Is he just very interested and direct or too needy/clingy?

[rockchick123]

So met a guy online, hit it off, emaling all day then texting all day for about a week and then met up...all good, we get on great and have the same interests and humour etc... but he is very direct in being very interested in me, texts me every day including in the morning first thing...he seems keen to learn all about me, asking questions and wanting to talk nearly all the time and to wait only a few days before meeting up again...is this a bad or good sign in peoples experiences, I do think he's very sweet but am not used to guys being like this and unsure if he's just really excited about me/us or is really just insecure/needy, I'm hoping this will all calm down...also do people think there are "rules" about moving so fast (like after 1/2weeks only) or can people really connect in that way straight away and feel strongly about the other person? thanks.

[Anonymous]

I had a very similar experience with my ex. We met one night while I was out with my friends and then he sent me a message the following day. He messaged me every day for like a week until we finally met up for our first date. He seemed really eager to get to know me and I was very flattered by the attention. After our first date, we went out again like two more times that same week and eventually we started seeing each other every few days. We had what we both thought was instant chemistry and attraction--we really seemed to hit it off. I thought that we just had an amazing connection and that we were smitten with each other. He was super sweet, kind and attentive at first but after a few months that began to change. Now a few years later in retrospect, I realize that he came on too strong too fast, but I just didn't see the signs, or rather I did but I didn't want to believe them. He wanted to take up all of my free time and ended up being pretty controlling. Not saying that this guy is the same, but take it from someone that fell into the arms of a needy/ possessive guy, be careful!

[acka72]

Neediness: controls your whereabouts. Is jealous when you talk to or interact with other men. Doesn't like you to choose your hobbies over him. Doesn't like it when you have friends and a life of your own. Talks about how lonely he is and how you are the only one who completes him. Talks bad about his exes. He doesn't have a life ie. Friends, hobbies and a job.

He finds you special: he calls you daily and he wants to be with you. If this is the case and you still like him even if he is taking too much initiative give him a chance.

[worzt]

THIS! is not the amout of attention he gives you, is the KIND of interest he shows, I bet lots of girls would love a man who truly cares and thinks of you all the time, as long as it is done properly, if he is not jealous or controlling what would be the problem? I am generally laid back and cold but I can be VERY cheesy (not needy) with THE right girl

[why-makoto-kun]

Depends on how much you like him, or your personal speed preference. Be careful though, because guys who move too fast may end up being controlling in the end, not liking you for YOU. That being said, I do believe in strong chemistry too. If it's too much, tell him you want to slow it down.

[goodguysfinishlast]

i would tend to agree. If he is around the same age as you, he should not be to aggressive in the beginning of the relationship. He is giving the impression that he is needy and insecure. Moving to fast can blow the interest off from the other and then it goes downhill from there. If you like this person, talk to him. Tell him although you really enjoy his finer qualities, he needs to slow down a bit if this is what you want.

Its like they say - Fine wine, takes time. So take a breather with him every now and again.

Good luck...

[Racez]

It seems he's too needy/clingy, and looks like he has no life.

He must also have a definite purpose in life, and attend more to his well-being.

[Anonymous]

For me that would be annoying... he is coming on too strong and seems needy... as soon as you tell him to back off a bit he's going to get super butthurt... I know this type... been there, done that!

[Anonymous]

well.. lets imagine he is insecure and needy.. what now ? how are you ging to deal with that ?

[Anonymous]

Cut him some slack. If you feel uncomfortable, just tell him to slow down a bit.