1. Have Unbridled Emotions.
Having emotions is fine, but if you lose your mind when you are angry or sad, that's not a good look. Read a book about it or something and practice getting your emotions out in better, non-embarrassing ways. Like exercise, or talking.
2. Be Self-Unaware.
You dominate every conversation, never ask questions, and often interrupt others? Read the room. Look OUTWARD when making conversation. If they haven't talked in a minute, open the floor to them. Ask for their opinion, or introduce a topic you know they like. Make conversations a group activity, not only about you.
3. Always Take, Never Give
There's nothing wrong with asking for a fry off your partner's plate, but remember they like fries too. They give you presents, they like getting presents. Give you compliments, they like receiving compliments too. Love languages work like that. If you never give them anything, your partner will feel unvalued and start to worry you're just in it for the benefits. It's important to show you love them too. Whether that gesture is grand, or just getting fries yourself to share with them next time you go through the drive-thru.
4. Be an asshole.
Nobody likes an asshole. Not even a "funny" one, or a part-time asshole who "is nice when you get to know them." Stop it. Nobody wants to get to know you, you're an asshole. Thats a bad look. So self-reflect a bit about why you do that, and then get a different hobby that serves the same need. Like painting, or hunting.
5. Be Irresponsible.
Always getting fired, getting dumped, getting in trouble somehow. Eventually, you gotta acknowledge the possibility that you are part of the problem. Sometimes people are just incredibly unlucky and get screwed over no matter what they do—but that's not most situations. There is probably at least ONE thing you could work on on yourself to improve your chances of things working out in some area of your life. Whether that is time management, money management, or one of the above issues, recognizing and improving in your weaker areas shows you have real potential and character. So give it a try!
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