"The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else" - True or False?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

[SexyAshh]

How is this just popping up on my feed?

Scrolling through comments i cannot get over all the morality police and people getting so offended by this statement.

It definatly DOES help. Sleep with one, sleep with a bunch! Whatever you need to do to get things out of your system. Its your life and how you live it and what helps is ultimatly up to you!. Not all the people on gag thinking they are liscensed relationship experts. Geez🤦‍♀️

[SexyAshh]

Another one, omg im honored. Thanks☺️

[midnightmoon05]

I heard of the term and know what it means. I am not sure how having sex with someone else helps one get over a breakup. It just means I have no self respect for my own body by sleeping with someone I don't have feelings for.
Terrible idea, avoiding ones own need to process, learn and grow.
I would hope I will never end up being use like that.

[SuperManiac]

Worst advice ever if you're deeply broken-hearted in my opinion. You'll just compare every difference, however nuanced, to your ex, and miss her more and tear open wounds all over again. If you aren't *that* broken-hearted, it might work. But try breaking up after being engaged to be married 3 weeks before marriage, and I'd say it's not a good idea to sleep with anyone any time soon until you're really over the girl and have moved on.

[SuperManiac]

At such a state of being rock bottom, I don't even think the advice that "time heals everything" even applies. I could very much imagine being in a state of being a single, miserable, bitter alcoholic now if I had not made efforts to fix myself in the same way that an athlete working towards becoming a star could become jaded if they suffered a crippling injury that ends their star career just as it is starting to kick off. In my case, I had to fall in love with "things" to start recovering. I had to fill the empty heart with new hopes and dreams that didn't involve something as fickle as other people. Then I started recovering. And after I finally started recovering, I was ready to date again without comparing every girl to the ex.

[OlderAndWiser]

That "method" potentially involves using someone else and hurting them and I don't endorse anything that would have that result.

[OlderAndWiser]

Grazie per l'MHO!

[Logorithim]

Well, I don't think that is the BEST way, although it is a way. The best way is to get your ex out of your mind and that can be done merely by talking to other people.

[StingRayxoxo]

That's a way that people destract themselves temporarily. It doesn't help to get over someone else.

[Levin]

It's a strategy. But ultimately, the emotions and situations experienced need to be processed before one is able to move forward and have more quantitative relationships. Life is that interaction of experience and reflection. Don't reflect enough, and you get into trouble. Reflect too much, and you get into trouble. Yin and yang balance...

Ideally, now a person has learnt what they needed to learn about themselves from the relationship they were previously in, say - self respect, they can bring this quality forward and try and find a person who can honour this.

[Levin]

Qualitative*

Heavy night :)

[T_Bonerism]

General social interaction with friends, family, and other strangers can help get your mind occupied and help you enjoy things that were a little lost on you. However, you are going to have to face the fact that you aren't with that other person and realize what they meant to you or what they didn't mean to you. You can do this with help, but I don't think it would be fair to drag someone else into it in this way. Your friends and family are there to help you. Lean on them until you can stand on your own again.

[MercuryG]

Depends.
If you're 'getting over' someone who's been abusing you or taking advantage of you, then YES.

Can say from personal experience that this is a pretty good way of getting over someone.

Otherwise, no. If it was a decent relationship that didn't work out or they broke things off, just focus on yourself for a while and work through your baggage.

[ClaircognizantEmpath]

hi, i think there is some truth to it, if you keep getting under him, as in an ex, you ain't getting over him, kinda the same thing in reverse... perhaps it can be more of a distraction rather than a cure, whilst you are healing but can also be damaging... each to their own.. what do you think? xx

[PositiveNote]

I think that you get over someone my moving on, period. Seriously, I've been there and it's hard to find someone as a replacement, but find a bowling team or something! (No, I don't mean to 'do' a bowling team.) Depending if you are an extrovert or introvert, don't turn to food as therapy. Turn to starting a new direction altogether like a college program or horse riding!

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

This works for scumbags who only used their woman for sex
So when you have sex with someone else you realize every woman can give you sex

When you have sex with a woman, live with her, eat with her, hold her, provide for her... screwing a new woman won't help so much.

Take your time fra, the wounds are fresh, time will heal them

[Anonymous]

Haha, that must be from my response on your other question. It can be true if the person can’t seem to get past their ex and needs a fun night of no-strings-attached sex.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Yes, I admit that's something you and some other G@ger made me think about, and it prompted me to ask the question!

[thisbutterfly36]

Most definitely false! F's up your head and hers in the long run. Best healing is from within.

[VIVANT]

I agree!!

Picture is hilarious though 😁😁

[thisbutterfly36]

Lol! Haha!

[markscott]

The best way to get over someone, is to feel the pain, but don't wallow in it. Let yourself feel the pain, then move on. Get busy doing things you like to do, spending time with good friends, etc.

[roxy_362]

It is interesting that this particular advice is given by a girl to a boy... And, the yester-century outfits & decor add more to the flair. Good mise-en-scène, questionable advice!..

[ItsTheNephilim]

Dunno if it's always true. It was a day later I was over my ex, I found my next. Tbh it felt like it had to happen, and it was planned way before. My current one resonates w me completely and she's probably the most attractive girl I have ever seen IRL.

[Cazper]

I guess that's largely individual. For me it's false. It doesn't help at all and just makes me feel cheap and bad for using someone for a rebound so I don't do that. But I'm not saying this is an objective truth for everyone...

[R_Cakes91]

I honestly think that makes it worse because once you are alone after “distracting” yourself, you’ll feel pretty empty inside.

[JackSmy]

No, you just mess up someone else by not getting over your baggage, and inevitably it affects the 'new' one, and ends badly!

[1CentWorth]

not for me... been with plenty of women but after a serious relationship ends, if I sleep with someone else immediately, I feel absolutely horrible.

[Landshrk0068]

Totally wrong. You kill them and bury them deep in the woods where they'll never be found, is what I've found to work best.

Or just forget about them, and move with your life.

Pick the answer you like best and go with it.

[JessieLo]

I say in the moment yea maybe. But after that the problem still remains you gotta give yourself time to heal.

[Ellie-V]

I guess neither. Just depends on how the individual’s heart operates and how the previous relationship ended.