as long he doesn't find out "you like it".

[Asker]

He doesn't find out but he's being suspicious.

[Riri214]

Then be careful. If you really like him just talk to him, but if he is just like any other boy I would just end it before it gets into a huge situation. But if he really like you he would understand

[Asker]

What to you mean by huge situation? Dumping me?

[Riri214]

Yeah but not necessarily, maybe just problems in the relationship

[Asker]

So I should just talk to him about it?

[Riri214]

I would say it's the best option, but that's your decision. Just don't mention you like it, say things like: they make you feel more confident and good about yourself. Because if you say you like it, he'll get jealous and protective, I know cause I have many guy friends that complain about that. It's just not healthy in a relationship if you want it to last.

[Asker]

The problem is that if I tell him I would have to say to him that I dress very sexy when he's not with me then or should I keep it shut?

[Riri214]

No no no don't say that

[Riri214]

He'll think he isn't enough

[Asker]

So it's better if i say nothing about it then. just that I sometime flirt?

[Anonymous]

how far do you go with flirting to know you are not leading someone else on? you don't know how someone might react if you suddenly say sorry i've got a boyfriend.

Also, what would be your reaction if your boyfriend was enjoying the attention he got from other women?

just be careful

[Asker]

It's like giving compliment, dancing sexy at club and all but I never kissed another guy. It's like flirting and seducing other guys.
They would just walk away no? It's just for fun.

I wouldn't like it.

[Opinion Owner]

i don't see anything wrong with light flirting, as it's usually just harmless fun.

be careful though or you'll get a reputation as a prick teaser.

[Twin2814]

try this. tell your boyfriend that you like to be complimented and you know that getting compliments from others is bad for buisness. but... how about asking him if he would constantly compliment you. maybe that would help and you would feel better about your relationship

[Asker]

He isn't the one to give compliment, he's more of the "though" guys and like to act all cold.

[Twin2814]

honestly then. id either say to break up with him. or make it clear that you dont want compliments so constantly.

acting cold? not complimenting. its just my opinion... but he meeds to grow up and take care of his girl.

if someone isn't fully active with their girl... with compliments... talking... and poking fun at each other is all healthy and needed.

if he isn't satisfying your needs you should let him go

[Asker]

I love him and before dating him I had know how he was. Not the one to expressing his feelings, etc...
I don't want to leave him really.

[Twin2814]

then dont. its all your decision. but just know that constant flirting might not go well with him

[Asker]

I know. Do you think he ll leave me if he learn it?

[Twin2814]

i couldnt really tell you. it all depends on how much flirting actually happens and who its coming from.

[Asker]

Everyday, everywhere. I dress sexy everyday (crop top, short shorts, tight skirt, high heels, showing cleavage, legging and bodycon dress). I flirt with guys in my class, when I order food, in the groceries shop. I do flirt a lot.

[Twin2814]

then its you that has to change. it is honestly a huge huge shame. but guys now a days... most of them... are pigs and will drool over girls right in front of them. so honestly. its all on you. you need to make a decision. continue flirting. or dont.

[Asker]

I want to stop but like I said I feel a need to do it. When I stop I feel bad and lost confidence.

[Twin2814]

im sorry. but its what it is

[Navibern]

You're disrespecting him. Would you be ok if he did the same?

[Asker]

No, it's for that I try to stop

[Katherine3110hun]

Ask if he's okay with that. Explain why you want it and that it's important to you.

[Anonymous]

All humans like being desirable as long as you have boundaries than who cares if other people consider it cheating.

[Asker]

So if I go out in club alone and flirt with guys it's ok? It's not cheating?

[Opinion Owner]

It's not cheating

[Opinion Owner]

If you man goes out to club with his mates and not you, do you think they're piercing and interacting with chicks?

[Opinion Owner]

Opps not Piercing 🙄... perving 🙂

[Asker]

He don't go to club alone, i'm always with him. The problem is that I do flirt a lot but I'm very possessive over him.

[Opinion Owner]

I've always been a flirt, it's my nature, my husband is very possessive but if I wasn't getting male attention I'd be depressed.

[Asker]

I'm the same.
Does it disturbing him? How did he react to this?

[Opinion Owner]

It doesn't when he's with me, he knows it's part of my personality to bask in attention. But when he's not with me it plays on his mind.

[Asker]

I always do it when he's not with me. when he's with me I never flirt.

[Opinion Owner]

My nature is interactive I don't change it much it's me. I possibly let it go further when hubby's not around but it's pretty much still me :) just more of me.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

See i have that problem but just naturally flirty lol the struggles

[Breathtaking]

I get that as long as your faithful it's not a major issue

[Asker]

Thanks :)
I'm faithful, it's just flirting.

[Breathtaking]

I don't see a major issue I'm like that too TBH I don't know why

[Asker]

Maybe because it's flattering that people find you attractive? For me it's that

[Breathtaking]

Maybe or I'm just insane or something 😂

[Anonymous]

Flirting is harmless, it's not cheating and most people do it.

[Asker]

I don't want to hurt him, if he find out (and he's suspicious nowadays).

[Opinion Owner]

So? It's flirting. It's not wrong, you haven't cheated and he's doing the same.

[Anonymous]

there's nothing wrong with getting attention.. however, if you cheat, then that's a problem. getting attention is not cheating

[Asker]

I just get lot of attention and flirt (I never kissed another guy than my boyfriend, just flirting).

[Opinion Owner]

right, and that's ok. that's not cheating.. as long as you're not CHEATING

[Opinion Owner]

although, i personally find you fake

[Asker]

Fake? Why?

[Opinion Owner]

the way you're coming off as, you just come off as fake

[AutumnPotato]

try to think of how you would feel if he did the same with other girls.

[Nik1hil]

Find someonewho does not finds it offensive

[Anonymous]

why do you even have a man tho

[Asker]

I love him and we have good time together

[Opinion Owner]

But you clearly don't love him to the extent of being committed lmao

[Asker]

We're committed... It been months we're committed.

[Viranda]

You don't love him then.

[Asker]

I love him but I also love the attention i get

[Viranda]

Oh... that seems like a problem but a fun problem, I mean, I think I would laugh if that happened to me I mean I'm high.

[Annawaldord]

If you don't actually don't cheat then it's cool

[Anonymous]

Try to control yourself

[LastNightmare]

that's good sign

[Anonymous]

You are a slut

[Asker]

I'm not I just like the attention I get.

[giggleswilmington]

How would you like your boyfriend to tell you that and even if you are okay with that how long do you really see the relationship lasting.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah actually you are even if it's just an attention one.

[Asker]

@giggleswilmington What do you mean?
I want my relationship to last so it's for that I'm trying to stop flirting because I know it can get bad and he even might leave me.

[Asker]

I don't sleep with them, I only flirt. It's not because I dress sexy and flirt that Im a slut. A cheater surely (to some people) but not a slut.

[giggleswilmington]

If you truly care about him or at least about having your "boy toy" make the selfless choice.

[Asker]

@giggleswilmington He's isn't my boy toy... Anyway you mean stop all flirting?
And if someone give me a compliment I shouldn't make them one too?