Steps to becoming his Girlfriend!

Question

So we've all heard those questions of does he like me how can I get him to like me but I barely found any on actually becoming someone's girlfriend. So how can we ladies get you guys to ask us out sooner? What signs should we show what can we do to show you we can be the girlfriend you've always wanted? And answers like "have sex with him" is not a good answer because most of the time you end up being a friends with benefits so please help us out guys what makes you want to ask out a girl you've had your eye on?

kholland65 · Accepted Answer

Here are some ways:

1. Ask us out...why play a game of chicken. This is the 21st century, you wanted equality, now you got it. It's fare game for you to initiate the idea of dating.

2. Stop dropping super subtle hints. Hints don't work. I find the main reason is really not that we aren't seeing the hints, but that we dont' trust them. Girls flirt like its going out of style. I could have a girl practically suck my d*** and I still wouldn't think much of it. So when you simply sit next to me , compliment me, text me, etc. I might think there is a chance you like me, but I'm not going to believe it. This is what happens when girls use flirting as a means to get things from men. They water it down when they actually want a BF.

3. Be friendly. I find that the girls who get all the guys aren't always the hottest ones. They are the ones who don't just sit in the corner and look pretty but actually open up a dialog with guys. The truth is no matter how hot you are, most guys are not going to just walk across the room to a stranger and start chatting you up. You'll be waiting a long time if that's how you expect to find a BF. Guys go after girls who are like a friend (partially there is so much friendzoning), so the trick is to start off by simply just becoming friends with the guy. Just don't get too close and act like one of his guys. Still be sure you still act like one of the girls. I dated a girl once who I normally might not have asked out. But she was really friendly with me at a party and suggested we exchange numbers. It was all down hill form there.

4. Don't get involved in drama. You'd be surprised how easily men are annoyed by women. When all you do is complain, bitch, moan, start rumors, about work, your friends, your ex's, etc. we stop wanting to be around you. I realize you need a place to vent, but that's what your girlfriends are for, not us guys. We don't care about how your ex was a douche and how your friend bought the same dress as you for prom.

5. Don't be a slut. Lots of guys talk about wanting a girl who is sexual, but what they really want is a girl who is sexual with only them. Sleeping with 5 guys in a month to prove you have a sex drive is not earning you any browny points. It's like seeing a brand new car and the dealership, then all of a sudden it shows up with a bunch of dirt on it and your told a bunch of people when a drove it and busted it up. All of a sudden you don't want it as bad anymore.

6. Be kind. Nobody likes a bitch. Simple as that. Bossy type A girls are a turn off to most guys.

7. Don't be self entitled. Too many women have been trained to expect special treatment, especially from their BF. They put no effort, affection, money, etc. into the relationship. They just want to be pampered without ever returning the favor. Guys who sense you have the princess complex will run away, fast. We want a girl who is a queen to our king, not a queen to our servant. Guys need to be shown love too.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Step 1.

Make it clear that you are interested in him and would like to get to know him better. The goal isn't to get a relationship (yet), but a date. The purpose of the date is to get to know him and have some time to ask a lot of questions to see how compatible you might be with him, and vice versa. It usually takes several dates to get enough information, but often only one date to find any major deal-breakers. Anyway, you need to either come right out and TELL him, or you need to drop super-obvious, hit-him-over-the-head-with-it hints that you like him. That will give most guys the confidence to ask a girl out (or tell her he's not interested).

Step 2.

On your first date, sex is going to come up. It always does. Be positive about sex when you talk about it, but also make sure you mention that you don't have sex outside of official, committed relationships. Set the expectation EARLY about that. That way, if all he wants is sex, he'll know up-front that he's wasting his time and yours. Better to have him lose interest and drift away than to string you along hoping you'll change your mind, or worse, to get you to break that rule and sleep with him only to have him dump you once he's gotten some.

Step 3.

If the dates continue, keep talking about compatibility, and make sure you are realistic about his answers (and yours). No matter how much you like the guy, if there are deal-breakers, end it before you get attached. Make sure that you'll be able to find a compromise for any problem areas you discover (and that means you'll have to give some ground, and so will he). If you can't find a compromise, you won't have a future.

Step 4.

If you make it to the 4th date, you should know each other well enough (having spent the first few dates talking a lot about your values, goals, wants, needs, and responsibilities) that your confidence in the relationship should be high, and he should feel the same way. At this point, you are well on your way to "official status." Depending on the guy, it might take a week or a couple of months to get there, but very few guys who don't really want a relationship will still be involved with you past this point, when they know that they won't be getting sex before there's a real relationship. If things keep going, the relationship isn't far off.

SteelyMcBeam · Answer

"So how can we ladies get you guys to ask us out sooner?"

Short Answer:

You cannot. It's impossible to force a guy to ask you out. The only way you can possibly get a guy to ask you out is by straight up asking/telling him to make a move (aka asking him to ask you out). And yet that's actually the fastest way.

Long Answer:

Pretend for a moment that you are a guy, much like myself. For me personally, I find 60% of women I see physically attractive. In terms of psychological and mental attraction that drops to about 15% or less *probably*. Now pretend you are not sure if a girl is interested in you or not, but you kind of like her (physically and maybe even psychologically/mentally). For all intents and purposes let's say you consider yourself the average guy and are not sure if this girl finds you attractive (However, you are pretty sure that you are NOT unattractive). You also know the following: guys who give girls unwanted attention are creepy. Are you willing to risk making a move given that the girl has shown no signs that she likes you and will tell all of her friends a story about how you were creepy one day? You could just try asking her; but then you will just wind up labeled as another creep if you are wrong and then nobody who associates with said girl will want to be with you. Do you want to be "just another creep" just because you risked asking a girl out, or do you want to be thought of higher than that? Unless this girl is giving me VERY DIRECT signs that she wants me to make a move, I would not want to risk my respectable non-creep status.

"What signs should we show what can we do to show you we can be the girlfriend you've always wanted?"

Either you ARE the girl we have always wanted or you ARE NOT. I personally favor girls who have a lot in common with me, but some guys might not want that (for whatever reasons). Are you a girl has more in common with me than any other girl out there? If not do you have some sort of really strong overlap where we do connect? Are you fun to hang out with? I'm interested in finding a girl I intend to share a large portion of my life with -it's imperative that we are extremely comfortable around each other in all kinds of environments and situations if this is to last for the long haul. Dating is great to find out if people are compatible. Sex is something only compatible people should do (that being said, if a girl never wanted to sleep with me I'd never want to marry her -she's the last girl I'll ever get close to after all!).

"what makes you want to ask out a girl you've had your eye on?"

The closest I've come to asking a girl out (outside of online dating) is when I asked a girl if she had any brothers or sisters, any pets, and any boyfriend. She blew me off with a questionable response "I wasn't sure until now, but yes". Anyway, I thought she had a few RARE things in common with me (we studied Japanese, shared the same heritage in our blood, and we both were entering the same industry).

asdaven · Answer

You are correct in that having sex with a guy right away leads to FWBs and not a relationship. Thing is guys want to have sex bad, really bad. Its a tension that's built up in us that is relieved when we have sex. So, yes a guy will like you for having sex with him, but its not in the way or the type of attention you want. So, even if a guy says he ll love you forever if you have sex with him, if you give it up too easily or too quick, he will subconsciously put you in the "slut" category, even if you arent, and you will be there on seen by him as someone to have sex with and not day and

Less respectable in his eyes. Personally I want a girl who is respectable and I can trust since many girls have been dishonest and cheated in the past. Show your an honest, caring, affectionate, nice person. Show your best personality qualities. So many women try to use sex and act slutty in hopes of getting a boyfriend. Wrong! That gets a one night stand or at most, FWBs. To guys, women we want to date, we want to see that you have more to you than just your looks or sexiness. Just act like a lady, show you have intelligence, and that you would make a good girlfriend that would take care of your man in more than just a sexual way. So, in a simple way, women who act like sex objects, tend to get treated that way. The women who act like ladies with intellectual and personal substance get boyfriends.

abzence · Answer

I guess you have to show him that you have more to offer than just sex. If he feels that you would be a fun person to hang around with, that have similar humor, values and outlook on life then he will probably see more potential in you as a girlfriend.

Mrcdinis · Answer

be different then the rest of the world... Acts just like your self and you'll get his attention, because no guy likes a "basic" girl (except 'one night' occasions) that looks or acts the same as the others. Although, no one like a hysterical girl that can only embarrass him privately or publicly.

But there will be someone who doesn't approach these characteristics and might enjoy them. Like women, every guy is different.

Yeahhbro · Answer

be friendly and show that you want to be with us. Warning: If he doesn't like you physically there is no body in earth that is going to make him like you.

Anonymous · Answer

After a while and if you think he might like you then he prabobly does. Be straightforward with him and don't be scared a lot of guys are shy and want to know that the girl likes them first. Before they say anything.

Lucifatianu · Answer

As beautiful as you are, you can just walk up to him and tell him that you two are now boyfriend and girlfriend, he won't argue.

Anonymous · Answer

show him that you have more to offer than just sex.

Anonymous · Answer

you don't have to do much. You just have to be the hot girl in your profile pic.

Racez · Answer

Be the first to ask him out to a date.

305boi · Answer

Do not lie at all!

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