What do girls think about cold distant men?

[Anonymous]

what do women think when they speak with a man who is very well dressed, handsome, polite, cold, distant, indifferent, yet interested?

also when he has a 'smoldering gaze' (he stares into your eyes for longer than normal)?

is it a turn on? or not?

why?

[Ozanne]

Cold isn't sexy and I wouldn't really want much to do with someone like that, man or woman. But if this is a question about being attracted to someone sexually and wanting to pursue something, then he might be an attractive man and I might be curious to know why he's being distant, but I wouldn't go out of my way if he doesn't bring the guard down a little. A guy should be doing something just as much to impress ME when we meet and if he's not, and swimming in his little games and being distant, he'll have to work on that if he wants anything to do with me. But that's just my opinion. I don't chase.

[mattl338]

If a guy has to impress a girl just to have a chance with her. She’s not worth it. The mature way to go about it is to just go with the flow if you like each other, it shouldn’t be a challenge or competition to see how cool he is to impress someone. You shouldn’t need to impress anyone to have a chance with them, if you like each other, then give each other a chance. That simple.

[cheeseysouffle]

I've been giggling ever since I read this post. I really like the idea of it, but I've never met a man who actually was like that. There is something that says power about it to me. It's also like a game. There is something to be said about the chase. Logically, he's probably not a great guy and he might be more likely to cheat, but emotionally? It's like a challenge.

[Asker]

how would a guy like this make his interest known? besides asking questions, listening, and giving eye contact?

[cheeseysouffle]

My expectation would that he would be blunt and take control of the situation. Let's say I met said guy at a bar or at an event. Initially, I would look for something that would invite me over, like if we locked eyes and he wasn't the one to break contact first. What I've see to find is that if someone breaks eye contact quickly, they're not interested.

Then I would expect him to make the first move, be confident in what he was doing. He wouldn't ask if I would like a drink, he would ask what I was drinking or what I preferred and then get it for me anyways- or maybe he would come over and just ask me for my name out right. It's not so much that women want to be controlled, it's that they want the man to have control of the situation. Again, I've never met a man like this but it would definitely catch my attention

[Asker]

I see. I find that there are so many varied reactions. normally, I speak, ask questions and listen. the woman normally stutters and asks me many questions. I answer, and I find that they always ask me why I look at them this way. I say 'it is polite to give your full attention to a person when they speak'. I find that many women are varied in reactions.

[Asker]

but how may I know that a woman realizes my interest? or how can I convey it, besides eye contact, listening, & asking questions?

[cheeseysouffle]

No two women are exactly the same, so what works for me probably won't work for other women. If you're having trouble getting a date, maybe just continue to be forward. Say that you would like to get to know them better and hand them your number, assuming that when you say interest you mean a date and not just a one night fling. I personally expect a guy to either ask for my number or give me his regardless of what his personality type. For all she knows, you could no longer be interested in her.

[selectivethought]

You've got good instincts. Smart girl. :)

[Anonymous]

I mean, there's something mysterious and compelling about those guys, but it's really hard to connect with them. He would have to make the first moves, because it's too intimidating to go near that wall. If he's cold and distant, how am I to know he's interested? And I love affection and warmth. So, I don't know if we'd be compatible.

[selectivethought]

Who says someone like that isn't affectionate and warm? You'd be surprised what you might discover.

[Opinion Owner]

He said "cold", so that's why I thought he wouldn't be too warm or affectionate...

[harakiri]

I think maybe... he wants to murder me and make a dress out of my skin.

I can't bear cold people. I'm already cold. I want someone warm.

[Levin]

You're not cold. I *still* remember the voice clip :P

[harakiri]

lmao! well. idk. i feel cold. like a polar bear.

[gemgem]

So you stereotype cold people as murderers even though you are one? Do you hate yourself?

[Plato]

Well, I'll tell you something. Women don't like cold men as men don't like cold women. I know this because when I'm trying to get rid of somebody who's into me, I am very... Very... Cold. This is the kind of behaviour you only use when you don't trust someone, when you're not willing to make a lukewarm friendship with them. I'm cold just because of that, but I wouldn't be towards a person that I trust.

[Anonymous]

What are you trying to figure why women like Scorpio men?

[findingdreamland]

I do not care. If i like him, i like his coldness too :) Can be a turn on. Who doesn't like Mark Darcy anways? :)

[hatit]

probably not.. it's awkward if the guy keeps staring and not say anything, just staring.. a little freaky..

[Infinity-mari]

That's very Christian Grey so it's definitely a turn on.

[WhaChaChaKing]

I would never date a guy like that but I wouldn't say no to a one-night stand lol.

[RocketZ]

Don't like them , won't like them.

[zombiebabe]

a freak? not interested