The Girl Who Cried "Rape"!

[Stacyzee]

Most of us are familiar with the story, "The Boy Who Cried Wolf".

For those of you who have never heard of it, I will first discuss the stories title and then give a brief break down of the story.

What does the title "The Boy Who Cried Wolf" mean?

The words : "cried wolf" means to give a false alarm. The brief explanation of those two words tells us that the story is going to be about a boy who misled others into thinking something was true when it wasn't.

What Is the story about?

The story is about a shepherd boy who decided it would be funny to fool all of the villagers into thinking that there was a wolf attacking the sheeps.
"Wolf, Wolf, Wolf" the young shepherd boy cried! The villagers came towards the distressed voice with their axes, hoes, and forks ready to chase away the wolf and save their herd. But instead what they found, was the shepherd boy laying there hysterically laughing. Later on the shepherd boy saw a real wolf and once again he cried, "Wolf, Wolf, Wolf". The villagers all heard the young boy's cries but decided they no longer wanted a part in his amusement this time.

Moral of the story: "People who lie may not be believed, even when they are telling the truth."

What is rape?

Rape is an act of non-consensual sex. In some cases, physical force/aggression is used against the victim. Often times, alcohol/drug related substances will impair ones ability to willingly engage in this act.

How can one prevent being raped?

We cannot prevent an event from happening that we have no knowledge of occuring in the future. However, as human-beings it is up to you to keep yourself safe. One thing you have control over is the ability to make better choices (which I will further discuss in a future article). This will help prevent being in situations that will increase ones vulnerability.

A All Too Familiar Scenario That Bothers Me The Most

I personally call it,

"The Girl Who Cried "Rape!"

Scenario 1:

Paul and Sarah have countless drinks together at a bar. The next morning Paul wakes up very angered and regretful of the fact they had sex together last night. He wouldn't have done so otherwise if sober.

A lot of people would consider scenario one rather harmless.

Paul is ridiculed by his friends and made out to be a man who had made poor decisions that night. (After all, he was the one who chose to drink alcohol no one forced him to).

Lets use the same scenario but change it a bit.

Scenario 2:

Paul and Sarah have countless drinks together at a bar. The next morning Sarah wakes up very angered and regretful of the fact they had sex together last night. She wouldn't have done so otherwise if sober.

Some people would consider scenario two not okay.

Sarah's friends embrace her with open arms. She is made out to be a girl who was taken advantage of and raped last night.

Hold on,

What just happened?

Why do we view two very similar scenario's so differently?

Is it because gender plays a role in society's perception?

Like Paul in the first scenario, shouldn't Sarah also be held accountable for her actions?

Upon observing many others and people sharing their views I find the response that Sarah got when she did an action she regretted, to be the most common.

The fact of the matter is,

Long before any of us have had our first sip of alcohol we are well educated about the effects of it. We know before hand that alcohol impairs mobility, judgment, and memory.

So, why not just take accountability for our actions and make better decisions in future?

In order to do so, we must acknowledge our experiences with truth.

When we do, We willl grow and benefit from them.

Like the boy who cried wolf,

Sarah is the girl who cried "rape!"

A man can have his entire life destroyed based on an false accusation.

Unlike the story of the boy who cried wolf,

Sarah's intentions were not to create harm.

But how can one actually believe Sarah in the future,

If she were ever to be truly violated in that way?

Sarah labeling just anything rape takes away her credibility.

Please understand that regretting sex and being raped are two completely different things.

• Sarah consented to having sex with Paul because she did not refuse it or show any indication that she did not want it.


• Both people were very intoxicated (So, if one were to say a drunk person cannot consent to sex can't that statement hold true for both parties?)

Victims of Rape

My heart goes out to the people that fell victim to such horror.

Although not mentioned often, it should be acknolwedged that men fall victim to rape also.

Rape is never any ones fault.

Getting back to my original topic,

If you have regret sex take responsibility for your actions.

Man or woman, that shouldn't change anyones perception

of the very same scenario.

It is not wise to get overly intoxicated when you are out with others,

instead drink in moderation.

You will make better choices and have way less regrets.

If you don't protect your own body then who will?

[Anonymous]

Bravo, wonderful take! A thing I have been saying for a while as rape cases keep popping up more and more. I am all for pushing for consent and making sure that even during the act if one party wants to stop, then stop. But you can't retroactively pull consent away AFTER you had sex, which is what a lot of people do, both men and women. You nailed it with the bit on alcohol too, we all know its effects going into a drink, sure you can accidentally have a bit too much to drink, but that is a risk you took when you started drinking.

I had a friend that was accused of rape in the first few months of our first year at university. Although she never really pressed it and it never became officially, the university was small enough that it immediately hurt his reputation as soon as we started! Turns out she was upset because he refused to sleep with her and in fact never did more than pass out in her dorm... Regardless, this nearly ruined him, just that alone, this is a guy who is now a teacher, if that had ever gone official, he would not be able to do that right now because of a lie.

I am very passionate about this issue, especially as a man because I was semi raped as well. A few years ago, my little sister had some friends spend the night, one of them was obsessed with me and always making moves on me, well this time I woke up and she was blowing me. By the time I really woke up a few moments later (I had been drinking with my parents the night before) I came. In that time I had said what is going on and stop that, but I was on the edge as I woke up anyway. I have never told anyone that story IRL but since then I have become a huge advocate for showing how this double standard can effect men as well. Many places don't even have rape laws for men and don't acknowledge male rape cases.

Sorry I know that was a bit off topic, but I think society really has some issues regarding sex, especially in the younger years with so many people sleeping around carelessly, which is fine, but people need to be more responsible with their sexual activity. At the current rate, women are already upset because more and more guys are buying girls less drinks or approaching them on a night out because they are afraid she might change her mind in the morning and without question we will be the offenders, regardless of who is the real victim, if anyone at all.

[Ozanne]

A former friend of mine (and former for the reasons I'm about to let on) cried rape to protect her dignity. She cheated on her live-in boyfriend with someone we worked with, who was coincidentally a guy I used to date. So many things were wrong with her accusation. First, she feared that her boyfriend would break up with her if found out that she willingly slept with him (naturally, duh), she also feared that I would see her as someone who sought out my ex despite what I thought of him (whatever).

When she cried rape she selfishly put my ex's freedom in jeopardy. The entire ordeal was put in to the hands of the law and for over a year, they had to deal with what "he had done" in court. Her false accusation cost him so much, not to mention his reputation and his security with the company we worked for, which required him to have a clean record.

After about a year and half, she confessed that she was in fact *not* raped, and only made the confession after she and her boyfriend broke up for different reasons -- thereby the risk of losing the relationship over it was now futile.

For over a year people protected and believed her, while he was vilified. As a *real* survivor of rape, I am totally sickened that women do this, putting victims such as myself in a position to be doubted when it's often an easy lie to tell. Just for the he said/she said factor alone, the accuser could very well escape conviction from a real rape if the argument is believable enough. It's the rape victims who have to prove the crime happened.

In short, I am no longer friends with this girl as I refuse to support people who trivialize such a serious crime in order to save their skin after making poor choices with men they consent to have sex with. As for my ex, as much of an asshole that he was, he was no rapist, and I am sorry that he had to go through what he did all because some women find it an easy out, crying rape when things don't go their way or when they feel regret after sex.

Rape is nothing to fool around with when it comes to the system. If anyone entertains using it as a means to protect their dignity, I only wish them the worst of luck.

[ccp16]

This is an absolutely disgusting story, and exactly why this my take is so good. Even if you are found innocent, the stigma of even having been accused of rape can haunt yo for the rest of your life.

[oracle12c]

False accusation is a criminal offence in my country, don't know about the US, but over here she might do time for that.

And as you said, it really put real rape victims in bad fix as well, to it's loose all around.

[Ozanne]

I'm not in the US.

[FatherJack]

I believe in a mandatory 10 year sentence for the damage all round that a false accuser does to so many people esp the accused , this hurts real victims badly too. Also plays into the BS " media " stereotypes that all men are worthless rapist beasts , was impressed with the Italian 12 year sentence for a British false accuser... I hope the UK authorities extradite her ASAP & hand her to the Polizia !!!

[OpenClose]

Thank you! It is very refreshing to here this perspective from a woman.

"Rape is never any one's fault" Is the only line I have a problem with. It IS someone's fault: The rapist.

The problem is not how we feel about rape. People do not think it's "just peachy". In fact, people have a lower opinion of rapists than murderers. And this includes murderers. People will be like "OK, you killed several guys in a theater? That's pretty bad." But then they hear that another guy raped someone, and the serial murder is dwarfed by their hatred of the rapist. There's your rape culture.

The problem, then, is our muddying of the definition of rape, and our totally different standards of such depending on the gender. People are more likely to believe that a man is malicious or lying, which is why male victims are actually believed far LESS than female victims. And it's why female purpetrators are viewed with far less disdain.

Take for instance, Emma Roberts beating her boyfriend. Nobody even really heard about that, and it doesn't seem to affect people's opinion of her. (Maybe some 'you go girl!' folks.)

If a guy can be beaten and viewed as the one responsible, or older girls can have sex with underage guys with people saying "lucky kid", how the heck are we supposed to have an intuition of your definition of rape or domestic violence, if you don't apply it to us as well?

The drunk thing was actually brought up regarding the double standard. "If a man and a woman are drunk, the man is the rapist, because it was his responsibility to receive consent."

I don't even know when all this started happening. It started off as fairly common-sense stuff. But then we start hearing "Woman can't be sexist because they are not in a position of power", "A woman can't rape a man, because it's MEN who are in a position of power.", "Accused men should be immediately arrested. The victim should never have to deal with the trauma to due process.", "We should not stigmatize a woman just because she has been accused. No woman deserved that kind of mistreatment."

Dammit, stop belittling your own gender, folks! Wasn't that the thing you were trying to UNDO?

[Stacyzee]

"Rape is never any one's fault" Your interpretation of my line is different than the way I meant to express it.
When I say rape is never anyone's fault I am speaking about a victim who is blaming themselves.

*thumbs up for commenting

[OpenClose]

Yeah, and that's what I figured.

by the way, the rest wasn't directed at you, in case you thought that. I was reading back through it and it came off that way. I was just discussing the stuff you were talking about.

[Stacyzee]

"... or older girls can have sex with underage guys with people saying "lucky kid", how the heck are we supposed to have an intuition of your definition of rape or domestic violence, if you don't apply it to us as well?" I have noticed this too as well.
I remember reading an article about a 30 year old teacher who slept with a 15 year old student. People in the comments were calling him gay for reporting it.
Some people were saying he's lucky.
But when it's a 30 year old man wanting to sleep with a 15 year old girl, people call him sick or mentality ill, or a rapist.
This has got to stop!

[Stacyzee]

It's okay... I understand what you were doing :)

[Anonymous]

There's this type of situation and also women that will make false rape accusations with malicious intent. There is also a double standard in society. Men can be raped too. But we don't consider it rape if the victim is a man. There is also the indecent exposure /"peeping tom" double standard also.

There was instance where a man was walking around naked in his own house making coffee early in the morning when it barely light outside. Well a woman was walking on the sidewalk and "thought" she saw a naked man inside the house. Well she trespassed on his property and went up to the window and looked in to confirm what she saw which she didint like obviously. Then called the police and had indecent exposure charges filed. He was inside his own house just walking around doing stuff... not showing his stuff off. If you switch the people around. And the woman is in the house and a man was trying to confirm what he saw. He was also be arrested for a "peeping tom" when he tries to get her arrested for indecent exposure and she wouldn't be charged.

Back to rape, people make false accusations all the time if they want to take revenge on their boyfriend in a very bad way or they asshamed of their actions and decisions like you said and cry rape. In courts in many places, a womans word is all that's needed to get a guy locked away for rape or sexual assault. So they could be completely lying and someone innocent gets put away. The threat of false rape accusation is also leverage a woman could use to blackmail a man for money, etc.

Also, I was reading a law in California was changed that a woman has the right to revoke sexual consent after the sexual act occurs. So, basically two people hook up drunk and the girl regrets doing so. The law states she can legally revoke consent the next day after the fact when she consented or maybe even intiated it when it happened. If a girl regrets it and "revokes" consent, the guy has just committed rape even though there was intially consent. The girl dosent have to be drunk either. She can revoke consent if she breaks up with her boyfriend and regrets having sex in the relationship.

This is a shame cause it gives those who have been really been raped a bad name. Rape is a heinous crime and I think people that brutally rape somebody should get the death penalty. But there are a lot of false accusations and innocent people put away.

[Anonymous]

THANK YOU for pointing this out. This is one of the reasons there are so many passive "nice guys" out there because the vast majority of men would never want to hurt/rape a female. However since the liberal feminist laws and doctrine have labeled "all men rapists" many of men (including myself) are hesistant to pull the trigger when it comes to taking the lead in bed.

I personally have said things like "hey please talk to me while I'm doing this" before having sex with a girl. I have even blatantly asked "is it okay if I do this". Everytime I ask that the woman usually gives me a frustrated look like "I'm too nice" which is so unfair. I even have rolled girls on top a few times (it can't be "rape" if the girl is on top right?) to give myself a peace of mind.

While I do have sympathy for the true rape victims (and I've known a few) there are delusional women out there who absolutely have no conscience and will do anything to save face including destroying a man's life with a false rape accusation. And it when it comes to rape allegations the man is ALWAYS GUILTY UNTIL PROVEN INNOCENT in the western world. However I'm happy to see a few women recognize this.

[SaintRichie23]

What I never understood was that whenever a woman cries rape after drinking too much, she is given the whole, "she can't consent and say 'yes' while intoxicated." But then you never hear in that same report whether or not the guy she screwed was also drunk.

Wouldn't logic follow that if a girl can't consent while drunk, a guy can' consent either if drunk? Then its just two, drunk stupid people having really sloppy sex. The bottle says, "please drink responsibly"

Finally, I just can't let it slip by. That 1 in 5 thing needs to stop already. www.washingtonexaminer.com/.../2551980

[Stacyzee]

The fact of the matter even though various studies have been done.
I don't think there will ever be a real accurate number.
There are so many victims who never speak of what happened to them.
The only numbers shown are those that are reported.
Just think of actually how many people are victims that never speak up?
So whether correct by statistics or not, I think there's far more victims than we know that are publicly mentioned.
Thanks for the article I will read it.
(I tried to get generally accurate numbers, but different researches show different numbers).
When it comes to this I think the data will always be a bit skewed.

[SaintRichie23]

True, but there are plenty of people that don't understand how statistics work, read an article on BuzzFeed or something, and just assume its fact. I'm not saying you did that, the other two estimates were done the best way they could've been done, but it bothers me that the media projected that 1:5 ratio without looking at the study. The researchers who did it have even admitted to the results being really statistically insignificant.

[Stacyzee]

You're right. I actually looked at 5 diff articles and had a hard time choosing.

You're right the media projected that but didn't do sufficient study.

None the less,
Almost every girl I have met have been a rape victim or almost one

It's sad really.
I don't think any numbers are exact but I do think more people are victims than should be

[Goldie757]

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My thoughts exactly

[Hannah591]

The moral of the story is to not lie and mislead others otherwise, when you're actually telling the truth, you won't be believed which is what happened in the story. I thought this was going to be about women lying about being raped and then when they are raped, no-one believes them. : I'm glad it wasn't.

I like the message you're trying to get across though. I've had sex with guys and regretted it later but I never blamed them because I wanted it at the time, I knew what I was doing, I wasn't forced etc so if anyone suggested he took advantage of me, I would totally knock that down!

[Stacyzee]

I'm glad you own up to your mistakes.

Yes , although that would have better suited my comparison it would have interfered with the direction I want to go in. I wanted to base this take more so off of the observations I have seen on gag (through girls stating they have been through similar scenarios), and their commentary (that I see some members make).

The sad part is , although I listed this woman's (Sarah's) intent wasn't to cause harm the reality of it is, like the boy who cried wolf some women do make false accusations in order to gain self benefit from the whole ordeal.

It's truly ugly in my opinion.

I am glad to have debunked this.

Thanks for commenting !

[QuestionMan]

Great take.
I hate it that women can label a man a rapist just because they regretted having sex with him, that is absurd.
I remember hearing many cases of false rape accusations and they just make my blood boil. The criminal justice system is not a weapon for people to use against people they don't like.
Here is one such case
jonathanturley.org/.../

[Stacyzee]

Wow, that's truly sad. Banks had his whole life ahead of him being an athlete at 16 years old.
It's sad Gibson accused him of rape and ruined his whole life.
She literally won in this instance when she received 1.5 million dollars over this.
It's sad all of the fraudulent information is now out in the open (10 years has passed), and it wasn't even investigated. She gets to keep her money while he walks around with a damaged named (and a much harder time pursuing a career ---and or a job in general).

[QuestionMan]

I feel like he should press charges or at least get some form of compensation. Gibson should pay back the money and go to jail for fraud.

The one thing I keep thinking about when it comes to rape cases is what if the guy drugged the girl and used a condom. There would be no evidence to prove which guy did it other than that the girl was drugged.

[Stacyzee]

You're right. I think that would be the best outcome for Gibson. It's messed up she was able to walk scott-free. That's like saying, It's okay to be a criminal.

And you're right about that scenario. Since convicting someone works off of evidence, that would be almost impossible to prove unless the condom was somehow retrieved and the tested.

[dartmaul15]

YES! THIS!

And here's a kick to the rape crying radical feminists. I USED to think rape was serious, i used to take it seriously. But now the first thing i subcontiously ask is "is she cryin wolf?"
That is FUCKED UP! And it happened because of feminists crying wolf. They even fucking tried to make killing viedogame characters played by females labeled as rape. SERIOUSLY?

If they want rape to be taken seriously then you need to do 2 things
1. stop throwing it arround for shock factor! Use it when appropriate, and NEVER for anything else
2. don't fucking cry wolf!

Because right now, radica feminism AND feminism in general is just undermining the meaning of "rape" by all their stupid accusations.

[Jager66]

Decent take but your stats are wrong. The 1in 5, 1in 4, 1in 3 rape stats are Feminist Myths/Lies.

These are the real rape stats, courtesy of the FBI.
www.fbi.gov/.../forcible-rape

[Stacyzee]

I am aware my statistics quoted by President Obama is incorrect.
However , I found that when searching for statistics in general many different sites have numbers that differ from each other.
I don't think there's any real accurate number in the amount of people that have been raped.
Stats is the overall reported rapes.
There are so many victims who silence themselves never reporting anything.
I will read what you provided me.
Thanks !

[Stacyzee]

I don't think we will ever truly know the amount of victims to be honest.

I just think people should try to protect themselves to the best of their ability.

[Jager66]

Yeah it gets really complicated and kind of impossible when you try to estimate the number of rapes beyond what is reported. For obvious reasons, like being afraid to come forward, and for less obvious ones as well. Things like people who were never raped start to think they were and some people who were raped start believing they never were.

Then you have to consider false reports which are anywhere from 2% to 40% depending on the source, the real number is probably somewhere in between.

Lack of charges doesn't mean a rape never took place and a conviction doesn't mean a rape actually happened.

Manipulation of statistics and other information as well. Like making really bad studies for the purpose of pushing an ideological agenda or classifying women raping men as forced envelopment and putting it under an entirely different category.

Yet despite all this there is actually a Feminist movement determined to eradicate due process rights concerning rape! fucked up world...

[Stacyzee]

Well said! I couldn't agree with you more.

Because of the inaccuracy of the raping statistics I am in the processing of having that section of my myTake removed. I would hate to spread a number out there that is false.
And as stated before, it is impossible to tell just how many people have been victimized.

And I concur once again...
This world is fucked up!

[FatherJack]

Thank you !! Makes a change from the usual man bashing bile that a lot of females emit. Plus all this " All men are evil stupid sex crazed beasts " BS from the controlled media. In nearly all Western " societies " a woman can accuse a man of anything & unless proven innocent with damn good evidence to back this , he is automatically guilty & will be labelled a pervert for life , but on the bright side an Italian court sentenced a conniving bitch to 12 years for a false allegation , the man was initially imprisoned. Plus it hurts the REAL victims in THEIR quest for justice.

[singlebee]

I completely agree with your take... until and unless only the girl was intoxicated and the guy was not and he has seed with her it's rape...

But if both of them were drunk... and sex happened then it's both the girl and guys fault... and the guy alone should not be blamed for it...
And women who destroy a innocent mans life because of a false accusation should be put in jail for at least 20 years... so that women who abuse the power given to them realize that they will have to pay a real good price for abusing the system and destroying a innocent mans life

[heavensgift2girls]

I don't get why people think that makes any sense. It doesn't matter if both of them are drunk or not. Sober people will just purposely get intoxicated as a shield so they can't go to jail if they want to take advantage of another drunk person if you use that standard. It doesn't change the morality of their actions at all. Imagine if they said you can't go to jail for murder if you are drunk. There would be a lot of people purposely getting drunk just to kill someone else. This standard fails for the same reason.

Meanwhile a guy that doesn't like to drink and meets a girl at a club that has had very little to drink gets made out to be a monster, even if he genuinely liked her. Just because she was slightly intoxicated. There are way too many different levels of drunk, and the lines between them are way to blurry to use their level of intoxication as any sort of standard for morality.

[Anonymous]

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Am I actually reading this? Honestly a great take, and a perspective and outlook on this topic that most people seem to over look. Though I feel you may get some hate for it...

[Anonymous]

Good take. I agree completely. I am tired of people throwing the word "rape" around so carelessly. People are even starting to think that waking up your spouse by surprising them with oral is rape now. A person trying to surprise their spouse with oral on their birthday is not rape, and we shouldn't pretend it is.

At this point rape has just been turned into a weapon against men, and as a result more and more men are no longer believing women when they come forward or even taking the issue of rape seriously anymore.

If they keep this up we will have no choice but to change the laws and stop offering the level of protection that alleged rape victims currently receive when they come forward to report rape. Such as hiding their identities so they don't have to face public shame like the person they accuse has to do.

[PrincessTashaaaa]

I agree. But what are your opinions on this scenario?
Paul and Sarah have just met at the bar through mutual friends. Paul shows interest in Sarah, but Sarah declines repeatedly even though she wants to be polite by still talking to him as a member of their group of friends. Paul and Sarah get drunker, and Paul ends up taking Sarah to his car and having sex with her. The next morning, Sarah is angry?

[Stacyzee]

Since they both were equally intoxicated they r both to blame for their actions.
Sarah should make better decisions and limit her drinking if she's angry at the outcome

[PrincessTashaaaa]

But Sarah has said many times prior and is trying to be polite by still interacting with him.
In fact, I think Sarah should be able to drink at a bar without the threat of being raped if she gets too drunk. Maybe Paul shouldn't drink at all if he knows he might have sex with a woman.
Thank you for your opinions, anyway.

[PrincessTashaaaa]

Now, i'm not saying that a woman should be able to go spread her legs for everyone and then cry sexual assault the next morning. But if a woman says no even once, that should be enough to make you put your penis away.

[Stacyzee]

You didn't state that Sarah said "no" you just said she was angry.
You didn't specify.
Rape is never okay.
Although she could have monitored her amount I don't condone what Paul did to her.

[_Zara_]

@asker, she said "Paul shows interest in Sarah, but Sarah declines repeatedly", it implies Sarah had made it clear she didn't want it.

[Stacyzee]

@_Zara_ Simply stating that Paul shows interest In Sarah (before getting intoxicated) and that she declines repeatedly doesn't give me enough information as to whether she stated "Yes" or "No" while intoxicated.
That information was not clearly specified.

[heavensgift2girls]

That isn't rape. That is someone making a decision that they later regret. People are free to change their mind, or to approach someone more than once, and being drunk doesn't change that. Drinking effects our behavior, and we know that before every taking a drink. The moment we choose to get drunk we must assume responsibility for any choice we make while intoxicated.

It is wrong to hold men responsible for what we do with our genitals while drunk, and claim women aren't equally as responsible for what they do with their genitals while drunk. If people don't want to be held accountable for their decisions while drunk, then they shouldn't drink. That completely solves that issue.

If we reverse the genders and say that Paul had turned Sarah down because he was married, and then they later had sex after they got drunk, Paul wouldn't be a rape victim, he would just be a cheating pig. Being drunk doesn't mean you aren't just as responsible for your actions.

[creepycreeper]

What I'm sick of is women who refuse to take responsibility for their own safety. You want equality? Fine here is a switchblade, protect your goddamn self from muggers and rapists, because nobody ever jumped in to save me. Hell I can't even make a career out of teaching self-defense because everyone thinks the cops have magic teleportation powers and will arrive instantly to save the day if called.

[Words_and_Wisdom]

What's worse is that when you tell that to a girl, feminists tell you to "stop blaming the victim!" and "teach boys not to rape."

[creepycreeper]

@Words_and_Wisdom Oh I apologize for victim blaming, let me just walk right up to those Mexican drug cartel members and explain to them how gang raping a woman is immoral. I'm sure they'll comprende, si?

[YourFutureEx]

Brilliant! Absolutely brilliant.

I was having a session with a girl. I asked her to do one thing and she replied in serious tone that "don't rape me, okay?" I was like "really? Are you serious?"
After that incident, I realised that how much and how can it could be misused. I became very cautious after that. :/

[Anonymous]

Oh, you'd annoy the feminists so much with this take. Victim blaming (which is synonymous apparently with even suggesting that she has some responsibility for her choices which affect her safety). And the twisting of gender inequality to imply that women are actually better off than men in a particular circumstance.

Oh, the pitchforks! Oh the humanity!

[Dipsy]

Great myTake!
There seriously are lots of girls on here who says it's men's fault for raping, but it is women's responsibility too, like you said.
The world needs more people like you lol, also luckily you seem to be a person who doesn't want superior rights for women on this topic.

I hope and think you will come far in life by this :)

[Bandit74]

Great take

Had a guy written it I don't think it would have been taken as seriously. It's alway nice to see girls take a stand on issues like this.

[chrisbigman]

I agree. Men are held accountable when they actually rape. Women should be held accountable when they cry rape.

[Hautt]

It's so important not to allow yourself to get into those situations. While you have the use of your faculties, actually use them to get out of there.