Is this more than a crush? It's making my stomach feel sick and he's all I think about :(

[Anonymous]

me and this guy were really close to dating, but then I ended up just wanting to be friends so it wouldn't ruin our friendship if we dated. then I started to like him again and so did he but then I messed up and told him I just wanna be friends.

were friends still, but now I know for sure that this time I won't mess anything up and I will actually date him. I'm not sure if he's ablt to commit to me anymore because I shut him down so many times.

i always make up excuses to leave the classroom just so that I can "accidently" bump into him in the hallways. I'll do this like 3 times a class EACH class. and if I don't see him all day then I get a huge stomach ache and he's the only thing on my mind.

i can't even concentrate on school work anymore.

am I just crushing hard or is there something wrong with me?

i just want him back so bad =(

also, how can I make him trust me again?

[paintballguy]

You sound just like my best friend that I fell for. I found out from her friends that she does want to date me, but she is afraid to ask me again cause I might say no. She shut me down a few times. She started to like me again and came to me and asked me to take her out. I messed up that time. I swear you sound just like her...is your name Kimberly...lol.

Anyways...just let him know how you feel. If he says no then you might try to explain why you shut him down so many times. I know that if Kimberly was to ask me right now I would hesitate some just to make sure she isn't messing with my heart, but I wouldn't and couldn't say no to her. I'm sure your guy is the same way especially if he really cared for you. Those feelings don't go away anytime quickly.

Even if he says no you have been able to remain friends and maybe you two will have a chance in the future.

[Asker]

Thankss =]

& no I'm not kimberly lol

[paintballguy]

After Kimberly shut me down the 2nd time she came to me on her own a few weeks later to explain why she shut me down. She said she was afraid that if a relationship didn't work out that she would loose our close friendship and yeah we was and still are Best Friends.

I'm telling you this cause I thought it was great...well not great but I really understood why she said no and I think that made us closer friends! We still aren't dating, but I happier than ever just to have her as my Best Friend:)

[paintballguy]

I don't think he will not want nothing to do with you if you tell him the real reason. I know Kimberly is the only girl I ever remained friends with after a failed relationship. It's just too awkward, but we made it work because we talked a lot. We had open communication about it.

I don't think we would still be Best Friends today if she hadn't told me why she no. If you two can agree to remain friends if it doesn't work out then give him a shot. He probably loves you too, but afraid to say it!

[StrykerJ]

You could always try to ask him out, it can't hurt. But with as many times as you shut him out, don't be surprised if he says no. And yes it sounds like you're in love.