Do girls like when you shower them with compliments?

Question

I can be really good at flirting, but at times I feel I may be over complimenting girls. Help please?

Sib999 · Accepted Answer

I'm sure most people will like a compliment or two. Careful though, it will backfire if your compliments are too frequent/intense as it's awkward and makes you come across as either fake or desperate.

I.e. if you two greet and she looks very nice, kindly let her know but don't go overboard. She'll likely either say "thank you" or awkwardly accept it somehow. Just smile back and don't add more words.

If you are really enjoying the conversation/the moment, feel free to tell her. Just don't go around the date actively thinking of compliments to shove to her face. They should come naturally, and are surely more effective if used sparingly. In short, I guess the best advice would be to just compliment when you sincerely feel like it.

justbanANNAz · Accepted Answer

hmm... I personally appreciate compliments very much but I'm terrible at replying to them because I get too embarrassed lol.

i guess one can tell when a guy is just going ott with his complimenting., then it just turns into a thought process that goes something like this:

compliment 1

*aw he's so sweet*

compliment 2

*gahh I'm getting embarrassed now:)*

compliment 3

*ok I don't know what to say now*

compliment 4

*does he even mean it?*

compliment 5

*okay dude.. just... no*

compliment 6

*yo shut the f*** up!*

somethingggg like that haha. its nice to use compliments sparingly or else they just don't mean as much anymore.

justme52196 · Accepted Answer

Well I don't get complimented much anyways but when I do it makes me feel special... so I'm not really sure how I would feel about being showered with compliments because like I said I get them rarely. But I do agree with most of the girls that if it was like over compliments I would feel like they were just trying to kiss my butt and or they weren't sincere. But I wouldn't mind getting compliments! I don't know about other girls but I don't think I could ever get told enough that I'm "beautiful" or whatever by a guy I liked... it'd make me feel special.

AmongTheApples · Accepted Answer

No. They like being complimented, but, like anything, they lose their appeal with repeated exposure, so employ one in the beginning and then use them somewhat sparingly after that.

cheesesteak7 · Accepted Answer

girls don't.  women do. (actually, OK, even women have a limit.  But they definitely seem to appreciate it more)

Ponsuke · Answer

Nope. I girl will know if you find her attractive. It makes it seem like you don't take us seriously if you're constantly talking about her looks.

conversely, even if you're complimenting her on other things as well, and you're just generally complimenting her all the time/worshiping her it makes you seem like a chauvinist. You don't really see women as your equal, but something "other-worldly" and you don't really like the girl for her, but more that she's any girl, who is talking you, and you're just turning everything about her into a reason to like her.

Most girls just wanted to be treated like humans. It's refreshing not to have a guy worship you.

RedSmartie · Answer

Depends on the girl. Some girls really like (and sometimes feel they need) to be constantly showered with compliments. Some girls only like compliments from guys that they're willing to date. Some girls (like me) feel like frequent compliments are less genuine than occasional compliments.

But as a whole, it depends on her attitude towards compliments way more than it depends on her attitude towards you.

PerpetualNerd · Answer

Some flattery is nice, but don't overdo it.

It's also best if you read into what the girl likes about herself, and dish out stuff about that. E.g. girl who is smart might be flattered if you thought she was pretty, but would prefer if you noticed she was smart.

Any compliment should be sincere, and the more creative, and context-appropriate, the better.

SunshineLelek · Answer

Meh, personally, I think it's annoying. I like a sincere compliment, but if a guy is ALWAYS giving me compliments, I may start to think he's just kissing my ass. It could come off as him not being totally 100% genuine, but him just trying to flatter me and butter me up.

lumos · Answer

No. At least I don't like it. The more compliments I get from a guy during a short period of time, the more I start to think that he's not being genuine. Less is more. Compliments are always appreciated when they're totally out of the blue and when you haven't gotten one for a while.

emzy-89 · Answer

The occasional, sincere compliment is nice. If you "shower" us with them, we'll just end up assuming that either a. you're trying to get into our pants or b. lying. I don't like compliments after compliment; it's nice to have that little surprise when you get one out of the blue.

TimTomTank · Answer

I think it's cute when guys compliment girls, and I like it, but I absolutely DESPISE when guys go overboard.

It's like dude...I get it. Can you shut up now and stop acting like I'm the first girl you've ever seen in your life?

Remember, sometimes less is more! : )

Francia · Answer

Mhm.. *thinking*

Me? Not really. In fact, I find it as an instant "turn-off" when I guy compliments me too much.

But it depends... For eg... I like when I guy compliments my personality/character and my achievements... I love to hear that.

alexakm · Answer

Me personally as a girl. I LOVE to get compliments. It just makes me feel so good about myself. But, if you say the same compliments then it gets a bit boring and there is not much to look forward to. But other wise I do not think you can over compliment a girl unless everyday you say, "you are pretty". Or something like that.

NightBlindness · Answer

Personally I feel uncomfortable if someone compliments me too much. A nice comment about what I'm wearing or my hair is fine, but anything more than that I just don't feel comfortable.

AdamThomas · Answer

Nobody likes a kiss-ass/suck-up. Compliments have much more power when you give them out sparingly.

RosaliaVanderbilt · Answer

I always think it's weird when guys over compliment.  It makes me think too much of myself in relation to this person.

upsyndrome · Answer

I don't like it. Granted many girls say they don't like it but live off that sh*t.

toulouse · Answer

a genuine compliment s nice, but no compliment at all,  is better than a fake compliment.

simplythebest · Answer

Just don't be over top or it sounds fake, be genuine with whatever compliment you give.

mike5150 · Answer

Dont over due it or else they think your just kissing there ass

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly for me it depends on the guy! If the guy is a player then it's highly probable that I won't deem his compliments true but if he is a sincere and honest guy I would accept him! Yeah I know I am an over analyzer !

yulisa · Answer

Heck no! Don't stop the compliments, complement away :) I don't really think a girl gets tired of compliments, unless your being fake.. Besides a compliment is natural you shouldn't be over thinking it.

Anonymous · Answer

I actually don't like being showered with compliments. It's feels phony and disingenuous, like they're trying to kiss my ass. I don't like that.

Anonymous · Answer

sure females are egotistical of course they like complements.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope.  Don't compliment them, because some women can be ungrateful that they look good enough to get a compliment . They never look at it like "hey I could be that girl who no one never compliments."

Anonymous · Answer

Compliments are great as long as you are genuine about it, don't go over the top.

sehash · Answer

They need to be genuine compliments or she will stop feeling "special" when you say them to her.

Anonymous · Answer

We LOVE it! But just be a little careful because over time we may begin to think you like us if you do it too much.

JamielovesKU · Answer

I like it to an extent

SamuelB · Answer

Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen.

pooper89 · Answer

2-3 compliments per date

tiredofwaiting · Answer

Most like it when you do.

Anonymous · Answer

no, overcomplimenting is bad and awkward

Luv2run · Answer

Yes! I love get in compliments

jmurk · Answer

Complimenting is a waste of time  don't do it .

Cherrylicious · Answer

It can be a turn-off if you overdo it.

kangaru · Answer

Be genuine

Anonymous · Answer

Every girl is different

Anonymous · Answer

not if its fake.

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