I promise it won't be long.
This myTake is sparked by some comments and questions I received from some G@G friends about the statements I made in this question Have you ever went out/dated someone you met by chance? , since they know about my stance on casual relationships and hook ups.
Well, I have to be honest and address this question as to clear up any controversy or doubt that may be up in the air.
Without many formalities, as many of you know at the end of July I broke up with the girl I was supposed to propose to and moved away. The relationship simply wasn't feasible anymore and I know that some of the people following it were dissapointed when it happened, since they were rooting for us as a couple. Someone on here even violently denounced me and blocked me because of it. If some of you remember, I had started asking questions of the like "The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else" - True or False? and someone at the time already asked me if it was the case. I said it wasn't, but it actually was.
Anyhow, as I said in my last myTake, when I broke up I spent some days going around with various kinds of people and friends, trying to collect my thoughts and decide what to do next, and doing some impulsive and a bit stupid stuff.
More or less a week after I broke up, I was browsing around a local fair I had bought two tickets for - one for me and one for my now-ex girlfriend. I didn't really know what to do, I had called a couple of friends proposing them to go to it with me but they had all refused, so I was there on my own.
There was also a woman - not very tall, dirty blonde hair, jeans and John Lennon t-shirt - who was browing around, seemingly trying to make her mind whenever or not spend 10€ to get in.
So I went up to her, striked up small talk with her and ultimately offered her a ticket. I don't know what I was exactly thinking - this a time where such a gesture can be seen as soliciting and/or harassing, and I was a bit prepared for her to refuse or maybe even berate me.
Instead she accepted and thanked me. At that point there wasn't much more to do - I had got rid of that ticket by giving it to someone who could have enjoyed it, but I asked her if she knew someone else who could use another. She asked me why, and when I explained my reason to her, she just shrugged.
She could have just taken it, thanked me and went about her business without much a thought, but instead asked me to accompany her and make small chat.
In those times where everyone distrusts everyone, it felt pretty nice to just meet someone and bound that way.
We spent almost three good hours around that fair, talking, eating something and trying out the games and towards midnight I was wondering what exactly I was doing and how that situation could end. I lived nearby so I had come by foot, she had her car and suggested going somewhere quieter to drink something. After we went and spent some time at a local pub she asked me if it was a problem if we went and watched a movie or something at her place. I said it wasn't and we went. The movie she had picked up was Venom, and even though I'm not a fan of superhero movies the little we watched before getting busy with something else was pretty enjoyable.
We saw each other for some days, but in the end it was clear we'd be better off as friends. I told her I had just broke up with the girl I was supposed to propose, and she told me she too had just broke up with her fiancé. So, nothing. We liked each other but not that way. We separated on good terms, promising to stay friends, but of course it was a white promise we didn't really maintain. We just resumed our lives after that little parentheses.
Naturally I told this to my current girlfriend weeks ago for honesty' sake, she said it was alright since we weren't even dating at the time but obviously doesn't want me to talk with that woman too much anymore. Not that she'd really want to, since last I heard she and her fiancé were giving their relationship another try and I wish them every good and luck with it.
But I'd lie if I said I didn't want to finish watching Venom!