Your obsessing over this girl now, because she's *safe*.
You're obviously not going to pursue her, or ask her out. So your social anxiety doesn't get to kick in. You can fantasise all these crazy things, and build her up in your mind into this perfect girl. And you'll never have to deal with the reality - that she's not all that, and that she isn't this perfect girl for you.
Meanwhile, perfectly good girls who are in fact just as good as her, and who might be showing you interest - well, you're ignoring them.
You think you're ignoring them because you're so in love with this other girl. But that's not actually true.
You're ignoring them, because they are real, and represent the chance to ask a girl out (and possibly be rejected). And your social anxiety is not going to let you confront that.
The best advice anyone could give you right now, is to fight the anxiety, and make a move on thes other girls you say "There's a lot of girls trying to get with me now"
Stop and think for a second - because your first instinct is going to immediately be "But I don't want those other girls"
That's your fear and anxiety talking, just in a different voice.
If you *genuinely* weren't speaking from fear, you could prove it by asking one of those girls out, and just going on a few casual dates and then after two or three dates simply tell her you're not feeling it, and break up.
But I suspect you're seriously avoiding the possibility of other relationships because you haven't dealt with the root cause - your fear and social anxiety issues.
If it would help convince you to try, I'd suggest that if you're seen to date other girls and have a good time with them, then it will go a long way to prevent your crush from thinking of you as a stalker. And it might make her find you more attractive. Women are often more attracted to a guy who is liked by other girls, rather than a single obsessive loner who doesn't date.
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Look man move on, I know it hurts. It's damaging you pretty bad bro. You more than likely have a another girl wanting to go out with you. You are to focused on your ex to even realize it. 8 months is a long time my man. Your obsessed with turning kind of stalkish. Her friends are not looking at you as feeling sorry, this long and its pathetic your still this way over her. Look forget her find a another girl. Just forget her move on with your life man. Get involved with community activities I know I'm crazy you'll meet a girl at one of those. Your probably a gamer but trust me if your waiting for a gamer girl. Most time their taken or lesbians you'll have turn one to get one. I know the woman I wanted to date I made her in to a gamer. I don't want to date her now., she turn in to a big fat world of warcraft chick. I mean loike 400 lbs anyway good luck man
first off, take deep breath. Just because they've been together for a while does not mean they've had sex. Some people can be friends and happy for the person because they value the person over themselves and what they want. I know you think it'll kill you but it's really for the best. He's graduated and I'm guessing you're a junior or a senior. They are not going to get married. They will break up sooner or later. Just be there for her AS A FRIEND when that happens. She liked you once so you'll always have a special more than friends place in her heart. She can like you again. The game is not over. If you ever meet him, be polite. had a guy friend who fought a lot with my ex boyfriend when we were together, It just made me uncomfortable and hurt all three of us. Talk to her every day and show her how awesome you are. Be friends. This other guy at my school tried to talk to me a lot when I had a boyfriend last year. I didn't think of him that way so I didn't really pay attention. But my relationship went sour over the summer and when school restarted, the guy I had barely noticed the year before became my everything. I was chasing him and we dated briefly and are still friends now. So be friends. Girls want a guy they know well more than they want some random guy who's liked them forever. The more you talk and laugh together, the better shot you've got. It is possible for a girl to develop feelings for someone else while they are dating. Make sure you don't get too too far into the friend zone. Be her friend but if she friend zones you make sure she knows you still like her. Be yourself and don't worry. Things have a way of working out for the best. Good luck! Message me how it goes.
High school kids can be like that sometimes. They want one person one minute, and the next day, they're interested in someone else.
You're only 17 years old. This isn't the end of the world. How many happily married couples that have been together for years and years do you know that met at age 17? Probably not very many. Just about everyone gets their heart broken at some point. And then they get over it and find someone else. Most people don't find "the one" when they're in high school.
It'll be ok.
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