Girls, would you approach a guy at the library?

[bladesdragon3]

I’m a fairly good looking, but shy and unsocial person. In order to meet other people I am forcing myself to go to public places. Long walks through town and dinning alone have produced zero acquaintances over the past few years and as I get older I feel even more discouraged. Lately I’ve been spending about an hour every Saturday at the library. Researching various topics so it’s not a complete waste of time. I have yet to see anyone my own age (who doesn’t have a child) as of yet and I wonder if a person would even approach someone at a library. Honestly it seems somewhat rude to me. Although I do not spend the time deeply reading anything. Would you approach a guy, or would you leave them alone?

[LoveandWisdom]

I would approach the guy if I knew him or if he was doing something that interested me than I would go up to him and approach him. As for approaching a guy in the library, I might sit next to him and make a conversation with him for a few minutes and stop so I do not distract others in the library. Most of the time in the library I do research so I would most likely be distracted unless I took a break.

I am a quiet person myself and I have found that if you want people to notice you have to approach them and introduce yourself and ask them what they are up to. By having small conversations with people it builds up into a relationship over time. At the end of a conversation, be sure to ask for the phone number if you are interested in the person as a friend or as a girlfriend. Remember some things from the conversations and bring them up in later conversations. If you do not put yourself out their nobody will notice you so you have to take risks and approach people and have simple conversations with them. At first, it is difficult but with practice you will get better.

When this aspect of your life gets better, it will allow you to approach woman and help you to muster the courage to ask them out. It also will make woman notice you more. Remember this for every person you meet their is an opportunity that can be gained or lost depending on if your willing to take a risk. The people who take the most risk in life know they can gain a lot more in life than if they did not take the risk in the first place.

[Chilly12]

Well honestly if you were at the library or not it doesn't matter where you are, you just need to start a conversation or at least say hi! And I am a very very shy person myself but I've leaned even saying hi can take you far! Please answer my question! Thanks

[1995girl]

sometimes I want to approach guys, even in the library, but I'm also shy and I always get scared that they would think I'm weird. but if he looks at me and smiles, than I wouldn't feel too scared of approaching him.

[MikeK]

Pphh.. a girl almost NEVER approaches a guy (in any place)...

but at a library? smh... you're DREAMING my friend ;)

[bladesdragon3]

You got a better place in mind?

[MikeK]

Basically anywhere except there I'm afraid...

[Seek81]

no, why should it be?

Simply approach them when they're not busy and ask them about the book, or a genre of books.

[MaskofInsanity]

While I'm a competent socialiser, I am completely hopeless at initiating conversations/etc with strangers. I can't imagine ever being confident enough to approach a guy - though I have definitely wanted to!

[MissDerpyWhooves]

I am too shy and love to read so I would leave him alone because of my shyness and I understand that interrupting someone who is reading is rude.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't, because I usually only go to the library to study or research, and I would personally rather not be disturbed. Unless someone is offering to help me with my work :-)

[Anonymous]

I sure would and I have

[moviedude714]

don't count on it

[Anonymous]

Sure I would