Every man should know The Rule of Twos (Page 2)

[Anonymous]

there is a guy who is pursueing me non stop. he needs to read this cuz it's very clear that I0m not interest. guys are so annoying sometimes.

[myTake Owner]

share this article to him :)

[Opinion Owner]

I so will.

[OlderAndWiser]

Guys can be annoying because women can be awful with non-communications, miscommunications, and dishonest excuses. Some guys aren't bright enough to hear your little hints and determine what you were really trying to say. If the guy is a pest, you don't need to share this article; you just need to tell him that you ae not interested and to please leave you alone. Why is that difficult for so many women?

[Steve_d]

Just tell him straight, in no uncertain terms, how you feel. We generally prefer the direct method as we know where we stand and we can just get on with dealing with the situation. If he still pursues you after a no nonsense refusal, then he probably has issues which should be a big warning bell for you.

[SilenRose]

@OlderAndWiser Wow about that some guys don't take rejection well and lash out.

[OlderAndWiser]

@SilenRose "This guy might lash out at me, so I can just go ahead and tell him a lie."

1. I though women wanted men to express their feelings. Maybe that's a lie, too; women only want men to express their feelings when it's something warm and fuzzy about how wonderful you are.

2. Liars always have justifications for lying. They are still liars.

3. If you are afraid that some guy will lash out when you reject him, then do it over the phone and not in person. Did you think of that? Oh, you did and you can handle him fussing at you over the phone, either. I guess you are one of those girls who goes around saying that women are just as strong, or stronger than men emotionally.

[SilenRose]

"This guy might lash out at me, so I can just go ahead and tell him a lie." Who wrote that? Not me. And based on your response I can tell you are the type of guy to lash out at a girl for rejecting you. Why would I give my number to a guy I'm not interested in just to reject him when he calls him? Also lying? I didn't realize be subtle and respectful to the persons feelings in your rejection is considered lying. But I'm glad you like the direct approach. So I'll use it on. You're an old fart hitting on girls you don't have chance with. Stop wasting their time and chase after someone your own age. You're a 2 looking to get with a 10. Not gonna happen. You may be older but you aren't wiser. Peace.

[Anonymous]

Giving a girl two chances on most of those is overly generous. Seriously.

[dartmaul15]

it's to leave room for mistakes.
The world doesn't revolve arround you, so sometimes you have to lave room for life fucking you over...

[Opinion Owner]

MY WORLD revolves around me. In my short time on earth, I will maximize my own happiness. I am NOT going to tolerate a sub-par woman for any length of time.

Just because YOU don't value your life doesn't mean other people don't value theirs.
@dartmaul15

[jacquesvol]

I wish I had known that at 15.

[myTake Owner]

so now you know :)

[jacquesvol]

Half a century too late :)

[Octavius]

Nope. I try once and if they reject once I'm gone. Don't want to play games with immature people.

[lonerider]

come on.. every one deserves a second chance

[_Zara_]

What if she was really busy when you contacted her and forgot to reply?

[Octavius]

@_Zara_ I don't bother people when they're busy. If someone gives me a maybe answer I assume they plan on contacting me back if they have a definite yes or not.

I'm not sure why some people don't like my approach. I constantly hear about girls that hate guys that can't take a hint or say it's really obnoxious when guys hang around after already being told no.

[thatkaruguy]

@_Zara_ if she forgot to reply she wasn't serious in the first place

[myTake Owner]

if she forgets to reply she wasn't serious at all, I just move on. I give her one more message and I analyze the message.

[PromiseIllBeNice]

Never known this was a rule, but I have been doing this. Fuck a third chance

[MrZylister]

I agree, but the last point is eh... if you can tell she's clearly being sarcastic it's fine.

[sp33d]

Much of it is trivial, but the dramaqueening is not for men, but boys. That said, there are women who are worth the effort.

[openwide]

So you say there are women which value themselves much more then you and still worth your effort? What is so special about them?

[myTake Owner]

no, no woman is worth CHASING.

If you're chasing woman you're doing something wrong.

[sp33d]

Is the chase the only thing you can think of when I say there are women who are worth the effort? Truth is, women are very good at reading a man's psychology, so if a chase is what you expect, then that is what you will get.

@openwide
Almost sounded as if you are bitter about some of the girls in your past. If she has reason to, though, why not. I am not concerned who is better than who.

[openwide]

I was misreading your comment and interpreting "worth the effort" as chase.

About me being bitter, I think you are right, can't help it. I think there are women who boost their self esteem by letting men chase them, in that sense this take is spot on, if you feel that you do extra effort, like the need to call three times, then something is off and you are better without her.

[openwide]

Still not clear what "worth the effort" means.

[sp33d]

I tell her early on where I aim to get at with the dating. It takes a few dates, to get to know her enough to decide whether she is interested in a serious relationship or not. Effort is the time you take out of your busy schedule for her, but you need to decide whether she is worth that effort. Naturally she would have to resonate with me.

A rather extreme example. I met a girl few months ago, she Seemed to be a decent sort, wewent out, then I saw she liked to party a lot, we often talked about superficial topics, she is too shallow, I realized she cares about looks and material things annd while I have allthat, would I really want to put effort into her? She is as carefree as they come from wealthy families and possibly a conniving b****, though, I didn't stick round to finding out.

I don't play the facebook, instachat, text games. I don't consider it to be showing effort, such communication channels cannot surely be used for discussing relationships. If anything they are shields.

[theccanyon]

I approve this message!

[myTake Owner]

yeah just for example the girl I'm talking to she saw message on facebook. I assume she'll reply I'll wait one day
If she won't reply I won't even give her chance. Don't have time for playing games.

[diarrhea]

I thought this was gonna be about star wars

[chuppachup]

I'm living by this from now on. Nice take! :)

[myTake Owner]

you should, remember that. It'll help you to
- save your time
- girls get egoistic (manipulative)
- never chase a girl ;)

thanks :)

[john2]

Yeah I'm with this all the way lol.

[Galaxy21]

100% true, actually those are my exact same rules

[vekin]

it's not always that black and white I think

[Anonymous]

What about those guys who have managed to land their girl after pursuing for so long?

[myTake Owner]

Never purse a girl!!! If she doesn't want to go out after you give her chance (two chances) Walk away, don't be an idiot chasing her, she's not interested.

[Opinion Owner]

But surely those guys would disagree. Not saying I disagree, just those guys I speak of.

[lonerider]

in that case.. the girl viewed the guys as having lower social status and hence kept them as backup while actively looking for better guys around. When they dont find any better guys.. they "settle" for pursuers. Do you want to be someone people "settle" for because they couldnt get anyone better? Then be my guest and pursue her for years.

[Opinion Owner]

Lol dude calm yourself down. You're taking this way too seriously.

[myTake Owner]

lonerider totally agree seems like this anonymous asker doesn't have much clue at all...

[Opinion Owner]

Don't have a clue? Lol that's hilarious. It's not a hard concept to grasp. Plus lonerider seems to have had a negative experience of some sort.

[Steve_d]

Trust me, as a dude who has been around for a fair few years now. if a woman accepts a man after a lengthy pursuit, she's settling for the "insurance option"

[Marinepilot]

That makes sense.

[Bards]

Never chase a girl? LOL

[myTake Owner]

what's funny -> media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/.../...91b9a2aa0df4.jpg

[Bards]

Have fun never really trying

[myTake Owner]

Like I said The Rule of Twos!

[fulloflife]

think it should be moved to three times.

[Maverickj]

I'm not dealing with that BS, you say yes or we're out. Simple enough.

[fulloflife]

we all deserve chances

[fulloflife]

third times the charm

[myTake Owner]

2 times, no more.

[fulloflife]

None of us are prefect

[myTake Owner]

Neither have time for giving her 3 chances. That's the rule.