I asked a girl out and she said "ill think about it"?

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So I've been talking to my coworker every now and then when it's not busy at work. One day she decided to ask me about my life what I wanted to do where I went to high school, felt like I was being interviewed lmao. I started liking her because she gave me attention. About 3 weeks ago she's like hey favorite person I came here to bug you. When she said that a gave me a boost of confidence that she liked me. Later that day I got off at 7pm and when I clocked out she asked for her break. She sits next to me (I'm waiting for my ride) and says once more I came here to bug you. there's some small talk and then I tell myself this is the perfect time to ask her out. I asked if she wanted to go see Thor and she says when? I tell her whenever you can and she says I'll think about it. I'm curious to hear what anyone thinks of this. Maybe I was too optimistic.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Nah, don’t let the “ill think about” have you thinking it’s a flat out no!!!

It’s a chance at an oppertunity mate, use it!! You’ve got the usually hard part out the way, ASKING.. and letting her know you’re interested (hopefully you made it clear this is a date lol), now you’re free to be flirtatious and have fun with future moves.

“Still thinking of how you’re gonna bug your favorite person when we go see Thor” ...

Anything like that, that’s slightly corny but you can come up with something, make it as if she has already accepted, have fun with it.

Good luck bro

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

Well, with an answer like that you should probably rescind the offer.
Just she actually know you even mean it as a date? The way you describe it still sounds like it could just be two pals hanging out.

Also, movies are a bad first date. You can't talk. Ask her out to dinner, the whole date is just you two talking about flirting and getting to know each other... not staring at a screen for two hours. That's a relationship type of date.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If you want it to be a date make sure you implicitly tell her you want it to be a date. I’ve had guy friends ask me “hey you wanna go see a movie?” and i agreed thinking it was strictly platonic, not realizing they liked me, and then I felt bad for hurting them when I told them I just wanted to be friends because they thought there was something more going on there. Make your interests clear!!! 😊

Mirandagrow · Accepted Answer

Too vague when you asked her. Too open a question. She probably isn't interested in you like that. Be upfront or you will get lost in obscurity.

On a related note, if you like her, the movies is way too soon as a first date. Should have started with drinks or something more casual depending on your age.

GeminiHa · Accepted Answer

Hmm does she think it's a date or not? If you didn't tell her as in its a date it would be just like a get together

Pegases · Answer

Keep it moving. No offense to the girl, or women in general, but rarely do most women go out of their way to tell a guy if she is genuinely interested for several reasons that I won't get into. Long story short, you're likely to waste your time waiting. It's similiar to how most women never know where they want to eat. No shade, but its just their nature. So either run your best game, or move on man.

MusicMayhem · Answer

Girls are scared of confrontation. She couldn't say no to your face so she went with something vague in the hope you'd forget about it and move on. The girls you want to date are the ones that are really excited to see you, the others might go on one date for a free meal or do something if they have nothing else on.

Browneye57 · Answer

Dating at work is a fail. When it all blows up, and it will, one or both of you will be looking for a new job. There's even a saying for this - "Don't shit where you eat."

"I'll think about it" means she's not that into you. If she was she'd say 'yes'. But she didn't, she keeps you at arms length. And this is why you need other options. So spin plates, lots of them, date around, have lots of women you see. This way you won't be so desperate for ONE.

dandaman62 · Answer

mention you're going anyway and go so you talk about the movie and get a chance to say "next time". make a specific time too, don't seem too open.

LegateLanius · Answer

Best thing to do is to not care about it. Don't get your hopes up. I'll think about it usually means she is thinking about a good way to reject your proposal. Next time, give a definite date and time. It makes you sound more confident.

Iamaguy4real · Answer

Most guys who are saying no is because They're not trying hard enough. Keep insisting with her that you want to go with her. She'll come through or tell you flat out nah.

Presidentt · Answer

Never ever ask a girl out. Ignore them. They go nuts for you if you ignore them... They will ask you out.. Do not pay attention to her. Focus on a friend of hers instead... Trust me!

Prime_Sol · Answer

didn't read past your title. Pass on that. If she can't give you an excited yes, it's an utter waste of time. Don't play yourself.

ThisAndThat · Answer

My answer to her would have been. Yes for sure, you go ahead and that about that while I'm thinking about this other girl. And I would mean it too.

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

She's not that interested man, sorry. Good luck out there.

ChronicThinker · Answer

Yeah that's a no.

Stamps · Answer

It translates to ''No'' in most scenarios.

Tyberius · Answer

Add to the FAQ You are screwed dude

Sixgun77 · Answer

In my experience that's a no.

HamAndCheese · Answer

That's a no.

Lumberman53 · Answer

She might say yes

Big_King101 · Answer

It means no.

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