I know what's going on in everyone's mind: what does a 17 year old know about love? About 7 months ago I would have answered with absolutely nothing. But on October 8, 2015, my life changed forever and for the better.
My best friend set me up with a guy for our homecoming dance, because she thought we'd be good friends and have fun together. Turns out, this was a guy id had a small crush on in the 5th grade. From the first time we talked,
I knew there was something special but I didn't know what. We fell fast. Officially became an item by the beginning of November, and went strong until January 26. That date is important, but I'll get to that in a moment.
First, a question to all the guys out there. Why is it that you ridicule each other in regards to sex? Your sexualities are sacred things, and guys seem to think you need to "lose the v-card" before you gain "the man card."
A few weeks into our relationship, my boyfriend told me that he wanted to lose his virginity before his 16th birthday on Jan 27 (see where I'm going?) he said he wouldn't be a man without doing it. We argued at the time, but he promised to give me as long as I needed.
I had decided that I loved him by the New Year, because he truly is a wonderful guy. His depression gave into him the night we talked about sex, and that was where the episode emerged.
The weekend before his birthday, my boyfriend kept asking me to come over, and I knew why. I wanted to just as bad as he did. My parents however, were overprotective, didn't want me anywhere near his house. When I told him, he didn't answer me the rest of the weekend, and dumped me that Monday with no explanation. The day before his birthday.
it sounds awful but don't judge him too harshly. His depression clouded his thoughts, and his previous girlfriend had dumped him over sex. It was something that hurt him deeply.
The worst thing being, I still love him deeply even now. Even 3 months later he constantly stares at me, and gets upset when we try to talk. I can tell the feelings are there, but why does social stigma prevent him from speaking to me?
Guys, why do you feel like you can't open up to girls about your feelings, even when they truly love you? Why does virginity matter so much to you? How can these barriers be broken by the ones who love you?
It sounds silly, but people often tell us to trust our gut. And mine can say that it is being lied to. That my relationship is far from over. But why? Why are boys so hell bent on appearing macho all the time? What prevents you from showing your sensitive side, boys?
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Honestly? It's because every time we show our sensitive side someone goes and makes fun of us for it. There's no reward. Girls will 9 times out of 10 lose interest in you if you're a "warm" and friendly guy because there's apparently no "spark" which is probably actually aggression. I don't know, I haven't figure it all out yet, even now, but I think you're better off without a guy who's pressuring you for sex.
He opened to you. He told you what he wanted and you didn't give it to him so he left you. Good for you though! You did the right thing