Girls, if you're in the library, do you like it when a guy approaches and talks to you?

[Anonymous]

The guy is a total stranger to you, and he just approached you. Would you like it when he goes on his way to talk to you?

[SensAsianalGirl]

All depends. If I'm there in intense study, then I wouldn't particularly like it. If I am there just casually doing something, then it really wouldn't bother me. I wouldn't snob him either way, but I most likely wouldn't be all for a long drawn out conversation either, especially if I'm in intense study. Chances are I would keep the exchange brief and if he tried to extend beyond what I would feel is the limit to the conversation, I would end the conversation.

If I'm just there, either just arriving, on break or getting ready to leave, I would be more receptive for conversation at those times. I would find it more flattering then while the other times I would most likely think of it as a nuisance.

[Asker]

That's quite good to the ear.

Let's say for example that you're receptive at the moment, what would be a good conversation starter for the guy?

[SensAsianalGirl]

Something neutral, nothing that's gender specific which could cause a one sided conversation to emerge. Something that both may have a common knowledge and/or interest in. Maybe a specific subject that you're both taking, a current event, a stand on a particular issue (as long as it isn't carrying strong religious or political overtones), something along those lines.

[Stacyzee]

Yes, if I'm single and very interested. I would find it flattering.

[Asker]

Let's just say you're single, but you're not that interested in the guy, would you still entertain him and see if it will lead to something?

What would also be a good conversation starter?

[Stacyzee]

I may because I am the friendly type and do not like to directly reject someone. Some other girls may do this which will give the impression to the guy that she is interested, although she is not. A way a guy can see If she is,is to cut to the chase and directly ask, "would you be interested in going out with me sometime?" If she says no then you know she was just being friendly. A good conversation starter would be to approach a girl by giving her a compliment (you can't go wrong with that)...

[Stacyzee]

And then , depending on her response. Politely introduce yourself and ask her name. You now have this girls full attention and you need to make it clear on why you walked over to her in the first place. (Ask her out directly), "hi, you are very attractive. Can I have the pleasure of taking you out sometime?" Vs. a person who strikes up a long conversation can be an annoyance to a girl who is un interested. Find out if she likes you first, then you can proceed to speak with her (but keep it short

[Stacyzee]

). Save some mystery for the date.

[Asker]

Being so direct is quite intimidating sometimes, but it really cuts off the chase.

So what you are trying to say is if I happen to walk in the library and I saw a beautiful girl, I would just approach her and compliment her? And, I would just ask her out immediately after the small introduction?

What should I do next if she said "Yes"? How about "No"? Should I still continue talking to her?

[Stacyzee]

Then you exchange numbers and say , "call you soon, or thanks, enjoy the rest of your day." If she rejects you, then say , "take care" or, "nice meeting you.". In certain situations you have to be direct, I always admire guys for this. If a girl doesn't like you she will be annoyed by you starting an entire conversation with her off of the bat, if you ask out in the beginning at least you will know if she shares an equal interest. Also, you the "chase" continues even after you get her number

[Stacyzee]

keep in mind your goal is to become official if you two hit it off.

[Daph81]

I'd like it.

Certainly beats being approached in a bar.

I love to talk about books, and I like a guy who reads, so.. yep..

Even if I don't find him attractive it would still be nice to talk about something you love and listening to other people's preferences as well.

Which now reminds me, I should hang out in libraries more often :D

[Asker]

That's good to hear from a lady.

Do you have any advice on how to approach you?

For example, I'm a total stranger, walked into the library, and found you attractive.

What's the best way to approach and engage you in a conversation?

[Daph81]

Just talk about what book I'm currently reading or holding, what I think about it, what kind of books I like.

Or if you can't start with that then pretend you're looking for something and whether I know in which section it is.

[Sugarpea]

I've always wanted a guy to approach me while I'm at the library! It makes me think he might be someone who shares my love for literature and we can have another things in common. However, he has to be careful to not look like a creep. Always keeping it casual ;)

[Asker]

That's quite encouraging for a guy.

What would not make a good look like a creep?

And, what's the best way to approach you? Any good conversation starter?

[Sugarpea]

I think that anything like: "God! I've been seeing you and you look hot" it's a no no hahahaha I guess you just to have to look like you are more interested in what she's reading that how she looks like. As an intelectual girl, we like to be appreciated for our brains and not just our looks.

I guess a good conversation starter is asking where you can find X book or what she think about the book she's checking because someone told you it was good but you are not sure, etc etc

[lauramor]

yes, specially if I'm attracted to hm but if not I will still feel flatttered.

[Asker]

Would you still entertain him for a good conversation even if you're not attracted to him?

What would be a good conversation starter?

[justbanANNAz]

i like it when a guy approaches me in general, shows he gives a sh*t, I like that:P

[Asker]

That's quite encouraging. What do you think is a good conversation starter for the guy when he approaches you?

[justbanANNAz]

asking me what I'm doing I rekon=] then id relate what I'm doing to either what I'm studying or what I enjoy reading. that way it'd start up a convo about things we like and it could go more general, like sports or hobbies etc:)

[Anonymous]

IF he is cute yes,if NOT...I may end the conversation abruptly if he wants more than just a friendly conversation.

[Asker]

Considering that he's just an average guy, would you still entertain him and see if it might lead into something?

If he's cute, what would be a good conversation starter that will engage you?

[Opinion Owner]

NO.If he is average and not my type,I will speak to him just to be friendly...but there will be a cut off point.See if it might lead to "something"?NO.I know within a few minutes whether someone is datable and if I don't think he is ATTRACTIVE...it ain't gonna happen.

If he is CUTE,he can say anything within reason to start a conversation.

[Anonymous]

It wouldn't bother me. Maybe I could get some ideas about what to read next :-)

[Asker]

Can you give me some good conversation starters that would help? :)

[Opinion Owner]

Well, anything. The section of books you're in, the books in hand, writers, whatever you're studying, whatever she is studying... on and on.

[Anonymous]

As long as he doesn't strike up a creepy conversation, I'm fine with it.

[Asker]

What would not be considered as a creepy conversation?

Also, what do you think is the best conversation that will engage you?

[Opinion Owner]

- some kinda cliche pick up lines

- just say hi and ask which books is she looking for and offer help if she needs one

[Anonymous]

yes, its always an ego boost

[Asker]

What would be the best way to approach and engage you in a conversation?

[Anonymous]

Sure why not.

[Asker]

Do you have any advice on how to approach you?

For example, I'm a total stranger, walked into the library, and found you attractive.

What's the best way to approach and engage you in a conversation?

[Opinion Owner]

Simply come and introduce yourself. Ask what class I'm studying for, stuff like that.

[Anonymous]

As long as he's not a perv

[Asker]

That's good to hear.

What could be a good conversation starter for the guy?

[Opinion Owner]

Books

[Asker]

Oh, books.

Let's say you're reading a book, I would just start to comment on that book? :)

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah. Ask what she likes to read and things.