I do all the cooking. I'd love for my husband to cook a meal once in a while, but I'm not sure it would be edible. My dad is the cook because he's a great cook. I think it just depends if one person is better at cooking or if both are good cooks.
So I am guessing you have learned cooking from your father, or were you naturally just gifted with cooking skills in a young age?
Some from my father, some from my mother, but mostly from experimenting in the kitchen.
That is really good that you learned how to cook in a young age, it isn't never to early to pick up a useful skill like cooking. Others wise once you grown older you would be eating out non stop. 😂
Thank you for the MHO ❤
A wife is to cook. I need a man who is the 100% breadwinner and leader masculine provider giver.
That means i stay at home and cook and bake.
Cool, I barely hear more traditional answers from men and women. Yes sometimes I also have a little traditional values as well.
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I used to cook professionally; I enjoy it, and turn out palatable meals. I don't want to do all the cooking, all the time. In my ideal world, the meal preparation would looks something like this:
Me alone: 50%
Her alone: 10%
Together: 20%
Take out/Dine In (someone else preps): 20%
I enjoy cooking for myself and others, but I also don't want it to be my "job". In my last relationship, there were some issues around this because we would be hungry at different times, and while I don't mind making food for someone else now and again, I prefer to cook mostly when I am going to do some eating. I've finished that chapter of my life where I am making food for other people, when I'm not eating anything myself.
I love cooking with my partner, I think it's fun to chat and do food prep, and come up with something special created by a mix of more than one person's efforts.
Cooking is life, most of us eat 3-4 times a day, so it's great to share that time together.
I can cook, in fact I've been told that I'm a very good cook.
The issue to be faced is that I can only cook three meals: Roast pork, roasted chicken or porkchops. Add a baked potato or rice (your choice), green beans (no alternate is available), and a garden salad- though with your choice of three dressings: ranch, blue cheese and Caesar, and you've reached the extent of the menu available under this roof.
Personally, I can survive indefinitely on those three meals, with the occasional pizza mixed in for good measure. If someone wants to eat something else, they will have to step up and prepare it.
Have you tried cooking any other sort of food, because I can definitely recommend others food that would be great to make so you aren't just limited to the same exact foods? 😯🤔
I like fish, but it's tricky to cook: two minutes too long in the pan and it goes into the trash, plus is smells up the house. This is central Florida where you can't just open a window to air the place out; it might be 100 degrees out there or pouring down rain (or both). Actually the weather was quite comfortable today... but no fish. I sent out for pizza.
Yes I definitely heard how insanely hot it be in Florida.
Preferably him but mainly because i suck at getting the meat well done and because i can't season it right. I mean im willing to take turns once he teaches me how to be better but for the most part, i have no interest in cooking. I’d just so it to be fair
Don't worry, I got you. 😉😂
@Riddler1412 i know boo 😂😘 but i promise i’ll try. It might be burnt or too salty or half done but i’ll try 😭🤣
Yes I can imagine how difficult making the correct ingredients are, especially if you accidentally risk causing a fire. That would definitely end terrible if you cause a fire
I know how to stop roll and drop it like its hot
Lol 🤣
I do almost all the cooking. I don't mind. I don't believe in a ton of overlap.
But I do want his input on what to eat, what to buy.
He tends to pick up takeout more often than I do. It's sort of like getting a present.
What types of input he usually wants you to cook?
Oooh that'd be a lot summarize. Don't really know how to answer it. We know what each other likes. Been together 21 years so most everything we know about food tastes. But once we have a lot of groceries (that's the really important part, deciding what to eat for the week), then I may ask him sometimes what he's in the mood for, which protein, which vegetable, which marinade... stuff like that.
But on the weekdays I tend not to discuss because he's swamped with work, so I just have something ready in the evenings. He's not too picky.
Is your boyfriend like a vegetarian or something? Also I can imagine how tired some it must be having to cook all that food unless you actually enjoy cooking which is also cool.
No, neither of us is. Actually when we go to restaurants (used to, before covid) the joke was that the waiters would often guess the steak was going to him but it was always mine. I love beef and chicken.
I don't dislike cooking. I like the control of knowing everything that goes into it. We find restaurant and prepackaged food quite salty. I season, but it's light on the salt for sure.
What I don't like is the arduous task of grocery shopping and deciding on and looking for new items. I rarely find anything new. I've been to all the stores so many times. And it takes on avg 1 hr 20 min in the store because buy so much. My cart is always the fullest of anyone's in the store, right to the top, something stuff falling out. So we've been doing grocery delivery, most of the time, a while after covid set in. But there's only two stores who deliver, so same old same old.
I'm more likely to be bored with food. He can eat the same stuff more often than me. But I don't like schedules, and like a lot of unpredictable variety. He'll still say, "I'm bored with food" sometimes, but he could be like, "every Wed. let's have that chicken dish you make - Hungarian Chicken" but there's no way I want a schedule. I like novelty or at least unpredictability.
But the task of cooking, I don't mind. Doesn't bother me. I have a lot of experience and knowledge.
And I am not one of these people that thinks the other person should do the cleaning up. I do most of it. But again, there's no rigidity to it. He also may tidy up after. There are no rules. I hate rules. I think of it as more my responsibility though.
My husband's not great at working with others. He likes his space. He leaves the kitchen when I'm in it. Like, races out. He doesn't like to feel physically crowded.
And he has a very short short-term memory, so I don't like giving him instructions. It's annoying because he can't remember them and I will have to repeat so I prefer I do it. (It might be cannabis-related.) It's calmer for both of us.
And like I first said, I don't think overlapping duties, or taking turns, is great. I like delineation of responsibilities more. But I've also come to the conclusion about more and more tasks because my husband is not great to work with. If he does something, he seems to think one person has to decide, or do their method, but I like discussing what the best plan will be. But with cooking, it's a no-brainer. I know cooking so it's easy for me.
Does he suffer from anxiety or shyness because I definitely know how that feels? Or is a person is a introvert or I am claustrophobic? Unless he doesn't really have any problems and mainly prefer his own company because I love being by myself sometimes as well.
He doesn't have claustrophobia for sure. Little bit of fear of heights, but it's normal anxiety level.
He's definitely an introvert.
Just to clarify something a bit - a lot of people (not necessarily you) tend to associate, or define, introverts as being antisocial. But these aren't the correct uses of the terms. (I used to work for a psychiatrist so I'm precise with medical terminology, but anyway.) Introverts can be great with people. They just need more alone time, quiet time, to recuperate after talking with others. Depending on how strong their introversion (vs. extroversion) they might peter out quickly, or some can talk for several hours, if they like the topic, or person, and the environment is calm around them.
He and I have talked many, many, hours about why he prefers to do tasks alone. Part of it could be introversion, but honestly, both of us think it's other personality traits of his.
And he's more himself with me, while understandably more controlled with work colleagues and everyone else. So his true nature, so to speak, is in full force with me. He says what irritates him more to me. Which is liberating, right, but also can be a lot to handle if you're the receiver. But this is what long-term relationships are. It's the name of the game, lol.
We both like alone time, privacy, many hours to read and think, etc. So we can be in the same room or apt. together and not feel too put-out. But even that can be claustrophobic and a bit suffocating over many years.
So there's a few things factoring in here. They're all part of the pie. We try to accommodate each other as best we can. But things do flare up. He's becoming more reactive, has more triggers, now than in his 20s. That's for sure. But I still really like the core of who he is, minus those.
Why does it have to be one or the other? Why not take turns with the cooking? Or do the cooking together? That's what I'd prefer
Good answer to hear
That's how me and the hubby did it.. I mean when he was no longer working but I still was, he did dinner more, that and he loved to cook.. I usually cooked breakfast, holidays we cooked as a family.. I really miss those days😢I mean me and my girls still cook together on holidays, but we all miss him being there with us
m I like to cook, I enjoy it... but in a relationship I'm practical, whoever has the better timing to do it should do it... or we can do it together, or I'll just do it if she doesn't know how to (which has not ever happened)
Agree! It also should be determined by who actually have the better cooking skills, no need to eat slop.
I would prefer to cook together and otherwise split it.
I'm single now, but there's 7 days a week. It doesn't need to be something only one has to do.
Also I'm very bad at routine and to do something everyday.
I tend to lose track of time a lot, I cannot even cook for myself everyday.
And yeah, I might have some depression problems.
So everyday tasks like cooking, I would prefer not to have to do that everyday.
Oh man yes I definitely agree also a person who would be incredibly busy it would be great to also split with my future lover too. Plus as a guy who is also depressed that would be a terrible thing to have while cooking.
My SO hates my cooking, so she does all the cooking for us. Sometimes I cook... just for me.
In my defense, she's not had much of my cooking. When we were dating, we were going to go out to dinner and then go to a movie. We were meeting at my place, then going out. She got stuck in traffic, and by the time she arrived late, we didn't have time for dinner. I didn't have much in my bachelor fridge, and quickly threw together some tacos so that we'd at least have something to eat. She said it was horrible, had no flavor, and ever since then, refuses to eat anything I cook.
That would depend on who's the better cook AND if said cook is willing to take on the burden of the full-time chef. For me, it seems that if both are capable, then the cooking and cleaning duties should be shared.
Understandable, I definitely think both partners should at least show a little knowledge of cooking. But I definitely also agree that not everyone is cut out for cooking meals some people are just straight up trash with handling food.
Did you enjoyed eating out every night, realistically to me I couldn't eat out every single day.
I like doing most of it but tbh we eat out a lot (well, more like takeout since the pandemic started but we still go out to eat occasionally)
I definitely couldn't imagine eating out every single day, but yes I can imagine how tired some cooking must get especially with the pandemic like you stated. 😂
I mean, I'm okay with a stove, and I already like cooking in itself. And anyways, it's nice to make your significant other feel appreciated with a meal you made for them :)
But personally, I'd like for my significant other to cook for me sometimes as well instead of the caring and the affection being one-sided and me being the only one putting effort in making the other person feel nice. I mean, it would be AMAZING to come home and see that they cooked for you; that they were thinking about you.
I prefer we do it together. I like cooking, but there's so much work to do and it's both easier and more fun to do it together.
True, it does feel nice to take turns
I don’t know how to cook
My cooking are in a survival mode
Describe survival mode? Do you mean that you just try to quickly make a sandwich.
Basic pasta no Alfredo pasta details in there , basic white rice with salt , eggs boiled / scrambled. When it comes to meat and sea food I can either boil it or fry it. Some simple salad if you want. Well no ideas of making it taste good in mouth and eyes it’s just plain food for someone to survive. You know you can NOT sit and eat what I cook and be like damn this looks good and tastes good… not going to happen. So that’s why I call it “survival food”
Oh sounds really reasonable, I definitely think eating to survive is rationally different to cooking because you actually enjoy cooking or you know good at cooking.
I wanna learn how to cook better and i plan on making a cooking show when i go into college sense I know other students like myself will need it. Practice makings perfect so i like to cook and she can help
Wow making a cooking show would be a very good thing to have especially help showing others how to cook as well
My partner needs to be the one to do the cooking. We'd both wash our own clothes. And I don't mind doing any other house chores that are left. But I SUCK at cooking and always have, so I'd need my partner to be really good at it, cause both of us dining out so often or living off sandwiches, wouldn't be good.
We both cook. Some recipes my SO has mastered, especially German and Polish. She is much better seasoning with spices. I'm a cookbook cook. I have found recipes we both like, so I cook those. I'm also better at preparing Italian.
I work full time. My wife is a housewife but she's almost burned down the kitchen on three occasions. Lol. So i cook. Made deep fried orange chicken from scratch (breaded and fried the chicken, but I buy the sauce), cooked rice and steamed dumplings in the same cooker and cooked spinach. Done In 30 minutes. #badass haha.
I'd cook once or twice per week. She can cook most other days. Friday nights we can each make stuff for ourselves so if there are any meals that we like and our partner doesn't, that is the night we get to enjoy those types of meals. Saturdays I would buy us something or go out to eat. I'd teach her how to cook if she doesn't know how.
I would prefer for us to prepare the meals together.
a 50/50 tbh. Depending on how work went that day. If I'm not drained af I'd prefer to do it. But if my day was really sh*tty I just need to unwind badly. I guess she has her ways to cheer me up and motivate me though ;)
I like to cook and especially to grill meat, but I can't do that reliability during the week (I'm a small business owner too), but I can cook one night during the week and the weekends.
I would like him to do the cooking but I wouldn’t mind pampering him and cook for him too. But usually I’m spoiled so I would like him to pamper me from time to time 🥰🥰
Me. Please I'll do it. I like cooking and I don't like when people make me food weirdly enough. I mean if you want to cook dinner sure but don't make my sandwiches I'm very particular and I'd rather just do it myself.
Cooking together is honestly great! And in the end he washes the dishes while I clean the stove and the mess on the table.
Aww you've got it all planned out 🥺 that's cute lol
As a guy, I actually really like to cook and clean for my partner.
Seeing her come home and smiling to a clean house that I cleaned, as she tastes my food and smiles at the taste. Again, just to see her smile. I don't care if it isn't manly, as long as she comes home, loves it, loves me, and smiles. I'll put on an apron and become a work-at-home husband if I really have to.
We mix it up, it’s me or her or if daughter home we make her Cinderella
I'm used to cooking so I wouldn't mind but unless she wants to cook then I would be cool
I’d be the one cooking since my boyfriend doesn't know how to make an egg let alone cooking. lol
How bad were his egg's, did he accidentally burnt the egg?
Well he tried. lol
Funny! 🤣
u My girlfriend is Chinese and she cooks some weird ass stuff like the fungus, and she puts seaweed in scrambled eggs! But her Chinese dumplings are outrageously good!
I am a student chef but I love a man who can cook. A mans food just always have that special touch added.
There should have been a third option, both of us cooking together. Depending on the dish, either I would be contributing more or she would be.
Kinda both.
I make better breakfast foods and she makes better dinner foods.
We're competing for "best appetizer".
That's an ongoing battle.
We better both be doing the cooking
Agree! Both partners should at least have some knowledge of food other wise you either be slaving away in the kitchen or you risk having no food. But unfortunately not every men or women are technically cut out to cook though.
I wouldn't mind taking turns.
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I'd rather do the cooking but it would be nice if he knew how to cook as well.
I don't like cooking so I'd rather him do it then I tidy up or prepare the ingredients. I'm still learning to cook tho but I still pray I marry a man who loves cooking
I would love to cook for him. I will find it sweet if he cooks for me too.
I'm a better cook and I make less mess when cooking
I enjoy cooking for people. But more than that I enjoy cooking with someone. So ideally it would be both of us. If not then either me or I wouldn't mind swapping.
I like being in charge in the cooking but love when my partner helps out.
My wife does most of the cooking, but it's usually simple stuff. I do the fancier stuff and we also cook together ofren.
Switch it out every now and then sometimes I cook sometimes she cooks or we'd cook together.
There isn't an option here for both to do the cooking.
It is the woman's sacred duty to work in the kitchen.
Depends on who is the better cook. I can cook.
Great skill to have
Definitely my SO because he’s waiting to cook for a living and stuff
How about both? And/or the one that loves or is great à cooking, can do if more often. Everyone should know the basics of cooking.
I don't like Cooking so my partner, But only if she likes it more than me.
The woman should do all cooking except grilling, that’s for the man.
He is better at it than me. I prefer when he does.
I'd prefer it'd be me.
I do 90% + of the food prep in our home.
Why would it have to be either or?
i prepare the ingredients, he cooks lol..
Both of us doing it together ❤
I say both so it not all on one person.
Myself but lately I'm in a cooking rut
Both learn together
Agree, it is a useful skill I don't it completely wrong to at least make a sandwich other wise you starve and wouldn't have anything to eat.
I prefer us both cooking
Doesn't matter. Take turns
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