I have been wanting to write this myTake for a long time because I feel every girl should love herself and not let a guy anyone determine how she feels about herself.
I have to admit I am not the most confident person in the world all the times 60% of the time I am insecure about myself. But then I realize life is short and the worst thing in life at least for me is having regrets. I hope this myTake will change shy, insecure, depressed etc girls feel more confident to make the first move or just feel better about themselves.
1. Walk like you're walking in a run way
Ok, I know this may sound stupid. But this works a lot for me, believe it or not the way you walk says a lot about you.I also heard it can change your mood. Try this when your are walking around campus. Put on your earbuds and put on a song that gets you in a good mood. If you don’t know any try some Demi Lovato (Cool for the summer is my favorite)or (CONFIDENT) yeah! Anyways of course this will work if you are dressed in something you feel great and comfortable in. Why do you think all the models walk the runway with music.
2. Exercise and eat Healthy
It will get you in a good mood and make you feel better and look better.
3. Talk to people
Challenge yourself if you aren't that good at talking to people try starting a conversation with them by asking them questions. Try to keep the conversation going.Not only will this help you in the future when you want to talk to that special guy, but also it’s a great way to met new people and make friends. However don’t talk to your naborhoods drunk man!It’s all about taking baby steps, once you feel ready go for it.
4. Write all the things you love about yourself and make you beautiful in a place you see everday.
This will remind you of who you are. Don’t forget to read these before you talk to your guy!
We all know that being shy or insecure can prevent us from making a move and talking to a guy if you have never talked to him. So I decided to write a myTake that would make guys understand what shy girls would want guys to know.
So a few weeks I ago I wrote a myTake called "Everything About The Shy Girl". I received a lot of great responses from guys but also a lot of other ones where guys had a point here are a few:
Anonymous: The problem is that other people can't tell if you're shy or if you don't like them. They will not keep pressing you trying to overcome your shyness unless you are giving them indications you want the interaction. Nor should they. Nobody can read your mind. As long as shy people do a great job of acting like people who don't want to talk, they will continue to be treated like those who don't want to talk.
Dragon starterplus: The problem is the guy usually can't tell if you're shy or just not interested if you can't look at him and don't have anything to say.
Yaiza: I would like to say there are lots of guys that over think things too. I for one am one of those guys and it can be almost impossible for me to have a conversation with a girl I find cute because A) I start overthinking things and lose my nerve or B) push past the over thinking, but am so worried of making a fool of myself, I do anyways and am super awkward
What I want girls to understand is that if you are interested in a guy don’t expect them to make a move. I have to admit that in High School I was always hoping that guys I liked would be the ones to talk to me.But the truth is guys are also shy and if you don’t talk to them or at least try.If you don't they well think you are not interested. Here is what happened with a shy guy( Long story short)I noticed a guy in my English class staring at me during lunch while with my friends.We never really talked but it kept happening for years. So one day I got all the courage I could get to go up and talk to him. However all that I got from him were short answers, fast replies and nothing more. The same thing happened every time. What I am trying to say is that not every time you start a conversation will go great.But don’t worry if the guy does not try to put in effort after a few times forget about him and move on. At Least you tried take it as a learning experience.
However there are guys out there who want to talk to you but are also nervous to make a move. It is up to to you if you want to make things easier on them.Let them know you want to talk to talk to them by...talking to them. Simple huh.If you are also shy and don’t make an effort to try to talk the relationship won’t work or will never even happen.
Picture are frome Blue Spring Ride anime.
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