I Stared at a Girl and She Confronted Me...

[Anonymous]

So I kept staring at this girl during class for many days, I think more than two weeks. I like her. During this time I was always happy to go to this class and see her, even when I never talked to her I was just really happy to see her. I didn't talk to her because I couldn't. I have zero social skills and talking to women makes me very nervous and anxious so talking to this girl I like was even worse, I just couldn't. Instead, I stared at her for long periods of time. I know, pathetic :/

One day she and her friend came to me (outside of class) and when I saw them getting closer I was already sweating, very nervous. She said "can we talk to you for second?" and I couldn't even answer and she said "you've been staring at me during class and I need you to stop", she wasn't talking in an angry tone but she was very confident. Then she said I was making her feel uncomfortable during class because it was very creepy what I was doing. Her friend then said "don't dare you to say you're not staring at her, I saw you too, so stop being such a creep". Then the girl I like said that if I didn't stop staring at her she would report me and her friend said she would tell everybody.

During all this I barely could talk and the only thing I said was "I'm sorry" but I'm not sure if they heard me. They left and I was very sad, I felt really ashamed. Now she thinks I'm just a creep. I swear I never meant to make her uncomfortable. The only things I fantasized was that we were walking holding hands and the other thing was that she let me touch her hair which I like it very much. Those thoughts made me really happy.

Now I try to focus on the class, I only pay attention to the class and my notebook. I promised myself to not do that to her again. I understand that all this was my fault and I deserve what they did and I'm sorry for staring at her. I thought she didn't notice it because I always looked away but I guess I'm really stupid for believing that.

I don't have a way to explain myself because I can't just tell her that it was because I like her or that I fantasized she was my girlfriend and I think she would be mad at me if I try to come close to her. And the fact that I just can't talk to her. I'm just greatful that they did it when there was nobody around and that they didn't tell anybody, it could have been very humiliating.

I just want to say to you girls that if a guy is staring at you the way I did with this girl, I know it is wrong but please don't be too hard on him, we're not all creeps, some of us are just incompetents to talk to a woman we like.

[btbc92]

Okay, allow me to explain this to you. You should only focus on what you did wrong: 'staring at a random girl in class'. For some of us, especially that are intuitive and sensitive spiritually to those things, that is VERY annoying and bothersome. That's like somebody poking and or stabbing you constantly. You may think of it as harmless, but it's not for some people. At that is why you can't just stare at people. She felt very unsafe. Had she not confronted you things could have gone a lot worse than that. She did you respectfully. And please, it doesn't matter if you like them. They don't like it.

I always had that done to me. I had one guy who I knew since he was in pre-K do that to me. He not only said he hated me, but that he wished he could kill me if he could. Meanwhile, everybody claimed that he liked me... until I told them what he really thought of me. Still stared at me, never taking his eyes off of me. I have good friends, but I make plenty of enemies because I'm different and not like them. I don't think I'm better than them. But they want to make an enemy out of me. You don't know the reason why she responded like that. In fact, I applaud her. But I don't agree with her having her friend there like that.

Plus, you don't even know her. You can't use being shy as an excuse. To me, I see that if a guy can't even try to talk to me, even though I'm not interested in dating, that he is not serious or really ready for that. Because women need's men who are assertive. There is nothing wrong with being who you are in general emotional wise. But in dating, you can't use shyness as an excuse or else the ones who can make decisions can potentially take advantage of you. Overall, I say that you need serious counseling from your school. Because that is not healthy that you never once spoke with a girl and never made female friends. That's not good for your overall growth. Not in this crazy world.

[prozmay]

It's far different if a guy who said he wished he could hear you stares at you compared to a random guy in class.

[btbc92]

@prozmay

I honestly don't care. I will go to the person and tell them to stop respectfully. When is anybody going to pay attention when a girl says STOP. Nobody cares how handsome or nice you are. All somebody wants is for that person to stop. There is no difference. If somebody wants you to stop staring, you stop staring.

[Vyxzuw]

"Had she not confronted you things could have gone a lot worse than that."
How? He suddenly would have gone crazy?

Confronting someone who is staring at you is the WORST thing you can do in that situation.
The best case is the OPers one, where he was just shy and now you mad him sad. Good job.
But below there are examples of guys who will then turn hostile. So, good job, now you made an enemy.

As you said, the guys who are staring for the wrong reasons WON'T stop.
In fact, now that they know that it upsets you, they will do it MORE.

So, confronting them will never have it end well.

What if, I dunno, instead you are friendly?
Would the guy that hated you have kept hating you? Maybe.
Or maybe he'd give up, thinking, well she's at least trying to be nice.

And in the OPers case, maybe he'd actually talk to you.

Yes, I agree that staring isn't cool. But people can't change how they feel.
But a bit of friendliness will make people talk, rather than stare.

[Vyxzuw]

Also, if anyone feels that someone that is staring is dangerous.
Please do NOT confront them yourself or even with a friend.
You will not get them to stop.

Instead tell someone in a position of authority.
A teacher or counselor.
Your/their boss or the HR department.
Or the police.
This will create a paper trail in case you need to make a restraining order.

Do not allow them to have access to your presence.

Although, most dangerous people will try to engage you. They want you to interact with them and will not simple settle with staring.

[btbc92]

@Vyxzuw If they want to be an enemy that is THEIR problem. Not mine. They need to equally learn to be considerate of others, not be selfish because of their 'feeling's'. Some people are just not interested. It bothers people and what is the first thing we learn as children: NEVER stare at people.

"Confronting someone who is staring at you is the WORST thing you can do in that situation." No. It is the RIGHT thing to do depending on what type of people you are dealing with. That person is staring at me, not other people. It is my responsibility to make sure that person understands what they are doing is disrespectful to me. I do so in a respectful and firm manner. Now if they get an attitude about it, then it says a whole lot about who they really are. If I have to speak to a teacher or somebody in authority, they would not be happy with the report I will give them. And they definitely wouldn't like it if I tell my father.

[btbc92]

I am not talking about strangers. I am talking about classmates you already know or are aware of.

And what I mean by worse, I mean exactly what you have listed, telling an authority. I'm sure he would not be happy being sent to the principle's or dean's office over something that could have been avoided.

[Vyxzuw]

"I'm sure he would not be happy being sent to the principle's or dean's office over something that could have been avoided."
Technically he could report both girls for harassing HIM.

By engaging with him, they established contact and are bullying.
They threatened to ruin his reputation.

That's a verbal exchange that can be used against them.
Which a stalker will do to get more attention.

That's why you don't engage, you get someone else to.

And guess what. Staring isn't something they CAN do anything about.
A person can glare and seethe hateful thoughts all they want.
There are no thought police, sorry.

I understand your point that people need to know that it can bother people.
But guess what?
Knowing that will mean they will keep staring and not introduce themselves because they think that you will think they are creepy.

[Vyxzuw]

The thing is, by being FRIENDLY, people will talk to you instead of being intimidated.
Which means less staring.

It means people will not hold grudges against you, because why, when you are nice?

You can't change what people do, but you can choose how you react.

"If they want to be an enemy that is THEIR problem. Not mine."
But see, if it's bothering you, then it IS your problem.

By confronting the guy staring at you, you reinforced his behavior, rather than defusing it.

Be nicer, and people will be nicer back. Or at least less mean.

[btbc92]

@Vyxzuw I'm not talking about the Asker and the girls personally. I am refering to me and whoever does what they do concerning this situation. First of all, like I said before, I did not approve how she brought her friend into it like that. All I said was that he should be happy she at least went to him and did this discreetly. She was not mean to him. She asked him respectfully and civilly to stop. The one who was out of line was her friend with how she interjected.

At this point, you do not understand how other treat me either. People judge me regardless if I am nice or civil. I always act civilly, respectfully and carry myself as a proper adult should be carried. This is not about being a thought police. This is about as I said before, which is respect. They have no business staring in that manner, it's not like I have something on me that warrants attention. I am fully aware of my surroundings. And besides, they that stare at me always have a problem with me anyway.

[btbc92]

I don't react badly. I respond with a professional manner. I always ask kindly for them to stop. Now if they have an issue, then I will have no choice, since they want to force my hand, to get somebody. I am not looking for them to introduce themselves to me. They have to be responsible for how they chose to carry themselves. I am perfectly okay alone, and only approach people with good intentions and a purpose. If they do not have valid reasons such as wanting to be friends, to approach me, then I wouldn't want them around. But if I tell them this they will still get pissed. They need to follow your advice about choosing how they react. Because if they react badly, then I wouldn't want to know them anyway. I don't need to be around emotionally unstable and then get upset because they don't like my personality or how I do things. Those same type of people will gossip about you that isn't true because you don't behave or act like them. I had to learn to not allow that to bother me.

[btbc92]

You can't please everybody. People don't care if your friendly or not. They want what they want out of you. Like I said concerning the Asker. He has to understand that staring is a big no-no. Liking somebody physically is not an excuse. As a once so-called 'shy' girl, that is not going to get you anywhere in life. If you have a purpose for something, you have to get it yourself. If he wanted to try to date her, then he should have made his intentions clear instead of constantly staring. Go talk to that person. This is why I stay to myself. You have to understand that my ways are not the world's way. Everybody is not going to like you.

[Vyxzuw]

Here's the problem.

You are saying that he should be responsible for how he is presenting himself.
But you are not responsible for how people react to you.

That's a double standard.

Either he is responsible, and staring is rude. And thus, people are responsible for whether they are coming across as nice or not.
And thinking you are coming across nice and professional, doesn't mean you are. However, I haven't witnessed you interacting, so I can't say if you are or not.

OR, people are responsible for how they react.
People are responsible for how they take you informing them that it bothers you.
HOWEVER, you are responsible for letting it bother you, in the first place.
You could feel flattered, but you choose not to.

My point, was that he should recognize that it bothers people, and try not to stare.
And if staring bothers you, don't 'confront' them, but instead talk to them. Being shy is not an excuse.
Unless you actually think they are dangerous, then tell someone with authority.

[btbc92]

@Vyxzuw No that is not a double standard. I can control how I present myself to people. But just like you said, "And thinking you are coming across nice and professional, doesn't mean you are. " But I know I am. I don't have to continue to prove to people I am. Been there, done that, and not going to bother. I don't find staring flattering at all. As an intuitive and spiritual person, I absorb everything about people. I never liked attention, and that is how I was born. I am a different person and I don't think like other people. But I believe that you're misinterpreting what I am saying about confronting. Me confronting is talking to them. By saying 'excuse me', ' can you please', etc. These are common words to use to use when you engage a person. You don't act inappropriately such as being nasty or rude, mocking and calling names. I don't do that. The ones I talk to after does. Therefore I am not responsible for how they chose to react.

I am not one for attention.

[btbc92]

I would rather remove myself from the situation before I take it that far. But only if I see it warrants it. This is nothing to do about feeling like I am in danger. It disturbs me. It disturbs my peace, my comfortability, and my ability to thank rationally. And it affects my health. I am highly sensitive that I can tell it will rain before it does, somebody going to do something before they do it, what kind of character people are, how sick they are without showing it, their underlining emotions before it comes to surface. I can feel and sense everything. And trust me, some people who do stare often stare for the wrong reasons at me. Because they sense and know I'm different, or something not good in their heads. So that is why I wrote what I wrote. I often ignore them, until I see I can't anymore. Doing so once or twice, one day fine. Perhaps they recognize me somewhere. It happens by accident. Every day, all the time, and there is a problem.

[Vyxzuw]

Like I said, my response isn't towards your situation. Since you've only mentioned the one case, and that guy had a chip on his shoulder anyways.

My response was to your advice. You mentioned that the girl confronted him 'respectfully'.
No, she didn't. She did not care for why he was doing what he was doing, she also characterized him as a creep and threatened him.
Plus she brought her friend, thus NOT making it a private talk.

Then you said he needed counseling.
Also, he never said he never spoke with a girl or that he never had female friends. He said talking to women makes him nervous. You ASSUMED this about him.

My point, is that she could have just introduced herself (since she is apparently confident enough to confront him) and said his staring makes her uncomfortable, and he should talk to her rather than stare, next time.

This is different than essentially telling him off, and saying don't interact at all with me.

[btbc92]

@Vyxzuw That is why I said he needed counseling. Not speaking to the opposite sex says a lot about his overall maturity and growth. Something is hindering him from being able to form natural friendships and bond. He has overall lack of social and communication skills and etiquette. This is not me assuming.

Perhaps because you are open to modern normalcy of these things is why you are saying what you are saying. "She said "can we talk to you for second?" and I couldn't even answer and she said "you've been staring at me during class and I need you to stop", she wasn't talking in an angry tone but she was very confident. Then she said I was making her feel uncomfortable during class because it was very creepy what I was doing." You mean to say this isn't her being respectful? I can very much read the situation. She is not being disrespectful at all. It was her friend that was. From what I see, her friend was the one who jumped in and tagged along anyway. The girl sounds like she didn't

[btbc92]

want to tell her friend no. Her friend by her attitude shows that she is a pushover, and will do whatever that she pleases. This should not be looked at as if she was the one entirely at fault. My beef with this is that she is getting stigmatized because she is not open to being admired from afar. Just like it is becoming normalized to accept lust from people for your body as well as sexual advances. This is way out of line, and staring can be seen just as the same. I can tell that she doesn't like him in that way, anyway. They have to be aware of each other's names. That is the whole point. She was not receptive to it, and it should have been a warning sign to stop. Others who like it, fine. To other people like her and myself, no. Plus, he would have been upset ANYWAY. Why? Because he's crushing on somebody that he doesn't even really know, and she is not interested regardless if he's nice, shy, etc. That is the whole point I'm making. He will still be rejected and upset about it.

[btbc92]

What you need to realize is that if she didn't say anything now, it would be like she's stringing him alone KNOWING he's crushing on her anyway. Then she'll be accused of knowing. As I said before, been there, done that, don't want to go bad. It's damn if you do, damn if you don't. Staring at people for a long time and a certain way can be seen as creepy. That is why it is not appropriate. Social etiquette, that many people don't care for is still very important. I never assumed anything about him. All I said is that his problem with women is not an excuse, and why I said he needs counseling. Fear of the opposite sex for whatever reason is not psychologically healthy.

[Vyxzuw]

Again, he never said he doesn't talk to girls. He says it makes him nervous.

And she probably gave off an "I'm not interested vibe." which mean he was trying to be respectful and not bothering her, without realizing that he was bothering her.

And again, I'm not saying that he should have kept staring, nor that she shouldn't have let him know that it was bothering her.

And no she was not being respectful, she was being blunt. Blunt isn't respectful, nor is it disrespectful.
She characterized him as a creep, and said she would report him for being a creep if he didn't stop.

She could have said that being stared at unnerved her, and that he should talk to her instead. Or just told him that she wasn't interested.
Again, instead she made him feel like a creep ON TOP OF being rejected.

My guess is her friend is the one that made her tell him off to begin with and she went along with it.
But that's not relevant.

Hell, she even could have written him a note, so he could react in private.

[Anon-ymous1]

Some serious counseling? For looking at someone?

... Uh. Right.

[btbc92]

@Anon-ymous1 "I have zero social skills and talking to women makes me very nervous and anxious..." <--- This requires counseling. He cannot be like this all the time.

[Anon-ymous1]

He perhaps needs more female friends, or more life experience. He does not need "counseling." Your suggestion is completely absurd.

[Vyxzuw]

This is why they shy guys never approach girls. They're afraid of something like this, only more public.
That and they don't want to be a bother.

The ironic thing, is the creeps are the ones that approch girls and don't care if they are bothering them.

Unfortunately for her, people will notice that she doesn't like attention and then they will stop approaching her, and she'll wonder why.

The nice thing, would have been to say that she interested in someone else. It'd not even be a rejection, technically, just saying she's not available. At least not to you.

[Timodeum]

Nailed it.

[Twinkles88]

I'm so sorry this happened to you.

I know when a man stares it's usually because he's thinking of something other than the thing he is staring at. Like food. Or football.

Men stare at me often. I was an average girl when I met my man at 16. In recent years, I've become a bit more than average. He fell in love with me when I didn't quite look like this. All the men staring now are appreciating how I look, yes, and I'm secure enough in myself to just let them.

My thoughts are she called you out (with her friend) to big herself up. She could have talked with you one on one to save any embarrassment on either party but she didn't. This shows lack of character on her part. A reason she's not good enough for you in a way.

Don't give up on us girls, we are (most of us) insecure and want who don't want us and reject those that do. This occurs especially in high school where there is a lot of social politics occurring at all times, in every friend group.

Keep faith, the girl for you is out there somewhere and she will delight in your glances. Good luck!

[Anon-ymous1]

This.

[Anonymous]

DUUUUDE! I was exactly in your shoes dude!!! A girl said the same thing to me with her friend with her and I was mad depressed for a while. It took me a semester to do this after that moment, but on the last day of class, after thinking I bombed the exam, I was like F everything in this life, I have nothing to lose so I approached the girl and asked the her if I could chat with her real quick. I explained to her I liked her and have been thinking since the day I saw her that I liked her, but couldn't get her out of my mind. Basically spilled my guts out. You know what she did? She said 'OK' and left. Just 'OK' and left. I was like WTF and had the worst summer ever in my life. I cried a few times. The next semester started and she was in my class again. I turned like I didn't see her, but I saw her and she knew I saw her. She walked over and sat next to me and said "I've been thinking of you all summer and want to go out with you, will you please give me a chance?"

Four years later, we are now planning on getting married.

[cross98]

I'm sorry, but no. You can't force people to look at creepy staring as an admiration boost. Sometimes people who do stare at a person don't always have the best intentions. There are many rapist, stalkers and killers who just sit and stare and not say anything while being confronted. Yes, you know your intentions but she doesn't, so stop thinking she could read your mind. Its funny how guys say women think they could read minds but so many guys want women to turn their whole viewpoint around just to make a guy feel comfortable with what he's doing no matter how odd it is.

Anyway, gain courage, speak. This will only work if that particular female finds it amusing.

[Robertinho]

... Ouch, that even hurt me, im not going to lie. What you could do, is eventually man up, apologize to her and tell her how you feel and thats why you were looking at her all this time. But that is something your going to really have to think about. Either way, it does'nt give her the right to approach you like that, and make it seem as if your some type of hideous monster just starring at her. At the end of the day she is human just like you, and it does'nt give her the right to put you down like that. Do what you have to do, and live with your choice, but one thing is for sure your better then that, keep your head up. In life you live an learn... take it as an experience and become better, good luck.

[Anonymous]

Most girls only see staring as wrong and creepy if they don't find you attractive. That same girl would smile and flick her hair at another guy staring if he was her type or hot.

Most of the time if I stare at a girl, she either waves and smiles, or looks surprised and stares back. I had a girl come up and ask for a date one time. The fact is, if I didn't look as I do, they would have all labelled me as a creep. The fact is, if you are good looking, you can say almost anything, stare and all sorts of crap. It's bs really, but I'm just telling it like it is.

Another example. A woman at work was really rude to a guy and demanded he pass her a box of work she was collecting. When she came to me, her voice quietened, she said please, thank you and was polite. I asked the guy why he put up with it, but he just laughed.

[btbc92]

I'm sorry. But I'm certain there is plenty of intuitive and introverted people who doesn't like being stared at period, no matter who is nice, friendly or attractive. I simply don't like being stared at. It's called being respectful. It doesn't matter how attractive you are and this is where guys really needs to stop with that. If that person feels very uncomfortable, it's best to just stop. No matter what you think of that. Anytime somebody ask me not to do something that is reasonable, I stop.

[Opinion Owner]

@btbc92 I didn't say there weren't any...

[Apope16]

I dont hate being stared at. Its a compliment in my opinion. No doubt she had to know your feelings. Just give her a card or a letter. Apologize and tell her you like her. Then ask her out. Keep it breif to the point. Be bold and human. Be a man and defend yourself bro. Give her friend a card too. Tell her you're not a creep and you just have a crush on her friend. Give the card after class without a word and walk away. You can even be honest with both and say you're shy.

They will be talking about how its cute you like her and not how you are creepy. Also, look nice, smell nice, dress nice.

[Anonymous]

I mean I've had guys that I don't like stare at me too and it's VERY uncomfortable.. now I'm a quiet person so I don't say anything but I mean put yourself in her shoes. My friend stares at guys she likes too and they HATE it. It's partially because they don't like her back and don't get me wrong she's pretty but still staring is uncomfortable. Since you're shy I suggest either letting it go if you really can't strike up a conversation, or come up with something to talk about. I'm shy and I liked guy and he liked me too and we're both shy. If he had just talked more I would've gladly talked to him. So yes, I know you're hurt, but a lot of girls consider staring sexual harassment, I'm serious I kinda do too, so next time, just talk. If she's mean enough to say something rude or diss you she's not worth it, good luck☝🏻

[prozmay]

"My friend stares at guys she likes too and they HATE it" I highly doubt that

[FreeMenUnite]

Haha creepy shaming. a classic female tactic. yeah you are the evil one. you should change. these "nice and healthy ladies" were definitely rind to belittle and mock you like that. Cuse its your fault you are not confident and handsome enough to be flattered instead of "creeped" by your stares.

if i were you, i would get all apologetic and defensive like you did. i'd try to make her seem crazy. that she makes stories out of her head, and that her creepily flirtatious attitude creeps you out. you have to turn their own game against them.

[MrNameless]

Honestly, anyone who stares at me for a long time would make me feel uncomfortable.

Anyway, take this as a lesson. It's not the end of the world, but you need to pay attention of your surroundings and how others perceive you with every action you take. It may seem innocent and totally subconscious, but you have to be mindful of what you do.

[TheNoOne]

The best is stop caring what-others think not encouraging it, Its very difficult to feel at ease and confident if your worrying about what others think especially woman they change there feeling about most thinks as frequently as they change haircuts or fashion choices.

[Anonymous]

I agree that that girl was really rude in the way that she confronted you. She obviously does not know how nervous you might've been because of how you liked her. I know how difficult it might be to tell a girl that you like her. Don't be afraid to tell her! Most girls don't judge a guy-- we're usually too flattered to say anything other than "omfg."

But I also understand how she feels on her part, because I've had a person stare at me nonstop. I would be hanging out with friends, and there he would be, with his own friends, only him staring at me. I asked my friends to hide me from him because honestly, it can be creepy-- that nonstop staring feeling when you're just trying to lead a normal life. When my friends were taking a selfie, he was in the background staring at the camera. It was fucking terrifying. They suggested I confront the guy but I didn't want to hurt him. Luckily after I told him I didn't feel for him in that way, the staring slowed down.

[Anonymous]

The old stare at her until she notices tactic. I know that game. Yes, you can imagine that might make someone uncomfortable. You would also think that guys stop doing this at some point, but I have buddies who are in their mid twenties and I know men all the way to their forties who do this as well. Also fun fact, none of these guys are rapists or murders. But let's not dwell on that. My advice, find a way to boost your confidence and engage in that class. If you can come off as confident and assertive in class, she might notice and change her tune. If not, it's no big deal. That's just one fish that got away. What's important is now you know what doesn't work, and if you can change that behavior now you will stand out from the guys who aren't able to kick that habit.

[CaptainSmartass]

Personally, I think you should try and address the shyness issue, if you can. I also think the girl needs to learn some manners. She dealt with the staring thing in totally the wrong way.

I'd also suggest that you try and make conversation with a few girls at school to get used to talking to the opposite gender. Then, I'd also suggest apologising to the girl you stared at.

She may accept your apology and try to make things up to you. Then, it's up to both of you how you move on from this embarrassing situation.

Simples...

[lol20075]

TBH I wouldn't really put down a dude for staring at me. I would feel uncomfortable cause I had NO clue why you were staring at me. But I do think that she overstepped her boundaries and harmed your emotions :( sorry about that dude. But in order to clear your name from her bad-list I would suggest that you tell her why you were staring at her. It's better than having her know you forever as "the creepy dude that stared at me".

[RetroAlpha]

Well, it's too late to fix this one, but you sound young enough to have this feeling happen to you again. You don't need to be charming or skilled to get past this type of thing. When I was a boy in school, and found myself staring at a girl, I would force myself to talk to her. If I stammered, or said something stupid, I would apologize and admit that she made me nervous. Wanna guess what happened, when I was honest?

[Katiepop21]

That girl was very rude to tell you in that way. Staring is a natural phenomenon that occurs when someone likes somebody, don't feel ashamed or anything like that! Unfortunately staring for too long is also read as "very creepy". It's important to clear up the misunderstandings here, that you thought she was beautiful and you weren't trying to creep her out.

[Lllllllamas]

To be honest I can see why you did that. When I stare at people I am ususally admiring their beauty. (I know that sounds weird.) However, some girls like it less than others. If someone was staring at me and didn't seem like they would be a pervert (I know I'm assuming) then i would be flattered! I'm socially awkward too but somehow I got a boyfriend because I had a good personality apparently. Also this is one girl which I don't think likes you very much. There are plenty of fish in the sea. I have this problem a lot with my guy friends complaining about their love lives and I want them to know there is always a perfect match for you. You just haven't found it.

[MarkRet]

The ONLY way you can salvage this situation is to approach this girl, apologize, and explain to her exactly why you were staring at her. It's POSSIBLE she might find it cute, and might even forgive you. Otherwise, take it as a lesson learned.

[Nothanks700]

It doesn't sound like she was hard on you. In fact, she handled this pretty gracefully for someone her age. I am sure you didn't mean anything by it, but it's just reality. If you have someone staring at you relentlessly, it's pretty creepy. You're young, and probably didn't realize, but now you know. I'd just count your blessings she didn't handle it the way some people would. Pro tip- if you like a girl, ask her out, maybe give her a nice smile, but don't stare her down.

[Dingsbums]

Hm I did stare at a girl in class before just because I was bored (I wasn't really looking at her just in her direction because she was sitting at the other side of the room)
In the end she got a crush on me and she tho I would have a crush on her too because "I was staring at her a lot" lol

[Dingsbums]

I have a right to look at people don't let theatralisch your confidence away. Just try not to make it creepy next time

[Anonymous]

Well, you were a bit creepy, to be honest. If you're going to look a girl, keep it subtle and only look for a couple of seconds at a time. Even if she doesn't like you that won't be creepy. Staring at her constantly is. Don't worry too much about it, everyone messes up like that once in a while though. Go find another girl.