I recently read a question on why women are so critical of other women and it got me thinking. Let me start this by saying that my limited experience only describes western culture and I do not presume to understand the dynamics in cultures outside of my own. The answer in my opinion is that society rewards women for being critical of other women.
We all know that girl who "claims" to be a "guys girl" who just doesn't get along with other girls, because their catty, their boring, their superficial. Society rewards these girls by labeling them "cool" girls. Now don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with having mostly guy friends. My university group was made up of 3 girls (including me) and 8 guys. But, if you are actively passing up female friendships due to ridiculous stereotypes you are exactly the kind of girl you claim to hate. Like what you like, but do not criticize others just for having interests that differ from your own. I love reading, but that doesn't take the value or the skill away from past times like sewing. We need to stop buying into the myth that all things associated with the feminine are bad. Liking sports does not make you better then women who like make-up.
The worst part of this is that we all fall for it hook line and sinker. We buy the best workout gear so we can be better then that "bimbo" down the road. We make fun of preteen girls for liking Justin Bieber or in my day Nsync. We all sit there screaming as loud as our vocal chords will allow us that we aren't like the others. We are different, we are special, we are deserving of attention.
The fact of the matter is that we are EXACTLY like other girls. There is nothing wrong with being like other girls. Girls are great! As much as I love my guy friends they were not the shoulder I cried on when my Uncle got diagnosed with cancer. They were not the one I went to when they guy I have been crushing on for months shot me down cold. They also were not the ones who followed me to store after store searching for the perfect outfit. Or sat with me eating tubs of ice cream after a particularly hard break-up. Believe it or not other girls are your greatest resource to navigate this crazy, confusing, insane world we live in. You aren't special, you aren't unique, and you aren't alone in this world. Take comfort in that and seek out other women who share common interests.You might just find your greatest supporter.