My Life As a Purple Pill Ladies Man: Absent Fathers are the Fault of Women Too

[Apope16]

This is not a diary of sexual conquest. This is a reflective series on my interactions with women and how I am treated as a man. Simply put, reflections on female nature in my life.

What do I mean by Purple Pill? I just mean someone who enjoys dating women and having female friends but I also am mindful of "female nature". Men can debate whether I am red pill or blue pill or whatever. But I only have 2,000 characters and dont have time to get bogged down in definitions.

Am I a ladies man? This title is basically clickbait. However, 99% of my relationships are women.

It is because women in my life trust me. They tell me everything.

I once dated a single mom who conceived in a drunken night. She said she never wanted kids. I asked her why she chose to move forward with the pregnancy. She tells me, "Yeah. I dont know. Even my Dad said I didn't have to do it. I just felt I wouldn't get a chance someday." Based on previous conversations baby daddy had another girl in the picture that he wound up marrying. The pregnancy was used to keep the guy and lock him down.

I was talking to my sister and I asked her why she chose to have a kid with a druggie who was abusive. She said, "I wanted a Latino baby." I told her that is cool but that she could have waited for a guy who wasn't a druggie and who would be a part of the picture. She said she didn't care about having a Daddy that would stay. As long as she had a baby. "But isn't it wrong to force a child to come into the world without a father?" My sister got pissed off and said, "Shut the fuck up!"

I spoke to my best friend once. She told me, "I think when I am in my mid 30s and I get pregnant I will just have the kid if I am pregnant." I told her that women have more means of contraception and more means of stopping a pregnancy. I asked her, "Aren't you forcing a child to come to the world without a father?" She says, "Yes. But father's aren't really needed anymore. Most women are raising kids these days."

[Celtero]

I'd go farther and say it's almost exclusively women's fault, as they're the one with the uterus. They choose the deadbeats, they drive good men away, etc.

Perhaps men would share responsibility if abortion weren't a thing, as accidental pregnancy is a shared mistake. But women solely get to decide if that pregnancy is terminated or not.

Women decide which men they're with, and they decide when the child enters the picture, so I'm not sure how it can't be their fault. Unless somehow a guy is perfectly fine, convinces the woman he wants children, then bails when children are born... which seems very unlikely.

[Gwenhwyfar]

I like you, but this is a REALLY biased view. I don’t feel this way and neither do a lot of women, but if a woman wants to have a baby on her own for whatever reason there is nothing wrong with that. (I think I hit most of the hot buttons on your previous Take.)

[Apope16]

Thanks for your opinion. Obviously we will agree to disagree. I find that most women these days no longer think that fatherhood even matters. That is how much men are disrespected these days.

[Gwenhwyfar]

I want my baby to have two parents if possible, but plenty of my friends want to raise a baby on their own and there’s nothing wrong with that.

[Apope16]

Isn't that selfish not only of yourself... but for the baby? You are universally declaring that a child will be hurt forever without a father. And you make this decision when the baby has no choice?

[Gwenhwyfar]

You raise a good point...

I don't know. Not sure.

[Apope16]

Thats really the main point that I am making. Thats really the only point that matters really.

[sensible27]

Maybe it's hard for someone to find a father that's as good for them (kids, as she is. Maybe unlikely and not applicable to all but possibly). And if they have the financial thing sorted out, maybe it doesn't make that much of a difference after all.

[Barbaric]

Your friends are gonna raise some fucked up kids.

[DonCachondo]

@Gwenhwyfar Yeah it's not a "baby" for long. It's an entirely new human being with their own set of complicated needs and problems.

[jkm1864]

Women should never be allowed to raise a son without a man to help guide that son. Being a man does not just happen He needs a father figure to teach Him the ropes. The fact of the matter is watch little boys play and You will see their nature that mother nature and god intended for Him. Little boys will wrestle and play fight. Hell as a child We would have BB Gun Wars, firecracker wars, and bicycle jousts. Yes our play was violent but guess what men are made to fight each other and to compete for resources and love. This is the very reason Men will never have a men's right movement because men are always competing with each other and if they need a team they will form a team to compete against another team. This is the exact same thing that women don't realize and they actually try to raise them like little girls and then they wonder why their sons are so fucked up. If Your a single mother with a son then get Him into team sports ASAP because it teaches Him to compete and to work as a unit to defeat an other group. The added bonus is that son won't get bullied because men are tribal beings and the team is His tribe and anyone whom attacks that tribe will eventually have to fight the whole team. After school have Him enrolled in some form of combat training so He can learn to fight and compete one on one which teaches confidence and how to get up off His ass when life knocks Him down. You need to keep Your son extremely busy and make sure He follows a schedule and when He does good in school then He gets rewarded with video game time. I've seen to many young boys ruined because mothers gave them whatever they wanted and when it came time for them to leave the coop He wasn't capable of leaving the coop and the mothers had to support them for many years well into adulthood.

[bulltaker]

Who in the fuck put you in charge of how she should raise her son?
I am not saying you are wrong, I am saying it is non of your business.

[Dutchgirl97]

God created man to be fathers, leaders and to show their daughters how a loving man should be. Fathers are the first male relationship they have.

Women raising children on their own isn't usually by a choice. Or a choice for the better good.

[Dutchgirl97]

Women need Fathers. Absolutely.

[Apope16]

Okay, but what do you say to many women who would argue that single women are raising kids now days? What about those who say that the only thing men are good for is sperm donation? What value does a father or a man bring in a child's life anyway?

[Dutchgirl97]

I would say that i am sorry that they were not able to find a man to make a good father in their eyes.

To those who say their only good for sperm donation are hurt and havnt had much luck with men who made them feel more than just a incubator or an object.

Fathers protect their daughters. Teach them value from a man. Of course woman can do this! Im a mother myself. But through a child's eyes, their Dad is the first man in their life whom they can compare other men to while their older.

I think fathers are extremely valueable into shaping a womans life as a child.

[Apope16]

Thanks for your contribution. I think you made some good points. IN some ways a woman who is say 36 or something and she is reaching that cutoff age where she's always wanted a kid.. i can actually understand it... but dont ask the father for money if you make that decision.

[Arjunaguy]

Yeah women ten to not want father's in their kids life as much. They maybe fine with it but what about the kid, the kid would always wonder about their dad and think why he isn't there and if it's their fault. This is very bad for the kid's mental health

[HoratioCaine]

The women you are describing most likely were told they were worthless and only worth something if they reproduce. most people dont see emotional abuse as a problem when they aren't the ones under fire because you can't see the bruises. its mostly from being shamed by parents at a young age up until they are able to leave. parents shape who we are in eitheer negative or positive ways

[bamesjond0069]

I mean imagine you are a pretty good looking cool successful guy. Now all these nasty women are throwing themselves at you. You get one pregnant. Will you have some slut skank crazy woman to deal with the rest of your life or will you just write it all off and continue to look for a decent woman to be with... hmmm

[sensible27]

You know it's not hard to understand adults, you take kids and stack them up with irrational arguments and beliefs and there you go. To some extent I would say children/kids are actually smarter/better. Maybe sad? Maybe too too sad...

[MzAsh]

Women shouldn't be letting men get away from fatherhood responsibilities. It's only enabling sexually reckless and deadbeat behavior.

[Apope16]

They never signed up for the responsibility. A woman forced it on them. See my new mytake "Intentionally Having Babies Without A Father is Breach of Contract".

[MzAsh]

Another reason why it's important to filter the women you have sex with. Wrap your dick up if nothing else.

[BlckGrl]

Yes some women do use children to trap the man, very few but yes. A lot of woman are single mothers because the father steps out.

[I-am-a-nobody]

Looks like I just have to avoid your take on anything...
I don't know how you can get more wrong than your last one and then you sink even lower.

[DonCachondo]

99% of your relationships... so does that mean you've dated at least 100 people AND one of them wasn't female?

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

It could mean he's dated 50 people and one of them is trans. :D

[DonCachondo]

@HungLikeAHorsefly that too! That would apply under "wasn't female" though. "Woman," sure but not "female."

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

Or it could mean he's got one male friend, a mom, a sister, got friendzoned 96 times and one female friend gave him awkward pity sex for his birthday one year

[DonCachondo]

@HungLikeAHorsefly LOL! by the way great name

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

Thanks, same to you. I had to look it up. Nice.

[Anonymous]

The part where your sister says to "STFU" should tell you something. What right do you have talking that way to people and their choices. Stop judging so much.

[ask4any]

Most fathers they say aren't needed only because they don't want to admit that they themselves are the reason daddy's gone!!!

[Cherokeehp]

What exactly was the point of this?

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Clearly you haven't been around many good women.