When I was a child up to my preteen, I was sassy and a little bitchy; had a strong temperament and wouldn't let anyone walk over me. But then my mom told me repeatedly to be nice until I became "too nice" in my teens, too afraid to "voice" myself and disturb anyone just because I wanted to please mom. Well high school was hell, but the worst is I continued until recently. People saw me as a pushover, used me, trampled me and the more they did, the less self esteem I had. The less self esteem I had, the more they abused my "niceness" and the vicious cycle went on and on until I decided no more! So now i'm back to being myself, a little bitchy, slowly rebuilding my self esteem. Now instead of using me, people are intimidated and call me a bitch. And you know what I realized? That people are NEVER happy. That they will project their insecurities into you so the best you can do is work on your self esteem while being you. Yes, that includes being "too friendly and nice" or being "bitchy and sassy" if that's who you are. Trying to be someone you're not will only make you unhappy like it did for me, and trust me it's not worth it.
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Empathy. You need to stop thinking in your shoes and start trying to see what it feels like in other peoples shoes. You probably think you're a bitch because of how other people are reacting to you. Really watch how people react to what you say. The thing is, it could just be the people themselves that are the problem. It could be you like you're saying, but you won't know until you start paying attention.
I'm also pretty impatient but my solution is to kinda not care about anything. Like at all. If you're really pissed you just imagine yourself beating them with an electric guitar and just think 'fuck you', but it helps to try and only see the best in everyone.
It seems like being a bitch gets you places. I'm sweet and apparently that's a problem.
People find different things annoying.
Perhaps you find many things people say or do annoying and eventually you snap. Maybe those "nice" people simply don't think those things are annoying so there is really nothing for them to react to or need for a cool temper. But of course, empathy, patience and a cool temper never hurts.
Your attitude towards others and what you expect from them plays a big role. If you want, expect or even demand others to be a certain way, then of course it will be annoying when they don't follow those expectation of "non annoying behaviour".
The first thing you should remember is that anyone you're bitchy to has friends.
Even if you were a selfish bitch, you might want to know those friends. They won't want to know you, after you've been bitchy to their friends.
You catch more flies with honey.
Before you open your mouth, think "Is there something nicer I could say, that won't shit people?"
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I don't think you should change, just be yourself. I wouldn't call you bitchy just because you're not nice to people you don't like - I'm neither but I'm rather passive aggressive. Some people will love your for this and some will not, that's it.
If you've been like this since childhood, it'll likely stick around for life. It's just part of your temperament. The only way I can think of is finding happiness in your life if it's currently absent. Can't love others until you love yourself, too.
As an asshole, I'll tell you how. You just have to replace certain offensive words with less offensive words. Like, when I start to call a girl a cunt, I'll call her cupcake instead.
I'll by saying a hate bitches, just so we are clear.
The key is to think positively about others, focus on the positive and neglect the negative aspects of whoever you usually bitches about.You are who you are, why change? You just have to find people who do not mind who you are.
Hmmm ok just dont be alarmed when someone. is a bitxh to. u
for a start you should realize world doesn't revolve around a person
there's no hope for you. Unless...
Stop being a bitch, bitch.
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