Every man should know The Rule of Twos

[Anonymous]

When a man excessively pursues a woman, the best case scenario is a prime spot in her friendzone. More likely, you’ll ruin your own reputation when she gossips to other girls.

So here's what every MAN should do...

The Rule of Twos

“Once is a mistake, twice is a choice.”

When pursuing a girl, if she ignores, rejects, or disrespects you TWICE, you immediately walk away and never contact her again. No apologies, no goodbyes, nothing. As far as you are concerned, she no longer exists.

- If you ask for a girl’s number and she refuses twice, walk away.

- If you text a girl twice with no response, walk away.

- If she refuses plans twice (with no offer to reschedule), walk away.

- If she flakes or cancels last minute twice, walk away.

- If she shuts you down sexually twice, walk away.

- If she disrespects or belittles you twice (physically, verbally, socially), walk away.

Remember guys never chase a girl.

What do you think? ........

[_Zara_]

This is good advice, I've had a couple of guys presue me, even after I deliberately (and obviously) ignored and avoided them, which just made them look desperate and crazy. I guess girls could take note of this advice too.

[myTake Owner]

thanks it's really great to know. Mostly for men, because women usually walk away at first not second time. :)

[Damiandash312]

Just throwing this out there maybe instead of ignoring, being honest about your feelings would save many complications...

[_Zara_]

@Damiandash312 yeah, but I did tell the guys who pursued me a few times that I was busy when I could have made the time.

[RunTheRares]

I feel like that's just common sense. But that's not a given for some idiots out there.

[myTake Owner]

there are always immature boys. I was same but I learned.

[openwide]

What's your approach then? Send IOIs to girls and see which one responds, if they don't respond just move on?

[LittleSally]

Well it all depends on the situation.
If you've known her for 2 days and want to make her have sex with you in those two days - doesn't mean she's not interest, it just means she thought you weren't looking for a booty call - she thought you were looking for a girlfriend...

It all depends on the situation.

Also asking for her number - if you don't know her at all - any normal girl isn't going to give out her number to just anyone. Once she gets to know you - if she refuses - then that's something to take into consideration.

Everything else I agree with.

[asdaven]

How do you get to know a girl you don't know if you don't have her number?

[LittleSally]

Right at the time of meeting her...

[AleDeEurope]

That's what I do. I'm not gonna keep on going if after the second time she says no. Maybe the first time she wasn't sure, or she really couldn't go out, but if the second time I get the same result, then it's over, I move on.
Sometimes I even move on after the first attempt. This one girl I asked to go on a date with, accepted and the same day of the date she texted me saying she was sick. I didn't buy it, but I decided to go with it and told her it was ok and to text me whenever she felt good... never texted back. I knew from the beginning she was lying and I gave up on her right when I read the text, but I still gave her a chance to show what type of person she was.

[myTake Owner]

yeah !! ;)

[Azara]

makes sense except the sexual thing people dont always want to be touched. its not a reason to pout ands storm off. you should respect a persons space.

so why is this for men and not people., do you think women should keep persuing a guy after he does these things, twice?

[myTake Owner]

I just titled that way :) because most of men don't know that and they just keep chasing woman.

[Azara]

good reason :)

[thedevilwithin]

- If you ask for a girl’s number and she refuses twice, walk away. (AGREE)

- If you text a girl twice with no response, walk away. (A BIT DRAMATIC)

- If she refuses plans twice (with no offer to reschedule), walk away. (AGREE)

- If she flakes or cancels last minute twice, walk away. (DEPENDS...)

- If she shuts you down sexually twice, walk away. (REMEMBER SHE'S NOT A FUCKING WHORE AND DOESN'T HAVE TO PERFORM FOR YOU WHENEVER THE FUCK YOU WANT ASSHOLE)

- If she disrespects or belittles you twice (physically, verbally, socially), walk away. (AGREE, YES!!!)

Remember guys never chase a girl. (HOW ABOUT, REMEMBER GUYS ALWAYS RESPECT YOURSELVES. YOU ARE SMART, FUNNY, LOVING, CAPABLE, GROWN ASS MEN WHO DESERVE TO BE IN HAPPY LOVING RELATIONSHIPS AND TREATED WELL. JUST LIKE THE WOMEN YOU DATE DESERVE THE SAME FROM YOU.

[myTake Owner]

never write uppercase!!!

[thedevilwithin]

Hehe, I know it makes me sound super angry. I just wanted to differentiate my comments from the original text. But lesson learnt. Really liked this post, it's important to empower men and let them know they are more than that sex addicted/desperate ape-man caricature a lot of the media stereotypes them as.

[Curmudgeon]

@thedevilwithin Don't miss the point.

[thedevilwithin]

The point?

[fearful]

You've got that right. I am a shy girl and I enjoy being pursued by a guy but if I like him back after the first time I will meet him half way the next.

[myTake Owner]

yep ;)

[SilenRose]

Met a motivational speaker (for business, not relationships) who admitted to "chasing" his wife. He did it in a subtle way though. She rejected him the first couple of times he asked her out but still kept in touch with her for a year. He called her twice a month for a year and got hints from her friends on what she liked. After a year of dating guys who were her ideal guy she finally decided to give her current husband a chance.

Now I'm not saying guys should chase girls but I just wanted to mention a scenario that worked out for someone else. I also think what made the motivational speaker so persistent is that deep down he knew she would be his wife one day.

[theccanyon]

Best comment on here. I agree with the articles message but it's important to remember that rules of thumb are not hard and fast.

Thanks for sharing the story. Its super sweet!

[SilenRose]

Thanks and no problem. :)

[singlebee]

One year? Age you kidding me? One year is way too much to pursue someone.. i could find another girl in that time...
And by the way what if even after one year she doesn't give a chance? 365 days wasted completely

[myTake Owner]

365 days wasted for sure.

[SilenRose]

@singlebee and @Take Owner, First off I was just sharing a story. I wasn't telling every guy to do it because obviously this doesn't work all the time. The difference between this guy and you with every other girl you've dated is that he said he knew she would be his wife one day. That's why he pursued her. They have been married for 10 years now so it obviously wasn't a waste to him.

[Bob5555]

Give it some time. She's gonna treat him like total shit and he'll just look like an idiot for chasing that shit for that long.

[SilenRose]

@Bob5555 Wow... hating on someone who found happiness. Speaks volumes about you.

[Bob5555]

Seen it too many times. Happiness is relative though so I suppose there's some men out there that genuinely like that shit

[zombiebabe]

lol nice take! but i've always thought that guys should get the message (that she isn't interested) at once... why insist?

[myTake Owner]

Sometimes girl can be busy or have other things in mind. That's why you give her 2 chances. Take it or loose it.

[Nuqood]

Women do something called shit tests to see if the guy is spineless or not, so sometimes 'no' doesn't mean 'no' but it means "are you dominant and confident enough to both dismiss my no and still try to charm me?".

[thatkaruguy]

women are not straight forward so you can't get it at once

[zombiebabe]

@thatkaruguy you can't generalize it

[zombiebabe]

@Nuqood "shit test" lol

[thatkaruguy]

i can and i did. women in general send mix signals and shit test you could say not all women do that but honestly that doesn't matter at all because so many of them do its impossible to tell which ones dont.

[glockenspiel]

Fair enough, if I have flaked or ignored someone twice I am probably not interested. And what's worse than being pursued when you're not interested? Needless embarrassment for all involved.

[myTake Owner]

yeah that's why it's called the rule of twos :)

[openwide]

Sounds good, however I keep hearing/reading that guys have to be persistent at the beginning. What dose it mean? Guys initiate contact and if the girls don't respond favorably first or second time then just move on?

[myTake Owner]

yeah just move on. Because girl isn't interested.

[Floyd790]

I agree some women however like to play games and drag things on by ignoring texts, calls, etc. They get off on being chased.

[myTake Owner]

Never chase a girl if she's playing with you, walk away... you don't want to have that kind of girl.

[Maverickj]

Ignore those girls, they're not worth it.

[Anonymous]

It's a good general rule, but rules are simplifications of reality for people that don't want to think too hard or those times when we don't want to think too hard and analyse the complexities of each situation. Sometimes, maybe you should drop at the third time or the first time, sometimes maybe the fifth time is the charm. But most of the time two is very good for not stressing out about this stuff, so yeah I do this too. I sometimes make it three times.

[Bob5555]

If women would just come out and bluntly say they're not interested 2/3 of these problems wouldn't exist in the first place.

[Sexualchrist]

Yeah. I've been living by this for years. I pretty much invented it. I at least carried it on from whoever did.

[theccanyon]

Does it work?

[Sexualchrist]

@theccanyon no, not always. It's kind of like getting game over on a video game cause you only had two lives but you're pretty sure you could crack it if you just had three

[theccanyon]

Well said.

[Phoenix98]

Rule 1# there is only one rule don't excessively pursue women lol.

[Kiran04]

Don't walk away, RUN away. SCRAMBLE away. FLY away. GTFO. You don't want that girl. You just don't know it yet.

[myTake Owner]

hehe run run :)

[meatballs21]

Geez... I had followed a few of these with a girl I was dating without even realizing!

[myTake Owner]

damn :)

[Diego9O]

Time is gold, as in Spanish we say: la tercera la vencida.

[myTake Owner]

agree ;)

[Scrambled]

I think I would take it in context, but generally, yeah, men shouldn't waste their time persuing.

[TheGreenRanger]

Great and simple take.

The guys need to take note for sure.

[Curmudgeon]

Seems about right. "Don't waste your time"...

[myTake Owner]

yep but still I see so many guys doing that and chasing woman - boosting her ego.