Since my original response got erased, why not post it here, instead? I won't link the original, but it's not hard to find the "split the check at our first meeting over dinner" post.
Here's what female Anonymous 18-29 (mostly) said:
"Okay, not the biggest deal ever, BUT...! Isn’t a guy splitting a check with a girl at dinner a sign he’s not serious about her? It seemed a little cheap to me! Guys are supposed to always pay for my food at all times! Even coworkers! He spent his own money to buy things for himself. How dare he?! I know he has money! He’s my coworker and we make the same amount of money! He told me he never dates coworkers but I assumed I was an exception, despite what he just said. He seemed into me a LOT, based on my own biased point of view, and even asked me to dinner this week (with a bunch of other people in a platonic setting, but I'm not going to tell you that). Should I excuse my coworker not giving me free food and not make a huge deal about it like an actual adult would? Or should I whine and bitch about not being a sugar baby to my coworker here on GAG so a bunch of internet strangers can make me feel good about being an entitled immature female pushing 30 still expecting men to wine and dine me?"
So he’s not serious about you then. Or it means it respects you and knows what you make for a living. I mean, you two are coworkers, why TF should he have to pay for your Happy Meal like you're five years old?
I'm so sick of modern women wanting to have their cake and eat it too. And if you have a problem with not being a sugar baby to a man, then you should just decline the date, tell him exactly why, and be honest with him, instead of doing the "I'm a strong independent woman who can make her own money, but I still LIKE IT when a guy simps to me and kisses my ass cause free food is free!"
Only thing I have to say he did wrong on his end, is asking you out and dating a coworker to begin with. That has "BAD F*CKING IDEA!!!" written all over it. Or... It is a platonic date and maybe you're just reading it as something more than two coworkers hanging out.
But yeah, he's stupid on that end, and you sound like a sugar baby who wants some simp to be a paypig for you, from my end. (And yes, I know damn well I use that word, "simp," too much. But it's true.)
So yeah. It's a shame your coworker who makes an equal amount of money as you, didn't kiss your shoe and pay off your debts this month. SOWWY! 😭
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