I want to know why women look disgusted by me when I try to talk to them
Girls do you feel disgusted when an ugly guy approaches you?
It may not be the way you look, but the way you talk and present yourself. For example you could have a nice face, and nice hair, and whatnot, but if you hunch, and spit a lot while you talk or have something in your teeth, or have an accidental (bugger hanging out, food stuck to your face, dry skin and crusty stuff around your mouth) then that could very well be your issue. Sometimes its as much as a pimple that looks like it's about to explode. Smell and hygiene have a lot to do with whether a person finds another person attractive (sexual or non-sexual way). The topic of conversation, and the way you speak could be a factor too.
Also, the girls you are speaking to in question may be another problem. Its true that they can just be extraordinarily shallow and find you disgusting, and so what, you don't need that kind of attitude anyway. It could aslo be that you're trying to talk to them at a time where they have so much on their plate, that you aren't worth the time.
If you're looking for things that disgust me, I'll be a little harsh but it's the truth. If they smell, have greasy hair, really long uncleaned hair, dirty fingernails, nasty teeth, really really pimply, and not taking care of the pimples.. just letting them stay and explode randomly. That stuff disgusts me. Doesn't matter if you're attractive or not (although anyone that's attractive isn't disgusting by definition), I would be grossed out. While the long hair is a personal taste (I don't like guys with long hair), everything else is your basic hygiene. If a guy has bad hygiene, I immediately transpose that onto his living conditions (dirty dishes in the sink, nasty bathroom) even if its not fair the guy in question.
Presentation is everything when meeting someone for the first time/ trying to pick girls up.
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At face value, no. I'm not opposed to being approached by guys and it's actually quite flattering.
The issue is with the approach. Typically, in my experience, if you are an "ugly" guy the way you approach can come across as creepy/desperate because you don't possess confidence, don't have GOOD practice with girls and thus have poor game. That, or in a very inappropriate way that invades my personal space and makes me feel uncomfortable/repulsed as a result. Other points have been made about politeness and things like spitting & smell.
I don't need you to be polite. I need you to be engaging, showing that though you may not be STUNNING that you can hold a good and interesting conversation with me, don't take yourself too seriously, don't NEED me and have the potential to offer up something more. Humour and friendliness is often the way to go but SOOO many guys do that wrong and become crass, overbearing, puppydoggish, appear desperate/needy etc.
The reason why women look disgusted by you is not solely down to looks. This can be improved with dressing well, deodorant, posture etc.
As long as you're not Quasimodo, practising with girls and realising it's not such a big deal will help you immensely. Don't just approach a few girls. Get into a habit of approaching girls you find attractive randomly and starting conversations. See what works for you and what doesn't, and know when to back off.
Happy hunting. <3
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Maybe it's your approach. I wouldn't act disgusted even if I found the guy unattractive. That is, unless he did something outwardly disgusting toward me (rude hand gestures, excessive staring at my chest, talking down to me, etc.).
Sometimes it helps if you approach a girl and make it obvious you don't want her. Weird, I know. But it's a psychological thing- if a girl thinks a guy doesn't want her, no matter how unattractive she finds him to be, she will still try to gain his attention. Women, eh?
I love the refreshing honesty from some of the girls here! Finally.
I've often thought bs when I've read answers from girls such as "It's your looks that peak our curiosity but it's your personality that matters, so even though you are ugly you still have a chance"
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She may be nervous. Sometimes people do stupid things when they're nervous. Try talking to her and see how she acts...if they like you, they'll do anything they can to be around you
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Ive had a really really ugly guy come up to me in the bar and ask he to dance. I was polite back to him., but then tried to avoid him. it made me feel REALLY REALLY bad about myself.. like, is that all I can get, that is seriously all who's gonna hit on me is some smegal looking dude. Do you think you are ugly? is that why? we can't tell because you don't have a pic!
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I don't know if I'd use the word "disgusted", but I would say that I don't enjoy getting approached by men I don't find attractive. I'm sure other women feel the same way and it may show on their faces. Personally, I don't think the man in question is in the wrong, he couldn't possibly know he's not my type before trying, but I know not everyone is so considerate. Hang in there, you'll find a woman who likes you eventually. "Different strokes for different folks!"
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It depends on the situation and how you approach. If a guy approaches me drunk even if he's good looking I'll feel disgusted and creeped out.
Same again if I'm in a bad mood, or the guy interrupts something important, so might not even have anything to do with you.
Might be the type of women you talk to, if they think they're all that and act like bitches then it has nothing to do with you -
no I just think what's wrong with me >> lol but on the serious side if I'm single and a guy come up to me in a respectful way I have no issue talking to him or giving him my number. I dint think my boyfriend in the pic was good looking as I was hoping for but we been together 8 wonderful year, about to get married this year and he is a damn good man. looks not important. now he's not drop dead gorgeous but he so cute. hehe
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Define 'ugly'. Everyone has their own perception of what ugly is, and nobody likes the same type of person. Personally, in the past, I have fallen for guys who my friends found ugly. And I was completely into them because of their personality. So yea, maybe it has something to do with your personality?A little more info about you will help, as well as a description of what you look like.
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Some guys are not attractive but can hold conversations and know how to have a good time. I am too old to be basing people off their looks. Just let your personality shine through your presence and they will be attracted to you. Also be very confident when approaching them that'll help my last boyfriend was not drop dead gorgeous whereas I am yet he got me because of his confidence, charm and personality I advice you to do the same. Ever heard the story of beauty and the Beast
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I think it's just that they don't find you attractive but I doubt they're disgusted by your presence. Don't be so harsh on yourself!
Ugly or not, I feel flattered if a guy comes and speaks to me because I know it took them a lot of courage to do so. I wouldn't show disgust, probably only disappointment if I didn't find the guy sexually attractive. I think the girls you talk to are just stuck up. -
I don't feel disgusted. I feel quite flattered but of course I'm going to wish the guy would have been more attractive. Either way I'm sure you're not ugly. You just more than likely choose to approach snobs.
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Solely by looks, no. But in my experience, most guys who are ugly use a very sleazy or clingy approach. That creates some expectation of ugly guys, so if they turn out to charming, that's appreciated even more.
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It is your approach. I am usually shock or surprise. You might want to smile at me first and see if I smile back. If I do, then you can approach. I don't like surprise horny guys. It is not what you look like, it is how you approach!
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Annoyed or apprehensive.most ugly guys are annoying when approaching you and it's hard to get them away from you without causing a scene
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I don't think I really have the right to answer this considering my not good looking myself, but meh approach if you want I don't typically turn people away based on looks. It depends on how you act and what you are approaching me for.
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No I don't. Even if a guy is not good looking, I try to be as polite as I can be. I talk to them the way I would talk to a good looking one. Looks really don't matter to me. It's the personality that matters and I like funny guys.
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Maybe they don't feel comfortable when someone they don't know speak to them. I don't think it got to do with your looks. I won't feel disgusted if someone approach me as long as he doesn't have the lusty look
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It's probably more the WAY you approach a girl rather than your attractiveness. Because most girls don't feel "disgusted" if an "ugly" guy approaches them. Actually most girls feel flattered if any guy approaches them.
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I'm not disgusted when any guy approaches me.If I'm interested,I speak to him...if I'm not ...I STLL speak to him and let him know he isn't my type.Easy Peasy.
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So being completely honest, it makes my self esteem go down a little because I assume that the guy think that we're the same level of attractiveness otherwise he wouldn't have approached me. On the same hand, I can tell when attractive guys think they're all that and kind of have an attitude, that turns me way off.
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I try never to be mean, I'm not an appearance first person either. But ugly but with a nice attitude or something, I wouldn't be digusted by. But rude and ugly? Gtfo. Lol.
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It depends how the way he approach me.If he was being polite and humble,then Its fine.The worst thing is if they were being rude and inappropriate.I met some though and I never understand why.
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No not at all. That would be so disgusting of me to do that to the guy...
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