How are people able to remain emotionally detached at work?

[BlyEty56]

For example I know this coworker for 2 years now and he is very quiet and polite and helpful but his girlfriend works at our job and I have heard some stuff about him here and there like what his interests are but I still know next to nothing about him. He manages to come to work almost every day and stay quiet and detached emotionally from work and so I have been pondering about him recently. Thinking I wish I had whatever skill he has to be able to not attach to the jobplace.

Its like I can't help but form my identity as a person based on people i know including acquaintances from my job.

I am just sick of it. I hate how I can't emotionally detach. i have tried but I am extremely empathic - it means I feel and recongize others' every little emotion very easily just from as small an interaction as glancing in their eyes and those emotions make me insecure. If I see a negative emotion, I start feeling like that person feels such and such a way about me and I take it personally on some deep level. I hate it. I feel like I am doing life wrong. How do I detach?

[SueShe]

This is not something that is so easily achieved because you take everything almost personal. Empathy is nice to have to a certain extend but when it overrules the other emotions, then it becomes a problem rather than to be beneficial.

You are probably the type of person that takes every criticism against you very seriously, even if this criticism is meant to be constructive. You see it as a personal insult or attack rather than an attempt to help you see where a problem lies.

You can only detach emotionally from work when you learn to accept that others don't automatically mean to hurt you emotionally when they give you a constructive criticism. You absorb other people's feelings as if they were your own and that is harming you on the long run.

If you are unable to distance yourself from others' feelings, then you should perhaps seek the help of a specialist that can coach your emotions. Good luck.

[Imkass]

I’m kinda like this myself at work during lunch or break everyone’s Loud and im just in my own world just on my phone or trying to relax before getting back to work but another reason why is I never talk unless I’m spoken to that is how I was raised

[Guy13]

It’s Business. Act like it. Speak about Business. Worked towards successful Business. Stay out of others people life. This is not difficult. Find the Will to do it.

[domenico07]

It’s work. You’re not there to make friends necessarily

[ArtemisSilver]

Sounds like you're in the wrong line of work tbh

[BlyEty56]

Can you explain please