Why do women have a problem being sex objects?

[Anonymous]

Don't they realize that if the opposite gender wasn't ever seen as a sex object, there would be no sex, or children? I would understand being upset about ONLY being seen as a sex object, but so many act like it is never okay to see the opposite gender as a sex object. This seems completely unreasonable to me, that they don't recognize there is a healthy middle ground.

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+1 y

Women are the ones using the term "sex object" any time a guy is attracted to a woman he doesn't know on a personal level. That is why I decided to use that term. I also put both genders in the same category.

[Mesonfielde]

Being sexually aroused by someone's physical appearance doesn't make them into an object. They're not evaluated as objects, they are evaluated along the scale of attractiveness as a female human being. Well, in an ideal scenario, anyways. Many males seem to feel entitled towards sex with a females and to have and own a girlfriend just because they "targeted them", and it's all thanks to our culture claiming that males and females are So different that there is "literally no way to understand one another" (even though basically all you need to do is utilize empathy, but many people suck at that to begin with because it's not taught nor improved in a typical schooling scenario)

Anyways, if you want to see the problem with objectification, you should watch the documentary called "Killing Us Softly 4", I'm pretty sure you can find it online somewhere, I found it by looking for it too.

[Asker]

I agree that technically they aren't sex objects, but that is the term commonly used by women when they complain about it. So that is why I used it.

[Mesonfielde]

Well okay, I'll go for the gender-mirrored approach. Being treated as a sex object as a guy is if someone finds you attractive for nothing more than your back and arm muscles, and your abs. Maybe your manly moustache. And of course, the bigger your penis the better, anyone under 7" is just not worth the effort. Also, make sure you're over 6 feet tall.

[Mesonfielde]

Of course, they don't even know your name yet.

[Asker]

That has more to do with being insecure, than the other person seeing your gender as a sex object. Besides that is already what women do. Look on any dating site and see how many of them won't even consider a guy that isn't a certain height.

[Mesonfielde]

You missed the part about checking only your muscle structure but don't even know your name and still want to bang you disregarding whether you'd consent or not but only for a night because that's all guys are good for

[Asker]

I didn't miss that part. I already mentioned in my question that I understood a person could be upset about ONLY being seen as a sex object. The truth is you want to be seen as a sex object, and be admired for your muscle structure, and other physical traits, as least some of the time. So why pretend like it is always bad to do so.

[Mesonfielde]

there's still a subtle difference between "sexually appealing" and "sex object".

[Asker]

Yes but not the way they use the term.

[kheserthorpe]

They are raised with a false dichotomy, that guys want sex, or they are looking for a relationship and love and will be happy not having sex forever if you're not ready.

So they think guys are looking for sex OR love.

Where guys who are no longer brainwashed are typically looking for sex, OR sex AND love.

But what girls are told is stuff to discourage them from having sex with anyone, and I guess to keep them away from liars. For hundreds of years, men's interest was inappropriate (sex) or appropriate (marry in a couple months, then sex all the time). So it was easy to say he'd wait if he really liked you. You know, till 2 months from now.

Now girls meet some guy, fall in love, and think if he really wants to have sex with them, and that's a factor, he must not really love them.

[NoblesseOblige]

lmao 2 months from now

[Asker]

It does seem that they have a really unhealthy view of male sexuality.

[kheserthorpe]

A lot of men have an unhealthy view of sexuality as well.

Most of what we're taught is intended to make us avoid premarital sex, not to have fulfilling sexual relationships with people we care about.

[NoblesseOblige]

Are you saying you waited until marriage?

[kheserthorpe]

People are hung up on the word object. At various times in my day or week, I'm a worker object, a manager object, a wallet object, a cook object, a daddy object, a repairman object, a sex object. And I'm not all of them at once, and that's okay.

[Asker]

Exactly. You can be something, but it still just be one part of you.

[Hannah591]

It's the "object" part. Since when has it been acceptable to call a human being an object, let alone an object that offers a free service? You may as well call women dildo's or blow up dolls because that's what you're calling them. You do NOT need to view women as sex objects for sex to happen and to have children, that's so stupid. Do you really think women's boyfriends/husbands/fiances view their women as sex objects and that's only how they can have sex with them? No, they love their women and respect them, that's why they get sex. You need to rethink a lot of things and respect women more.

[Asker]

I understand not agreeing with the term "object" but that is the word women are using to describe it. They use that word just because a guy is sexually attracted to a woman, or physical trait she has. If I think a woman has a nice butt, it doesn't mean I don't value her as a human being, or that I think she should be used for nothing for sex.

[Hannah591]

We use that word to refer to what men say. Men came up with it, not us.

[Asker]

That is a lie. Guys are not running around calling women objects.

[Hannah591]

You're ignorant if you think guys don't do that. I've come across too many men who are highly disrespectful to women.

[Asker]

Some are disrespectful, most of the time however that word has nothing to do with a lack of respect. Just because a guy says a woman has a nice butt, or has a poster of a girl on his wall, doesn't mean he thinks of her as an object that exists for his pleasure. That is how the word is most commonly being used.

[Anonymous]

Ag please just cause he used the word object all the panties r in a knot! We r sex objects! But try sexual goddess rather! So much less offensive to those who do not think of themselves in that way. And please in future try be more tactful! No one like politically incorrect people! (Bull shit!) Why do females do, act and dress that way if not to be a sex object? We have our fat sucked out our faces lifted boobs made bigger. Why? Cause it's the rite thing to do? Crap! Cause we want to be looked at, noticed and wanted! So u ladies that have had a fit about being what u r... Get real!

[Asker]

I don't think they would understand if I said sexual goddess, so I wasn't sure how to be more PC and still ask my question. Thank you for actually understanding.

[HiddenJadeBlade]

yes that is completely agreeable with that being said some women don't want to be seen as an sex object because it usually carries a negative connotation with it normally like being a whore or a prostitute and other various women of the night, there for like back in the olden days woman want to associate themselves to a classier standard like a lady rather then a harlot (and omg i can't believe i used the word harlot) so there you go it goes way back to when the only women who were seen as sex objects where whore and not respectable woman

[DanAG]

I 100% agree with the OP. Most of the people answering seem to have missed when he said "ONLY". It was all caps and people still missed it.

Women are sex objects. That's a simple fact. There are millions of years of evolution at play here. We have two genders for a reason. We have males and we have females. Why? Because of sex, period. That's the entire reason for having two sexes. There is absolutely no other reason for two genders to even exist.

Humans are social animals. Therefore we are attracted to other people. But the entire reason we are specifically attracted to females in a different way than males is because of sex.

[Theguyoverthere]

As an object serving no other purpose other than sex what happens is the guy only concerns with getting himself off and completely ignoring the partner's chance at achieving an orgasm filled sex session. Plus a lot of people have emotions involved so having them ignored after can be devastating. Guys don't mind because they get off and that's it but it works differently for women. A lot of women like things in bed that guys can find to be a chore. Many women have told me sex with their past partners was literally sticking their dick in and shooting a load and calling it a night. That's very stale and empty. Plus sex with a good friend or lover is a lot more gratifying and a lot of people want more than stale sex... both men and women.

[still_waiting]

There's a difference between being sexually attracted to someone and viewing them as an object. Sexual attraction is completely normal and perfectly okay, but disregarding a woman as a human being and treating her like a thing to have sex with its NOT okay. Ya tard

[still_waiting]

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=u_4dPB9MVS8

Men are NOT seen as sex objects. Refer to video

[Asker]

I am not talking about some extreme version of the term where women are nothing more than objects that are for having sex. A woman can be a mother, but it doesn't men she isn't anything more than a mother. A woman can be a doctor, but it doesn't men she can't be anything more than a her job. These are just parts of a whole. Men and women can be a lot of things, and sex object is one of them. I understand if you don't like the term "sex object" but that is the phrase commonly thrown around so that is why I am using it.

[still_waiting]

I think you're mistaking women's anger towards being objectified as anger towards sexual desire or something. Refer to my comment on Dcosse's answer. That's an example of objectification

[Asker]

I think maybe some women are the ones mistaking the difference. Which is the entire point of my post. So many of them think any attraction or sexual desire is equal to being a sex object. Going by that definition, they shouldn't have a problem with it since it is a normal and healthy desire to have.

[SuperPowers]

This post stinks. You attitude towards woman is very degrading and disrespectful...

Men like you gave the male race as bad name.. that's why men are known as being "pigs".

It's not healthy to think of any human being as an object. We are humans not robots, we have emotions, souls, and so do you. How hurtful is this way of thinking..

You will not get a good woman with this way of thinking.. change your attitude ASAP dude.

[Asker]

My attitude towards women, is the same I have for men. I said both genders are sex objects, but that they should be seen as more than ONLY a sex object.

[DivaMonae]

No there's a difference a sex object is simply something made to only have sex.

We are people ans there's so much more to it yes sex is important but we're not sex objects.

[Asker]

I guess it depends on how you want to define the term sex object, but even if another word or phrase is used they still get upset over it.

[Dcosse]

Because we aren't fucking objects. We're people, the same as you are. You're saying if women aren't seen as sex objects that the human race wouldn't continue. We have intelligent thoughts, ideas, intellect, strength, we aren't simply here for men to fuck whenever their penis gets up. We're equals and tired of being treated like we're only here for tits and our vagina.

[Asker]

Never said you weren't people, or equal. Yes if men and women didn't see the other gender as a sex object, the human race wouldn't continue.

[Dcosse]

No, there's a difference between beig sexually attracted to someone and treating them as an object. When you see someone as a sex object, you don't respect them. All you think they are good for is sex. Your word usuage is totally off.

[Asker]

No guy looks at a woman and says, "Hey look at that sex object!" Obviously the word choice is one women use and not men. Any time a guy sees an attractive girl in the media, we can get accused of seeing women as sex objects, because we are attracted to them. That is what I am talking about.

[Mesonfielde]

The "objectification" part comes into play when you cut them into pieces, evaluate them based on their boobs and butt but not the overall attractiveness, you disregard their thoughts and behavior and you're basically incapable of seeing a potential relationship for anything more than an opportunity for free sex.

[still_waiting]

Example of what Mesonfielde said: I was hanging out with my female friend and a few other guys and they the guys talked about who has nicer tits, a nicer ass, nicer hair, nicer skin, and nicer lips for about five minutes right in front of us. Like we're literally objects for their viewing pleasure.

[Asker]

Guys are attracted to body parts. It doesn't mean we don't consider the woman a whole person, just because we aren't disusing her other traits in that moment. Besides I am pretty sure women talk about guys the same way. In fact I know they do.

[musicbrain5]

Maybe because we're also people? There's a negative connotation attached to the term "sex object", like it implies she is a whore or something even if she is not.

[Asker]

Of course you are people. I was very careful in my wording to show that both genders can be sexualized the same why, so that it wouldn't seem like women were less than men for it.

[BCRanger10]

There's a difference between having a physical/sexual attraction for someone (which is normal, good, and healthy) and seeing them as a sexual object with no other purpose than satisfying sexual lust and fantasies, i. e., prostitution, p*rn, etc.

[yellowmamba024]

Well we have a huge population on Earth. It's not like population is going to be a problem. Even though if women are fine with being seen as sex objects, reproduction will not be a problem still. So women are free to have a problem being sex objects.

[RedThread]

This just this..

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=u_4dPB9MVS8

[Asker]

Did you actually listen to that nonsense? "This is an object. Objects exist to do something for me." Everyone that you allow in your life is there because they do something for you. A parent, friend, boss, employee, all provide something for you. If they have nothing to offer you, then you wouldn't want them in your life. Therefore everyone is an object at some point. This woman twists facts to prove what she wants to prove. She even brings transgenders into it, and male transgenders go through the same thing as female transgender. The whole point she is trying to make is we are over bombarded with sexual images of women, then goes on to complain about that they try to stop it by not allowing a woman to wear a tank top, again it is objectification. So we objectify them if we look, and we objectify them if we try to stop it. This is just false victimization. She is a nut.

[Anonymous]

How would you feel if that's all a woman thought of you as. Yes, it'd be nice to be getting all of that sex but really, when it comes down to it, wouldn't you feel disgusted by her, if that's all she thought of you as?

[Asker]

Read the question "I would understand being upset about ONLY being seen as a sex object".

[NoblesseOblige]

The dumb ones. They don't realize that if a guy isn't attracted to you for sex, we don't want you at all. It's all or nothing yo.

[NoblesseOblige]

Like literally I knew 7 year olds who new that fact.

[Asker]

I agree. That is why I don't understand why so many women seem to take issue with it.

[NoblesseOblige]

They are stupid. They adopt this weird victim mentality. Like we're here to rob them of something. lmao. Those girls don't make it far.

[kheserthorpe]

That's how it was.

On top of the fact that the average first period in victorian era was age 16. They'd be married 2 years later, to some guy who had courted them for like a couple months.

Can't think why people have trouble waiting for marriage now. Must be ethical collapse of society.

[kheserthorpe]

Nope.

But we are all conditioned to view people who want sex or care about appearance as shallow, as though both can't coexist.

Basically the only people who are 'good' are asexuals who are indifferent to appearance.

[BrunetteNYC]

And why do men mind when seen only as wallets?

[Asker]

As I said I can understand not wanting to be seen as ONLY sex objects. Men don't have an issue being seen as providers, we just don't want to be seen as ONLY wallets. Those are simply parts of a whole.

[SadWalkingAwaySong]

We don't mind it. I mean, yeah, we don't want a golddigging whore or whatever but, the point of a relationship, is compromise. We want to pay for you, but, you have to be willing to at least offer to pay. It's all about compromise

[yellowmamba024]

Yeah me being seen only as wallets is just as bad as women being seen as sex objects.

[BrunetteNYC]

So funny you say that, @Sad because quite honestly, I have not met a man yet willing to pay - only saying that MANY guys fail when you hold them to traditional standards. I can offer to pay and do, but I mean long term, there's a lot of guys looking to mooch off their women. It's very odd.

[Anonymous]

Because we are more then our bodies

[Asker]

No kidding... Maybe you should read the question, instead of just the title.