You hear it all the time. Women love confidence. Women are attracted to confidence. For many women, it is true, but it is to their own disadvantage and I will explain why.
First of all, what is confidence? People basically define it as being sure of yourself, being sure of your abilities, sure that a girl will like you, not showing fear, etc. There we have our first fallacy. Nothing in life is certain. In fact, uncertainty is the only certainty after removing the veil of illusion from your mind. Confidence is a trait which serves the ego and helps it survive by convincing you that 1) you are better than other people 2) you are more important than other people 3) you are different than other people, etc. This is nothing but a survival mechanism created by the ego. If a man does not realize these simple facts of life, does that not reflect his inability to see through bullshit? In such a case, being attracted to a confident man is actually a bad thing because it only means he's shallow and/or dumb (unless you go for that type of thing).
Second, many women mistake something else for confidence. It may be the case that a man simply doesn't care what you think of him, therefore there is no risk involved if you reject him. I have actually seen many men that are this way and many women mistake it for confidence. If you end up going for such a man, don't be surprised when he leaves you, treats you bad, or cheats on you. It could also be the case that if a man comes across as too confident, the woman may assume he is a player. She may be correct, after all it's no secret that women like confidence. Every pick-up artist says it and it stands to reason that a guy with lots of practice with women will develop something resembling confidence. However, the assumption that confident men are players isn't necessarily correct either.
Third, women that like confident men generally tend to be more shallow. Let's be honest, being confident is a comfortable and good feeling. Feelings are contagious. If the woman feels comfortable and good, she is more likely to respond positively. She doesn't look any further than her own feeling to decide whether a man is a good fit or worthy of her time. Unbeknownst to her, it paints everything she sees about him in a good light. Other women are just looking for sex and look no farther than a man's confidence level to determine how he will perform in bed. Since I have no interest in this type of woman, I will not discuss them any further.
Women, how does it feel to be betrayed by your own instinct and intuition? God knows it will be the day when a woman admits to being wrong.
I realize that despite being bullshit, confidence does actually serve a purpose. For example, school children who are the oldest in their grade are twice as likely to succeed in life simply because it creates a pattern of them doing better than other people. I know, it's horrible that something so stupid and arbitrary can determine someone's fate. Giving your child compliments that aren't true can make them more likely to succeed as a result, even though they will probably annoy people for the rest of their life with their arrogance. Thoughts?