Confidence, confidence, confidence. If you're like me, you've probably heard a thousand times already that confidence is sexy. But what is confidence really? So many people today are talking about how important it is. Well, I'm going to share a bit about it from my own experiences and hopefully you can take away something useful.
The first step to answering this question lies in another question: Where does Confidence come from? How are those girls so comfortable? How did those guys at that party laugh so easily? Well it's not because their gorgeous like you think. It's not because they have a reason to be confident at all, really. Nowadays people find a reason why they can be confident i.e they look good, have a good body, or a good job. But that type of confidence doesn't last and it's only a temporary fix to hide insecurity.
So how do we find real confidence then, not just something to be confident about? Well I found this out while exploring the roots of pride and what is born from it. Pride is something we deem better than others, it's something we have Confidence in other than ourselves. Pride can even become arrogance if is grows out of control. What most people have is pride, mistaken for confidence, I believe. As confidence is actually born from Humility. And I'm not talking about the pridefully humble type either. (I'm so much more humble than you).
This is how I found confidence, I started to really force myself to be humble. And the only way I could do that was to only compare myself, with myself. I stopped looking at how I was doing compared to my peers. And you know what... I started to like myself. Really like myself. It's okay if I fail, I'll get it next time. I was kinder to myself when I wasn't competing.
After two or three months of practicing humility, I was starting to see some real changes coming about. I cared about myself, I wanted to make myself succeed for my own sake. I liked who I was. I smiled more. I didn't care about what others did, but I was happy for them when they achieved. I had finally found real confidence.I sincerely hope that by sharing this, some of you can find confidence too!
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I have that trait of pride. My cinfidence seems arrogant at some point.
Like you said, basically not care about what others think or say.
I have done things that went against what others seem to be negative but I believe in myself and I became more successful than my peers.
I am not beautiful, but my confundrnce show my beauty.
All came from within.
I'm glad you share my opinion :)
Interesting Take, some people mistake confidence with arrogance. I like your perspective about confident people trying to be humble
Thank you!
No problem :)
Good my take although I don't know how to be confident in me
Go answer my question...