Asked a girl out... but she said possibly?

Question

I know this isn't a good sign but I don't know if I should ask her out again... I mean I didn't get a straight answer. I feel that she likes me because of the way she acts different around me and other people. But what do you guys think? Should I ask her out again or stop because she isn't interested?

Thanks!

tomfeltonforever · Accepted Answer

I'll list some possibilities.

1) Even though society is more progressive and more accepting of women now, a lot of women are raised in a society where the men make the decisions. They're used to him driving, picking where they're going out to eat, when they're getting proposed to... A lot of things. Also, women tend to compromise more because of how society is. She probably wants YOU to say I want to go out with YOU rather than would YOU like to go out with me. Then she'll give you her answer straight out without beating around the bush when she knows you're expecting a good answer. I mean, don't tell her that you're going to go out with her and that's is because that's a little misogynistic, but just make it more of a yes or no thing.

2) Maybe she's not sure if she likes you and only you. Maybe she likes someone else as well. Or doesn't want to be tied down for some reason because she's just busy with other things. Maybe there's something about YOU that she's really not sure of yet that you have no idea about. Girls have bizarre standards as well- I really don't think I could date someone whose political views strongly differ from mine or if they criticize my taste in music since I'm kind of a musician myself.

3) Perhaps she's one of those people who are unsure and fickle about everything. I'd try to avoid these people because in the end they tend to be flakey. Maybe one day she'll wake up and just want to be friends if it actually works out or is all of the sudden afraid of commitment. It's best to leave this type of person alone because they don't have their opinions set straight or have particular goals. It's good to be go with the flow, but you also need to have things you're sure about in life.

BrighteyedAsh · Accepted Answer

When I met my boyfriend, on a dating site in our case, I was booked for a second date with someone. When he asked me out I told him maybe and that I had a second date with someone and didn't want to commit to a date in case the second date with the other guy worked out that would cause me to have to cancel. He continued talking to me and getting to know me. (Not because I didn't like him in my case, but because I didn't want to accidentally disappoint him.) the other guy ended up having to cancel. My boyfriend, upon hearing this, asked me if I was upset, I told him no, because I wasn't emotionally invested. An hour afterward, he asked me out for lunch the very next day at a restaurant he knew from asking me was one I really liked. I loved his tactful brand of persistence, and answered, "Of course!". We went out and clicked immediately and it wasn't long, a few dates after, that we decided to be officially an item. That was 3 months ago.

Keep it low key, give it a few days, and suggest a place that she's mentioned liking. It's easy to say yes to a date with a guy who shows: 1. He likes you enough to try asking again. 2. He listened during convos and chose a date that he knows you'd enjoy.

As much as some guys are worried about being 'too aggressive' because of responses from the past being negative, sometimes, you have to remember that the future is not absolute. You never know until you try. Don't skip the chance and then always regret that and wonder how it would have went. As I always say, "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."

ashleybeans · Accepted Answer

Girls are VERY tricky.. but honestly if she says "possibly" that means she's kinda interested in you but afraid to admit it.. maybe there's something holding her back? My only suggestion is woo her be persistant... If a girl is 100 percent not into you.. she probably won't give you the time of day, she'll avoid you like the plague and not feel guilty about it... but if this girl is giving you a chance, giving you a maybe, and still talking to you.. you STILL have a chance :D so go after her!

you can woo a girl to be into you lol if she's a bit interested you can make her more interested by making some moves :D

prophecy · Accepted Answer

listen, kid;

you've made a typical mistake - you literally asked her if she'd go out with you. wrong.

golden rule #23904833:

women don't wanna make decisions when it comes to guys, they like to obey

remember this for life.

the point is; don't ask "so ashley, would you go on a date with me?" but tell her "so ashley, listen... let's go on a date. next week, Monday, 6PM, I'm gonna pick you up."

so, try again, this time *tell her* to go on a date with you, and if she says no, then move on and forget about her.

TedStar · Accepted Answer

The ball is in her side of the court. If she is interested in you she will get back to you. If you feel that you may have been ambiguos then you should wait a couple of weeks and instead of traditionally asking her out you should rather invite her to some event on a specific day (e.g. Movies, concert, amusement park) that you were going to go to. If she says yes you date. If not you still going to have a day of fun.

toulouse · Answer

ok. definitely do not 'tell' her what she's doing. some people on here might like to take orders but there's absolutely no reason to assume she does.

if she already said possibly that means he's thinking about it. or wants to be nice. giving her orders is NOT going to win you over to her/.

i wouldn't ask again anytime soon.

leave her be for a few weeks. if she comes to u, great. if not you can ask once more, but don't assume she's playing hard to get. its disrespectful and not going to go over well with women who know who they are-qhihc is most.

possibly is not a fake answer. its the answer she gave u, if you don't like it you don't have to see her. you don't get t decide if its real or not though. it is the answer she gave you.

whackedout101 · Answer

Hm. Depends on how you asked her out. I mean, if a girl says possibly, that could just easily mean that she's trying to say 'no' in a less harsh way. Let's face it, girls tend to think giving a straight-forward 'no' would be too mean . . . when in reality not giving you a real answer is still cruel. Anyway, if you're really interested in this girl, I'd just be confident about it and say, "So . . . you didn't give me a REAL answer to my question the other day. You. Me. Dinner. 6. Yeah?" Obviously not exactly like that but don't be shy about it. That's a turn off because girls LOVED to be chased. That's kind of what makes it fun to like people in the first place, I think. You can either do that or you can just avoid her for a week and then see what happens but in my own opinion, I think relationships work best when you're honest from the get-go.

wendykoul · Answer

"Possibly" means she is shy and also she wants you to know she just doesn't say yes to anyone. In other words, she's a great catch. I'd wait about 2 weeks and then ask her out again. She will say yes. You don't want to ask her out too soon because you want her to realize you yourself are also a great catch and so you also don't look needy. Remember this: WOMEN WANT TO BE HUNTED. You are the hunter. We want you to pursue us. It makes us feel sexy and worthy. Now Go Get Her Tiger!

luigi · Answer

ask her again, but this time have a plan like, ask her if there are any movies out that she would like to see and then ask her to the movies, or bowling, laser tag or something interesting

having a plan can make the world of difference

ya_ya_ask_already · Answer

You should ask her out again, but in the same tone she answered you. Make a joke of it, but still show you're interest. Like coyly smile and say, "Soooo ... would you possiblly go out with me this weekend to _____?" And then suggest something she likes you do. If I were her, I'd find this kind of response really smooth because you remembered specifically how she answered you and your also suggesting something she'd like to do.

BelladeVegas · Answer

Keep the friendship cool, no rush you will see signs if she also interested in someone else, no worries, there will be a chance to ask her again, there's nothing wrong or shame about it. If she's not interested, well my friend moved on because a third...Nah, definitely she will push you away ...But friendship is very important.

theINSECUREone · Answer

She's not being straight forward with you. Perhaps it's because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I used to say this when I knew I wasn't ready for a relationship.

Don't ask her out again, I suggest you move on for now, see if she'll come around then. If not then you'll know the truth.

Racez · Answer

Yes, ask her again. Perhaps she's still new about the dating world, and wants to take it slowly. "Possibly" is a sign of interest though it's not a straight answer.

kheserthorpe · Answer

Did you ask her out in a vague way or on a specific date?

britannny · Answer

I don't think she's interested.  Don't bother with it.  She's just being passive aggressive about rejecting you.

6Paul11 · Answer

When a girl says possibly, it means maybe. Maybe almost always means no.

8Oclock · Answer

No, she's just not into you. Be cool, friendly. If she changes her mind, she can ask you. Go after someone else.

punkfightergal · Answer

*DON'T* ask her out again. Really. A girl who says "possibly" to a date is not into you, trust me.

Mike999 · Answer

Ladies are full of contradictions, you never know, she just might be interested in going out with you, don't sign yourself off yet, ;)

Anonymous · Answer

Don't ask her out again

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe she isn't interested..

Anonymous · Answer

Yes= yes No= no Maybe= no Possibly= no

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