Shy girl sending mixed signals. I don't know what to do.

[Anonymous]

Okay so here's the deal. I have liked her for a very long time. It seems that she's aware. She's really shy. We don't talk much, but when we do she brightens up and talks a lot esp about our common interests. But this happens very seldom.most of the time she's awkward around me. She touches me from time to time like in the shoulders or something when she wants somethng from me. Sometimes I feel like she's avoiding me. We don't talk when we're with common friends. Oftentimes we exchange glances and most of it she looks away when I look back. Or sometimes out of reflexes I do thr looking away part. She smiles at me from time to time, she acts weird like asking me same random question over and over again. She laughs at my jokes even when they're not directed at her (like joking in a group and she happens to be there.) and she repeats the punchlines of my jokes. Her sister(w/c is a lot like my best friend), teases me to her from time to time. And everybody in our circle of friends know so we're kinda awkward with each other when we're together with them (as they tease from time to time).. Anyway, she's giving me a hard time figuring her out as she's sending mixed signals.. It's driving me crazy. I just wanna know if she feels the same w/o asking her directly.

[Anonymous]

Aww.. This is a cute story..

And speaking from experience I can 100%say maybe she likes you ...lol..kidding.

All the signs are there.

Dont worry she likes u.

She's probably nervous acting around you because she's not sure if the feelings are mutual. And never mind the fact that when you two are together that everybodies watching every move or word or silly thing you guys do. She's probably a but uncomfortable with that. Maybe not wanting to look a certain way amongst You guys friends. Or embarrass herself.

It's crazy cause I feel at times if I looked my crush directly in the eye he's gonna know how much I want him...but it's sad cause you really want them to know. But, only if you know he likes you too. Lmao. I know it's complicated just know she does like u. She just trying to avoid discomfort for you two by not engaging in the looks well at least to long.. And be all goofy girl in love type ya know.. Playing it cool so to speak. Anyway don't drive yourself crazy, she likes u. Just help her out a bit, reciprocate a little. Make it easier for her, if you like her too.. :-)

I really wish you luck.

[Asker]

Thanks for the honest and timely answer! I really appreciate it.. Anyway I guess whe wouldn't be wondering if "the feeling is mutual" since she already knows that I like her. Her friends told me that she knows and I think it has been a year since she knew. (Even tho I have had feelings for her for 3 years now and counting) ..

A little background about me. I'm pretty average, or we could say that I'm not very good looking. But I sing and play instruments (musician). I have very low self esteem

[Anonymous]

She sounds like she's nervous. It sounds like she's interested but she's just really shy. Do you initiate conversations with her? Don't let her do all the work, its nerve wracking already. She reminds me a lot of myself. I used to act like that with the guy I like or liked. idk. that's not important. anyway, it seems pretty obvious that she's interested, but I know how you feel. there's always that doubt in your mind that makes you unsure about how they feel since they haven't admitted it. Just keep talking to her and try to make her feel comfortable with you. Talk to her about anything. Once she's comfortable with you, ask her to hang out, just you two together. It takes the pressure off of her since it'll be just you two. I felt kind of awkward talking to my crush when there was people around. it was so much easier when it was just me and him. so just try it. or, you can just tell her how you feel and hopefully, she'll be honest and tell you she feels the same. good luck. :D

[Asker]

Hi! Thanks a lot! Hahaha I mean really. Uhm yeah most of the time I initiate the conversations even if it's about random things. I mean I'm a bit shy myself but I try my best. She sometimes initiates conversation but only if she REALLY needs something for me or wants to ask something. Also there came a point where I kinda just got tired talking to her since before she couldn't talk to me comftably and would only answer one-liners or only yes and no. :/

[Asker]

From me* sorry I have low tolerance to typo errors :)

[Opinion Owner]

Aww. Haha she probably has a hard time making conversation. I do that too. Don't give up on her if you really like her. You have to be patient with shy people. She'll eventually open up.

[Asker]

Thanks! Yup I'm taking it slow. But planning on doing something special for her birthday tho I don't know if I should

[Opinion Owner]

Are you planning to her out or something? Go for it! :D

[Asker]

No, just going to tell her how I feel. Even if she knows already, she might need to hear it from me

[various]

Okay, being a shy girl myself in the past, the only solution to your problem is to be straight forward. Trust me. I was obviously so shy to even approach a man (especially when I was in high school) and if there was a guy who showed interest, they never really did anything about it because (I assume) I was giving them mixed signals. ANYWAYS, if there's even a hint of attraction from her end, you should go for it. I am sure she will be very grateful for your effort.

I highly doubt she will reject you because it sounds like she likes you too. So go ahead and tell her how you feel, ask her out for a coffee date or maybe a casual hangout. Either way, come clean and let her know!

[Asker]

Thanks for the response. I'm gonna do something on her birthday.. She already knows that I like her but if anything I think she needs to hear it directly from me

[various]

I am glad that you will! And also, thanks for BA. :)

[WizeGuy2350]

You don't know what to do? Try asking her for her phone number. If she gives it to you, call her up and ask her out on a date. If you get an enthusiastic "yes," take her out and show her a good time. If you get a lame excuse, take it as a "no." After you've done all that, you'll know exactly where you stand with her.

[Asker]

I have her number. We're friends. Like really we're not strangers.. But we text seldomly as I'm pretty busy and so is she. And I think she prefers personal talk over txt/call tho as do i.

[WizeGuy2350]

That's why you keep the phone calls short and just use the phone for setting up dates. Regardless, ask her out if you're interested. The longer you stay in the "friend zone," the less likely it is that she'll think of you any other way.

[Asker]

She knows I like her though and she has avoided me when she knew sl I'm def not in the friend zone

[RealDeal]

Just ask her out on a date already... You say she laughs @ your jokes so ask her to go for dinner...

"I'm taking you out on a date, won't take no for an answer... Or you can keep giving me those bedroom eyes like you do"... Sounds like a joke but isn't.

[ladyinred4]

It does sound like she does like you. Especiall with her being shy. If she already knows you like her and she didnt, she most likely wouldn't smile and laugh. All said, you can't read her mind though. Just ask her to hang out, text her and see how you two get along.

[Asker]

Thanks dude. I'm already in thr observation stage but not making any unnecesary moves

[Effy94]

Ask her out already. The only times I behave like a retard is when I really like a guy but I'm not quite sure how he feels about me. So, ask her out, if she can't express her feelings do it first so she feels less awkward around you and then you'll know where she stands. And I bet she is probably wondering if you like her and thinking you are sending her mixed signals.

[Holly958]

She feels the same believe me I'm that girl in my group she likes you probably a lot more than you think please go for it with her a subtle move like a touch or an extra smile try talking to her more maybe slip in something about her love life if she's interested in someone just to feel the situation out. Then please ask her its painful to be waiting for the guy to notice haha.

[cheesesteak7]

Sounds exactly like a girl I know. I asked her out. She said no. So don't buy into all this positive stuff people are saying, as crappy as it sounds for me to say.

My advice? Do something about it.

[cheesesteak7]

now that I think of it, sounds exactly like two girls I know and have been rejected by... wtf girls...

[orangasing]

You are reading wrong way.i just told you she doesn't want to rule you in.you are the one who rule Ourself.thats the truth.wveryone always describe it looks girl is interested t.dont hope too much.

[Anonymous]

It seems like she likes you or else she wouldn't be awkward around you and since she's shy, like you said, this might be her way of showing you that she does so just ask her out or at least tell her how you feel

[Laetron]

Mixed signals, aka, she likes you but is setting herself up to save face in case you don't reciprocate. Go for it.

[knockssudwn33]

STEP UP TO HER. ASK HER TO THE MOVIES..TELL HER You NEED A FRIEND!

[Anonymous]

I think you need to take the first step and ask her out.

[Anonymous]

You should ask her out