What's up with some girls saying "muscular guys are a turnoff"?

Question

I have been working out for 5 years and I am now 205 lbs lean about 10% body fat. I have seen on here before that some girls think muscular guys are a turn off? So is being fat a turn on? Or are these girls just pathetic and insecure over their bodies? Then again I don't work out for girls I work out because I enjoy it. So if girls think being in shape is a turn off that's hella pathetic.

Vinvei · Accepted Answer

I can't agree with the MHO this time, sorry.

It's not about boosting ego at all. At least not for me. I don't find overly muscular guys all that attractive physically. I like toned, but if they reach Superman level it's a bit of a turnoff. Not something that would matter the most, but it's not as attractive as guys like to think.

It's a personal taste. When a guy is overly buff he seems a bit intimidating to me.
Taylor Lautner has a nice body:
bestuff.com/.../toned-abs-287953.jpg?1287536546
Bodybuilders, though, are not really my thing.
https://www.mfablog.org/bodybuilder-forum-369.jpg

It's not even about how much chances we have with a guy, because most of the times we can't see their muscles anyway because they're hidden under their clothes.

It's the personality that matters, and the impression that a lot (not all, mind you) muscular guys give is that THEY are the ones with a huge ego. You're showing symptoms of an enlarged ego, for instance. I mean, you're very closed-minded. You're asking a question, so you should expect people to answer you honestly while you dismiss the honest opinions and only listen to people that agree with you. Are you really an adult?

That being said, it can be a turnoff to some. It's pretty normal. For instance, WHY DO MANY GUYS NOT LIKE MUSCULAR GIRLS? Somehow people don't take their time to think about that.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Sounds like you're the insecure one, if you're so upset that some girls on the internet said they don't like muscular guys...

Dude. Everyone has different preferences. And just because some people don't like muscles, it doesn't mean they think being fat is a turn on (although some guys and girls really do think being fat is attractive). But sometimes people prefere someone in between - not super skinny, not super fat, not super buff, not a couch potato, etc.

Do you like muscular girls? A lot of guys had said that muscular girls are a turn off. But does that mean they like fat girls? Certainly not.

Also, it might not be that muscles look bad, but maybe those girls think that body-builder personalities are super unattractive. It's great to stay in shape, and if you have to work out because you play a sport or something, that's totally understandable. But I know some guys who are OBSESSED with going to the gym and it's really ridiculous. I wouldn't want to date a guy who is that obsessed with his body. I want to date a guy who has a lot of different interests. If "working out" is his only activity, then I find that really dull.

SnowHearth · Accepted Answer

This And this Are turn-offs This  This  And this  Are not turn-offs

WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

Different people are into different things. I'm a gym guy too, and some girls have been very into it. I've also been passed over by girls in favor of scrawnier emo types. You gotta understand, girls aren't as visual as we are. We're way more about appearance than them. And even those that are into appearance, they're not all after the same appearance. Walk around for a day and you'll see all types of girls with all types of guys. We always search for that blanket statement, like "all hot girls are into in shape guys", but those blanket statements really aren't accurate. My gf is a hot chick, and she think Kevin fucking James of King of Queens/Paul Blart: Mall Cop fame is sexy. She thinks Bruce Willis' geriatric ass is sexy. And she at least claims to think the same of me, so you just can't pin it down. Its not as easy as " well, I work out, so I'll have first dibs on the best looking girls." I'll never forget this super hot chick I worked with like ten years ago hooking up with this 140 lb emo looking kid instead of me. Couldn't believe it, but it was a lesson learned. Just keep doing you, but you just can't expect that every girl will fall at your feet because you lift.

Joshua2332 · Accepted Answer

It's not a turnoff. Girls are all about boosting their ego. So when they see a guy who is ripped like yourself, they say they don't find it attractive when they really do. Girls saying "I don't find muscular guys attractive," = "I don't think I'll ever have a chance with him so I'm going to say it isn't attractive to make it seem like I'm better than him thus boosting my ego." Is it a turn off when girls squat and have a nice ass?

They say it on here, but I guarantee if you were to approach them, it would make their day.

Theguyoverthere · Answer

I've looked around on here and from that I've noticed, "lean and toned" is the most preferred look. "Beach body" looks basically are what I see most girls liking.

Also I think when a lot girls refer to not liking too much muscle, they are talking about super ridiculously roided guys who can barely move their arms and such. There are girls who posted their comparison pics on this site even.

A lot of girls also point out that guys who workout are extremely cocky and I have seen that. It doesn't matter what a guy looks like if he's cocky. It's just a turnoff. It's the same for a guy who meets a "10" girl but then listens to her go on all stuck up. Suddenly... that "10" is a "3."

The closest statement I can make supporting yours is that some girls cannot stand the idea of a guy looking better than them. If a guy looks "too good" some girls will not feel comfortable because they want to be the good looking one in a relationship. So they'll settle for a guy who they feel they look better in comparison to. What these girls don't realize is that they're not allowing other qualities they may have to factor into their compatibility.

Overall though in reality, many girls will fall for a good looking guy easily and even get completely blinded by looks.

lumos · Answer

I think guys that are *too* muscular are a turn off. And so is being overweight. It's not because I'm insecure over my own body. It's because I think it looks fucking ridiculous and unnatural as hell.
It's good to be in shape. However, it's unattractive to take it to the extreme. I like guys who look average-ish. Like you can tell that they probably work out every now and then, but they don't have super defined muscles. That's what I like. But if you don't work out for girls, why are you even bothered? Why bother calling us pathetic and insecure, why even bother with this question?

KillerTaco · Answer

WOW. These women are lying through their teeth. Now a muscular man is very sexy. It shows their masculinity and enhances their ability to "protect". Not that I'm old fashioned it's just man... A man with some nice traps and pecs.. HE'LL YES YOU CAN HAVE ME!!! ... Think I said that with too much enthusiasm but you get my point. Lol

pointy4 · Answer

As long as its not tooo much, and as long as you aren't obssessed with yourself i. e. taking selfies of your hot body, then hell yes love muscles like if you have a Chris Hemsworth body then you are def hot!!!
But hot doesn't mean Id go out with u, personality's very important

(I dont really know what 205 and 10% really looks like btw)

Betwyn · Answer

I think it all depends on how you define "muscular"

First.. there are those that are overly muscular, and that, isn't attractive.
Then.. there are those that are really muscular.. nice to look at.. but.. not so nice to be with.

Does this mean we think fat is sexy?

well.. first of all, we tend to be more attracted to minds and personalities, and, more forgiving of the body it comes in.. whether that is a little extra weight.. or baldness... or other things guys stress about. Penis.

Personally, when it comes to body.. I like the slighter builds.. slender.. skinny.. or the athletic build of the athlete who plays, but doesn't live in the weight room.

meggyhertz · Answer

I'm fit and not insecure about my body and I don't like grotesquely muscular guys. So I don't think thats a fair claim on your behalt.

Being in shape is a turn on. A nice physique is appreciable. But a guy with biceps the size of my head is more scary than seductive. So no it's not that fat is a turn on, it's that there should be a balance. Some girls like it and others don't. I wouldn't want to date a guy who looked like a wwe wrestler. Just doesn't do it for me. Also men that size tend to be very into themselves from what I have experienced. So as women, as men sometimes do as well, we may associate physical features with characteristics of personality. A man who can make you feel safe is just what we want, but a man who is too macho might be intimidating.

miserybusiness · Answer

How muscular are we talking here  If it's average / "normal" looking, then it's pretty hot.  But overly muscular guys are indeed a turn off and an SOS in the making.  Looool bro no

Hellagood22 · Answer

Usually muscular guys are cocky (not always). But it's the mentality that's a turn off. I'm attracted to Chris Pratt and he's ripped, but I like how he's funny and goofy most of all. He's soo attractive! So don't worry about what other girls say because not all girls have the same type. Just do what makes you feel good about yourself and you'll find people who like you for you.

Mind helping me out with my question?
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1261393-if-he-doesn-t-text-you-but-he-snapchats-you

lovestruck12 · Answer

i only like beasts i can't date anything else because I'm a gym rat myself… however there is such a thing as too big, i don't like guys who over do it and I'm not in to body builders who compete its too much mucscle for my liking, a happy medium.. him a beast but not over done. does that make sense?

Anonymous · Answer

Are you attracted to guys? If not, how can you presume to know what girls like and how they think?

Personally I think 10% body fat and 205lb is pretty fkn manly, it doesn't tell me about how skilled a guys is at martial arts but I would assume he's a fkn dangerous fellow that can hold his own in a fight. But I'm not attracted to masculine bodies, so my non-sexual appreciation for a muscular guy doesn't say anything about what a girl likes. In my experience girl prefer around 15-20% body fat, not full on washboard abs but still not super flabby. If you're not doing it for the girls then good on you, you're not going to appeal to the majority of women with your body type but there is a decent percentage of girls that would be totally into your body. You won't pull most girls with your body alone so it's good that it's for you and not for them, but I'm sure you can find the right girls that actually like that body type.

The_Eternal_Emperor · Answer

Girls saying muscular guys are a turn-off does not mean that they want an overweight or fat guy. There IS a point where being muscular would be a turn-off for anybody. For example:

https://i.ytimg.com/vi/QrqkLOxhN_A/hqdefault.jpg

^ This is just ridiculous.

You have to realize that everybody has preferences when it comes to body shape. Sooner or later, you have to accept that not every girl you meet will like muscular men.

harakiri · Answer

muscular guys can be a turn off. too much muscle makes people look... not... human. lol. being fat isn't a turn on... i think being "fit" is probably a happy medium. but i think at the end of the day, as long as you're happy with the way you look, that's all that matters.

Sexydncr · Answer

I find muscular guys attractive because it shows they have dedication and care about their health and body. I can understand why other girls don't find really muscular guys hot because everyone has different preferences. Sometimes, the gym life becomes 24/7 (working out, meals every two hours, protein, supplements) and girls can't handle that. I think you should never give up on the things you like just because other people don't appreciate them.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Actually there's a lot more to this.

katiebug92 · Answer

Some women just don't like big muscles...
Everybody has different taste and everybody has different taste for different reasons.
Sounds more like your the one who is pathetic with that ego problem. Getting upset because some girls out there in the world don't think your all that, trust me not that hard to believe.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't say it's a turn off, but I don't care if you have muscle or not. It honestly depends on your face. Your muscles won't help you if your face is ugly. I actually find that most men who have muscle do it because their face is ugly. They want to make up for having an ugly face, but I am sorry to tell you it doesn't help. If your ugly there is no hope for you. I'm not just saying that applies to men either. It applies to women too. I know a woman who works out and dresses up just to make up for her face. She has admitted to this. I've told her it won't help help her because her face is disgusting.

The only important thing is face and then personality. No one gives a damn about your body.

bombamboum · Answer

I'm personally not a fan of over muscular guys. It has nothing to do with insecurities, I just don't think it's attractive. My boyfriend isn't fat, he's thin and fit but he doesn't go to the gym or care about what he eats. He is muscular but because he grew up in a farm.

amphet11 · Answer

Women don't sexually desire men, they only want to be sexually desired by men, they know that if they are the less desired one in the relationship, they are pretty much nothing. Before anyone says anything, here is scientific proof,   ,   female sexuilty is warped bro.

HayHay93 · Answer

Is all about a girls preference. Not everyone is going to like how you look. Or how you act. Or your personality. It all comes down to a persons preferences. They're not insecure because they don't like you and they're not pathetic because they don't agree with you or like your looks. Every woman/girl has their own 'things' they look for in a man/guy. Some will like you. Some won't. Get over it is all you can do.

Modernhippy · Answer

I don't know man people find different things attractive. Provide muscle pics to support ur claims though a lot of people think there body fat is a lot lower than it is. I have been lifting since I was 16 aND I'm 20 and about 1 year ago I starTed eating correctly and that's when gains started happening I have a feelING you are not what to claim you are because those who are big don't need to post butthuer commenta lIke this online

Jewluminazi · Answer

Honestly, I used to work out a lot, have abs, and be pretty ripped. I couldn't get a girl to look twice at me. After I quit giving a shit though and got a little fat, girls started paying me more attention. You can go to any body building forum, and it will be mostly inhabited by a bunch of lonely, bitter guys with abs. Women are not necessarily attracted to huge, bulking muscles. That is more of a male power fantasy, and I've noticed the guys who become obsessed with weight lifting tend to be very insecure, which is a trait women find very unattractive.

hypnicjerk · Answer

I think people in general, male or female, deep down in their subconscious tend to prefer the middle ranges of a spectrum, rather than the extremes. It's a Darwin survival thing. Which obviously doesn't mean you don't pursue the physique you want, because YOU have idealized it in this way and you want it and that's cool, it just means you accept that there is a larger body of potential mates that might prefer you somewhere a little closer to the average. No need to get angry about it.

Vesuvius87 · Answer

There is a big deal between working out, staying in shape and having pathetic unnatural muscles to that point he looks like a hulk.
Personally, I've always liked average framed guys and it has nothing to do with being insecure. I'm attracted to what I like. We're not all the same and generalizing girls is as bad as if I were to make a post asking if all guys like very short and petite girls.

Brereyes · Answer

I'm not attracted to really buff guys. It's one thing to be in shape but to be extremely buff is a little much for me. Its an opinion, a preference. I wouldn't say its a turnoff though. I work out to stay in shape. I'm skinny and 5'0 so big guys are giants to me hahaha. I love guys who are into fitness and health. To me taking care of themseleves is a turn on.

Queen_naki5 · Answer

Some men really go too far with the muscles. A healthy looking amount of muscles and a defined chest is ok. Looking like Dwayne the Rock Johnson (as attractive as he is) is way too much. It's a turn off to have too much. Its a turn on to have enough, not made of steal but defined arms and a nice face is melter :-)

JaneRain · Answer

Depends on how muscular you are. If you look like one of those bodybuilders who are lumpy and veiny, that's not very attractive. Although I would still prefer that to a fat couch potato. I suppose being lean and having some muscle definition is the most appealing.

Blueyedgirl17 · Answer

Okay wow these comments suck dick here's the true girls like attention even when they say they dont they do so when the guy there with is drawing in all the attention it either turns us off or pisses us off! Like me for example I am the kind of girl that wants everyone to loil at be like wow she is hot or dam she is sexy not the not complements about the man I walk in with I get so angry as long as you are not showing of your abs to everyone then yes DAM have those abs they are sexy ;)

MintyDuck · Answer

For me personally, I don't find it a turn off but I'm not attracted to them. I would rather a slim guy that a super muscled one since for me it just screams "vain" and someone who spends their whole time in the gym just doesn't appeal to me really. It's just about being in shape, over-muscled and fat people I don't find particularly attractive (:

HookingSwan · Answer

It's true. In between is better. Or else u look like you have big potato arms. Sorry for being so direct. But I guess it depends on the girl. I, for one, gove priority to a guy's personality, but I am not going to be a hypocrit and say his looks dont matter at all. I have to be the least amount attracted to his physique lol

Anno_Domini · Answer

The butt-hurt is strong in this one.

Not all women are going to like you, dude. I personally don't like women who are toned and muscular. I like 'em soft and feminine, but there are guys who like that look, and it's their preference.

I don't go to the gym much, because I hate being around all the narcissists who want a perfect body. I'd rather be big and strong than to just look good. Someday I'm going to start flipping tires or something. I want to get strong the natural way... The way people did before gyms.

Anonymous · Answer

It's funny how girls think that muscular boy means natural. For example take a look at STREET WORKOUT and fitness the difference is big! Street workout is natural with less fake muscles. Fitness is just like pumped shit with no power.

Just take a look for example at Frank Medrano; it's natural and his body is amazing, but maybe for some too much, but there's a difference if you pick healthy lifestyle over fitness. It took him so much more time to develop that kind of body.

For example I am skinny, because I am one of 3% who have metabolism like ferrari. I am training street workout almost every day. But girls some girls this that more muscles you have stronger you are, it's just wrong. They don't even understand if you are Ectomorph I need to work 110% harder then everyone to gain weight!

That's why I find street workout much more attractive, even if girl do. I don't like muscular girls too.

cdnSpartan · Answer

It's true I've been personally surveying women on their opinion of what men's body type they like best (I'm a personal trainer of 4 years). 85% percent say they like a lightly muscled and ripped look... even thin men are liked more than huge guys. Lots of men think they need to be huge for women to like their bodies but it couldn't be more further from the truth. Proportions seem to matter more than pure size. It's kind of like the boob thing for women... bigger isn't necessarily better.

rachel_lee78 · Answer

It actually CAN be a turn off. Not all girls will find something specific attractive and some girls will. It's a physical turn off for some girls. Some girls prefer just a for guy but not too muscular. It's not girls being insecure of their own bodies, lol that's pathetic. It's just a preference and its not the deal with all girls. And girls don't care if you do it for the ladies or for enjoyment. It is literally just a physical preference.

renogaza · Answer

that depends, overly muscular guys are a turn off and can be really scary and/or gross at some point, i don't like guys that are ripped, just fit like an athlete but not like a professional bodybuilder, you can't please everyone, you'll just have to live with the reality that girls don't like brutish guys anymore, that was an 80s fad and its long gone.

ManaX · Answer

Muscular guys are ridiculously attractive, don't worry about the haters.

Levin · Answer

Not every woman is identical? Shocking stuff :P I also agree with @lumos. Working out to get muscles is just one fitness 'paradigm'. It wouldn't benefit you for internal martial arts, for example.

Anonymous · Answer

I would not say it's a turn off. Sure I can appreciate a body that someone worked really hard for but muscular guys don't do too much for me.. like it's not a turn off but it's not a turn on either. I prefer guys who have a naturally uscular build but with a little chub lol like a little bit husky I guess.

Anonymous · Answer

I think muscle is a turn on... i like my guy to be strong for many reasons... but thats just me
fat is SOOOOOO disgusting and it shows laziness which i cannot stand in a man. sorry didn't mean to offend anyone

Your_boss · Answer

Muscular guys turn me off  Because I like skinny guys  No muscle  No fat  Just skinny  Like 5'10" and 120 lbs skinny  I can't help what I'm attracted to

mistninja314 · Answer

man most girls just want a guy with physique

"muscular athletic body type" were the can feel ya chest jump, when there hand is on it

but if i was you i would stay ripped/bff like you are screw what they want lol

yellowmamba024 · Answer

They were probably drunk at that time when girls say that.

Dandeus · Answer

They see muscles and think "gym rat", "meat head", etc. They see ego, cockiness, and self absorption. It's not the look, it's the attitude that drives men to attain the look.

BelleGirl21 · Answer

They're insane lol. Unless you're like a huge fake tan hulk guy it's hot.

Janett21 · Answer

Well here is my honest answer:
I like looking at muscular guys with sixpack and I dont find it bad BUT I prefer guys who weigh normal , not fat but not slim too just average. I dont know I find it cuter

Iwjwamo · Answer

They are definitely attractive but I think they're more referring to a body builder type body. That is just too much. Lean muscle is nice without too much bulk. But then again each to their own :)

Phoenix98 · Answer

Honestly I'm the same as you I don't workout for women I train for myself because I want to be healthily, stronger and faster. If women like it, great if they don't who cares besides when in the gym the only thing that matters is that last rep.

theCatcherintheRye · Answer

Muscular guys are not a turn off, for sure. P. S: umm yeah sure it's so obvious that you don't work out for girls.

aamy811 · Answer

I like muscles but I think overly huge roof like muscles are disgusting. Nice lean toned guys are nice

Anonymous · Answer

There's nothing wrong with a nice body. Just don't look like the Incredible Hulk, cause that just looks unnatural. If you like working out, then work out. Being fat isn't a turn on for a lot of girls. Just don't go overboard with it.

bang678 · Answer

Muscles can make a guys arms really veiny and it grosses me out. Also I dont work out very often so I wouldn't expect my SO to either.

crazyincalifornia · Answer

To me it seems too self centered. I prefer guys that have well built minds anyway. Big bulging biceps are boring.  HHHH

sweetxsour35 · Answer

Your replies make me feel like you're dying to make sure that girls think you're attractive. Look, having muscle isn't the end all be all for attractiveness, and different girls are going to like different things. So you can't win a few girls over because they don't like ridiculously muscular men, boohoo. It doesn't make them insecure, they're allowed to have different tastes just like men.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it depends. I don't want a body builder, but a nice body is a nice body. Personally I've always had a thing for skinny guys. It's all preference. I feel like, I could be wrong, but that you are offended that some of these girls wouldn't find you attractive.

thewanderingme · Answer

personal preference. some of us like men to look natural.

notverycreativeguy · Answer

You are pathetic.  You are insecure af, that's why you work out so much and try to talk others here down.

rthomas43 · Answer

Stay muscular. The girls on this site aren't an accurate portrayal of all women in this regard.

Jaoro · Answer

Yea I was confused to hear that too. I guess they don't know what they want

blondfrog · Answer

You just said I don't work out for girls yet you asked "what is up with some girls say muscular guys are a turn off and then you get super offended by it by saying you insecure people are absolutely pathetic. You obviously do workout for girls.

Klaatu51 · Answer

it's not possible for every girl to share a similar taste you know

RedThread · Answer

Women have different perspectives of beauty in this world.

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