"The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else" - True or False?

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SexyAshh · Accepted Answer

How is this just popping up on my feed?

Scrolling through comments i cannot get over all the morality police and people getting so offended by this statement.

It definatly DOES help. Sleep with one, sleep with a bunch! Whatever you need to do to get things out of your system. Its your life and how you live it and what helps is ultimatly up to you!. Not all the people on gag thinking they are liscensed relationship experts. Geez🤦‍♀️

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

I heard of the term and know what it means. I am not sure how having sex with someone else helps one get over a breakup. It just means I have no self respect for my own body by sleeping with someone I don't have feelings for.
Terrible idea, avoiding ones own need to process, learn and grow.
I would hope I will never end up being use like that.

SuperManiac · Accepted Answer

Worst advice ever if you're deeply broken-hearted in my opinion. You'll just compare every difference, however nuanced, to your ex, and miss her more and tear open wounds all over again. If you aren't *that* broken-hearted, it might work. But try breaking up after being engaged to be married 3 weeks before marriage, and I'd say it's not a good idea to sleep with anyone any time soon until you're really over the girl and have moved on.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

That "method" potentially involves using someone else and hurting them and I don't endorse anything that would have that result.

Logorithim · Answer

Well, I don't think that is the BEST way, although it is a way. The best way is to get your ex out of your mind and that can be done merely by talking to other people.

StingRayxoxo · Answer

That's a way that people destract themselves temporarily. It doesn't help to get over someone else.

Levin · Answer

It's a strategy. But ultimately, the emotions and situations experienced need to be processed before one is able to move forward and have more quantitative relationships. Life is that interaction of experience and reflection. Don't reflect enough, and you get into trouble. Reflect too much, and you get into trouble. Yin and yang balance...

Ideally, now a person has learnt what they needed to learn about themselves from the relationship they were previously in, say - self respect, they can bring this quality forward and try and find a person who can honour this.

T_Bonerism · Answer

General social interaction with friends, family, and other strangers can help get your mind occupied and help you enjoy things that were a little lost on you. However, you are going to have to face the fact that you aren't with that other person and realize what they meant to you or what they didn't mean to you. You can do this with help, but I don't think it would be fair to drag someone else into it in this way. Your friends and family are there to help you. Lean on them until you can stand on your own again.

MercuryG · Answer

Depends.
If you're 'getting over' someone who's been abusing you or taking advantage of you, then YES.

Can say from personal experience that this is a pretty good way of getting over someone.

Otherwise, no. If it was a decent relationship that didn't work out or they broke things off, just focus on yourself for a while and work through your baggage.

ClaircognizantEmpath · Answer

hi, i think there is some truth to it, if you keep getting under him, as in an ex, you ain't getting over him, kinda the same thing in reverse... perhaps it can be more of a distraction rather than a cure, whilst you are healing but can also be damaging... each to their own.. what do you think? xx

PositiveNote · Answer

I think that you get over someone my moving on, period. Seriously, I've been there and it's hard to find someone as a replacement, but find a bowling team or something! (No, I don't mean to 'do' a bowling team.) Depending if you are an extrovert or introvert, don't turn to food as therapy. Turn to starting a new direction altogether like a college program or horse riding!

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

This works for scumbags who only used their woman for sex
So when you have sex with someone else you realize every woman can give you sex

When you have sex with a woman, live with her, eat with her, hold her, provide for her... screwing a new woman won't help so much.

Take your time fra, the wounds are fresh, time will heal them

thisbutterfly36 · Answer

Most definitely false! F's up your head and hers in the long run. Best healing is from within.

roxy_362 · Answer

It is interesting that this particular advice is given by a girl to a boy... And, the yester-century outfits & decor add more to the flair. Good mise-en-scène, questionable advice!..

Anonymous · Answer

Haha, that must be from my response on your other question. It can be true if the person can’t seem to get past their ex and needs a fun night of no-strings-attached sex.

markscott · Answer

The best way to get over someone, is to feel the pain, but don't wallow in it. Let yourself feel the pain, then move on. Get busy doing things you like to do, spending time with good friends, etc.

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

Dunno if it's always true. It was a day later I was over my ex, I found my next. Tbh it felt like it had to happen, and it was planned way before. My current one resonates w me completely and she's probably the most attractive girl I have ever seen IRL.

Cazper · Answer

I guess that's largely individual. For me it's false. It doesn't help at all and just makes me feel cheap and bad for using someone for a rebound so I don't do that. But I'm not saying this is an objective truth for everyone...

R_Cakes91 · Answer

I honestly think that makes it worse because once you are alone after “distracting” yourself, you’ll feel pretty empty inside.

JackSmy · Answer

No, you just mess up someone else by not getting over your baggage, and inevitably it affects the 'new' one, and ends badly!

1CentWorth · Answer

not for me... been with plenty of women but after a serious relationship ends, if I sleep with someone else immediately, I feel absolutely horrible.

Landshrk0068 · Answer

Totally wrong. You kill them and bury them deep in the woods where they'll never be found, is what I've found to work best.

Or just forget about them, and move with your life.

Pick the answer you like best and go with it.

JessieLo · Answer

I say in the moment yea maybe. But after that the problem still remains you gotta give yourself time to heal.

Ellie-V · Answer

I guess neither. Just depends on how the individual’s heart operates and how the previous relationship ended.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I'm going with yes because that method works for me. When I decided to stay single after a relationship, the moving on process took too long and switched from voluntary single to involuntary single.

LuWe22 · Answer

False. It's not fair at all to the one you use to forget your Ex. Using people is not fun or cool. Grief should be healthy. Focus on yourself for a while.

Sierraromeobravo · Answer

It's always worked for me. It's almost like it wakes me up and I can think clearer

simplyaramdomgirl · Answer

Flase and unhealthy. The best way to get over someone is to face the problem and loss head on.

Massageman · Answer

I suppose that might "mask the pain" for a short while, but you'd still have to have closure before REALLY moving onward. And while pleasant, that really isn't closure.

Grobmate · Answer

False. All it does is hurt another. It doesn't get you over them.

JosyJosy · Answer

False, it's just a temporary replacement, once your little fun is over you're there like fuck what now

devilish-cutie · Answer

true, but not just anyone... and its hard to find that other someone

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Only if the attachment to the first one was primarily physical.

Lance1965 · Answer

The quickest way to forget someone is to meet someone else and move on. However simply attaching yourself to the first woman that comes along is usually a bad move. Take your time and choose wisely.

dragoblack · Answer

False dude, it's like saying to forget someone you drink a bottle of whiskey/rum/vodka/gin your mourning by distracting yourself in a toxic way that doesn't let you truly mourn

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe try no strings attached sex but no rebound relationship

Anonymous · Answer

False. It actually makes you feel worse since the comparisons come in if you jump at it too soon after a break up.

Anonymous · Answer

False. You're just camouflaging feelings. People are flawed and i find the best way to get over someone is just remind myself of all their bad points anytime i find myself missing them.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe not like the same day, but yes - after you’ve grieved a little bit it helps to stop ruminating and enjoy the scene again.

xyz94 · Answer

Not really - the best way is to get out and meet people though!

Browser101 · Answer

True if you need to avoid having your ex end up back in the sack with you. And also true regardless but she might be a rebound... it really does help

clonesclone · Answer

I advise anyone who believes this to get under a landmine instead.

bulletbob555 · Answer

It helps. As far as revenge on the ex, the best revenge is living well. Also it bears sitting at home overthinking

Jácintasd · Answer

Live your feelings, mourne the relationship, otherwise you won't learn how to make a relationship better.

lordgrifis · Answer

I think it's true. Sex is half of a relationship, so doing it with someone other is already half way done.

Anonymous · Answer

Realistically no, but it also depends on how the relationship ended

SarahsSummer · Answer

that works but only temporarily.

iamthewalrus1975 · Answer

Does not always work. After I was widowed, I hooked up with a younger guy out of loneliness and I am so unhappy right how.

Slim57 · Answer

True, when you're alone with your thoughts how is that going to ever help you get over anything or anyone

Kaneki05 · Answer

True i need to do that tbh

mixedforever29 · Answer

that was the best way for me unfortunately

Prof_Don · Answer

For some people... yes 👍🏾

Secret6620 · Answer

Definitely False😢😱

mattia93 · Answer

It helps but not completely

winterfox10 · Answer

so false it's kind of funny

Kayayy · Answer

Nope. I know I'm worth much more than just a lay

KeniKeni · Answer

Very true. But not advised.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

For the time that it lasts true.

Smelly12 · Answer

Get under their skin good idea

Walrus_au · Answer

False, but it can be fun and enjoyable.

Anonymous · Answer

You do nothing. If you truly love him/her you show them that there spot cannot be replaced because of the love you have for him/her. Love never fails.

Shy_Baddy24_ · Answer

No that doesn’t help and isn’t healthy

selfdestruction · Answer

True. Unhealthy though

mistixs · Answer

Unhealthy

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