I met a guy on bumble over 3 years ago when he was visiting NYC but didn’t get chance to meet in person, he lives in UK. We kept in touch mainly normal conversations but also a lot of sexting and sexual video chats. We just met in person we stayed in same hotel and slept in bed together, he slept naked as he usually does. We got along great and like him. There was no physical contact other than hug. No PDA or kissing. He was really respectful. When saying goodbye ended up crying felt the dissappointment of meeting someone good and not working out. He said I’m an amazing person and was like don’t cry I’ll start crying. I later explained over text why I was crying and he said he didn’t want to ruin things and mess with my emotions as was having great time by getting physical. He said it didn’t feel right felt like if did get physical was using me and couldn’t do that to me. I’m ok with nothing happening cause I would have gotten more attached and hurt. He said I’m an amazing pure heart and good person and really enjoyed my company. He’s been protective and checking on how I am doing and since meeting he’s initiating contact daily. We are friends. Relationship not possible regardless of anything cause of the distance. Just wondering if he was at all physically attracted? He does seem more emotionally invested since meeting me.
Is he just emotionally interested and nothing else?
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He would be interested if the distance wasn't an issue by the sounds of it and didn't want to feel like he had used you for sex and you both felt a deeper bond grow from it when you can't be together because of the distance unless one of you makes the decision to move it's not gonna work. respect to the guy.
Thank you, for sure I appreciate his respectfulness.
If he had slept with you, this post would have read something like 'I met a great guy, we had sex but due to the distance he said it would never work out and I feel used. Why couldn't he have stopped? why couldn't he have not allowed it to get so far sexually?'
You've met a rare type of guy that has self control but those sexual video chats aren't doing you any favors.
Thank you, yeah there will definitely be no more sexual stuff since what happened in meeting.