What do guys think of a girl who lost weight?

[Anonymous]

ok so I lost weight about 2 sizes now I look well good :) but I was wondering what do guys think about a girl who they always see hang out and then she loses weight? like I get soo much more attention which is nice sure, but just what do they think? some that never showed interest are showing it now which again nice but no thank you you knew me b4 so why now.

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+1 y

Yea. I know I am enjoying it and I just didn't notice the diff till school started. And when I mean 2 sizes I am a size 4 now athletic looking. I wasn't fat I was chubby but 3 months of cardio weights did me very good

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+1 y

OK this is making me so confusing. I was single before but now guys are just hitting on me and I don't know what to do. I am in no way complaining its just I don't know really confusing. Now I can't commit to one person kind of thing I c guys here and there

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+1 y

there. this kid wants to date me, but than I want to talk to others guys too? ( not sleep etc. I don't believe in sex b4 marriage). but I have my picks now, ah what do I do? I like the guy but there is too many guys now.

[StarBuckeroo]

Just don't let anything change your moral stature... No matter what. . . I have dated a girl who had believed the "no sex before marriage"- - -still dating actually, we are engaged now. . . But, in previous relationships, she had sex... And it really has been something that she has been struggling with... Not being tempted to have sex with me, but just feeling guilty about giving into the heat of the moment, or because she had been in verbally abusive relationships where the guys had told her that she was selfish if she didn't have sex, or whatever reasons are used. me, being a guy, I know that we are dirty, manipulative and can get what we want. Girls are mainly driven by emotions, if you love a guy so much, and think that if you don't have sex with him or do other things with him then it could cost the relationship... that is a bad place to be in. . .and you just need to remember to get out if that is the direction that your relationships are heading. . . . .Guys can say I love you so much, I want to marry you and whatever, but don't drop your underwear for anything...that decision isn't about them, it should be more about you as a woman, and they would be selfish to put that pressure on you. . . Just speaking from experience and knowledge and growing up in a Christian home, and from my own mistakes/regrets. . . If you do get caught up in the heat of the moment, just get out and away from that moment as much as possible. Me and my fiance' rarely make-out because it leads to me wanting to grab her all over and my animal instincts come out (whatever you want to call it)...I know this doesn't necessarily pertain to your question, but stay strong in what you want in a relationship, don't bend your rules for yourself... IT will catch up with you later when you meet that special someone that you marry. . ..hit me up for any other questions.

[Asker]

Lol thnx. but yea I don't think anyone would change my mind about that! if they try bye bye to them :)

[jusabarasida]

Its pretty obvious.. you look more physically attractive.. they knew you before but.. ok lets say I know you for a while. and you just lose some weight and you look hotter or whatever the kids these days call it.. I might have gotten along with you before through conversation but never thought about anything physical with you or didn't really notice your shape.. but now you have more confidence because you lost weight.. and I like that.. and I like how your shape is.. now you look cuter or nice in those jeans or something.. and that makes me think.. 'oh wow I want her.. all of her not just the conversations' because now I'm looking at the whole package.. you are complete to them. Its normal when you lose weight .. same thing happened to me and many people I know including girls..

You know what I've noticed though. this girl I know.. when I first met her she was a little chubby.. not too bad but a few months after I've known her, I noticed she's lost weight and looks perfect now.. and honestly, I'm a little intimidated.. I used to flirt with her before but now I don't talk to her as much.. hahaha I somehow lost interest in her.. but that's no big deal.. we are friends but I don't try to hang out with her as much.. just a little curious that's all. =)

[Asker]

Hm you know what keep flirting with the girl! don't be intimidated, the losing weight is great but we are still the same! I actually now like the guy that paid attention to me b4 others, than ones that all of a sudden show interest. this guy actually liked me for me!

[Anonymous]

Something similar happened to me. Except that I used to be really thin until I was 16 (had a lot of attention at that time), then suddenly became really chubby (from 44kg to 65 kg being 1.60m). However, some months ago, before I turned 19, I decided to lose the weight and excercise. So basically I went down to 50 kg, and I basically feel perfect once more, but this time I value even more my sacrifice.

So here is my advice:

The same thing happened to me. I started getting seriously a lot of attention (as I am quite curvy as well, just by being Brazilian I guess). And the guy that I liked (4 years older) started noticing me and wanting to go out with me. I knew that in a way he was being picky and inconsiderate. But then I though, wait, I am also picky. If I really think about it, I think looks are important and I would never go out with a fat or chubby guy (though he doesn't need to be magazine style hot, just have a nice, tempting body lets say heheh).

So you guys were always friends but he never tried to date you before, but want to now, I would say go for it. There is nothing wrong with being picky and wanting the best that's availabe out there (especially in such a competitive girl world), and the same goes to you.

This guy has now been my boyfriend for almost a year and I couldn't be happier. Just think about it ;)!

[click11]

yeah you probably did the got more curvy along wiht he weight loss. too many guys? haha well I'm sure you have standards right. elminate some of them by being picky. (control youreself woman lol. I guess the sudden attetnion can get to you, but other girls have a lot of guys hit on them and they do ok.

you don't have to date ei'm all either you can hang out with ur friends and there friends realtionships don't have to happen. date around a lil. eventuall you'll like a guy enough to let him trap you. :D

[Asker]

Na I always had the attention ( not to sound conceited) my standarts are way too high, I am too picky! just now I feel so much better and more comfortable so I go out and flirt etc. and now that I decided I want to date around I can't chose? I don't know if that makes sence

[click11]

Makes complete sense. :)

[onceuponatime]

Losing weight = better self-image = increased self-esteem! Sure they may notice you got slimmer, but I'll bet your confidence that's making a difference as well. You feel better, thus you act more confident; You may be more open to flirting or just being social, and not even know it! Men take notice of things like that, and could start seeing you in a different way.

[Asker]

I soooo agree with you!. I think that is exactly what happened. weight plays a role but I think how you present and carry yourself is the key.

[CaptainFrost]

Of course guys are gonna show interest in you if you look better.

If you look healthier and more fit and shapely, guys who didn't look at you in that way

before will start to take notice.

in fact its a bit unfair to just say, 'well, I won't go out with you because you didnt

show interest in me before'.

It not like attraction is a choice. Looking better to guys who weren't interested before is just

one of the benefits of putting work into making your appearance look better.

You gotta admit if you have a male friend who you weren't interested in, and he started going to the gym, got a nice paying job and a nice car, or he became famous or something,

you know that you would take notice of him and he would be more attractive to you all of a sudden.

And again it wouldn't be fair of him to say, 'well, I won't go out with you because you didnt

show interest in me before'.

With regards to your question, what do guys think when she loses weight, I think for most guys, to gain attraction, her body has to go from out of proportion to in proportion and we think its great. We don't really care as much how you used to look, we care how you look now.

No guy thinks to himself, 'well she's hot, but she used to be fat so, naaahhhh'

The reason you are attracting more guys is because you obviously got hotter, now enjoy the benefits of being more attractive and don't spend too much time analysing why guys are paying attention to you all of a sudden when the answer is right on your waist line.

[elpipe]

Guys want girls who have attractive personalitys AND are physically attractive. Those who says they ONLY care about personality are liars. A hot female body will make us guys horny regardless if we want it or not.

I can't speak for those guys you are talking about but I guess that all of them are sexually interested in you but some may want you as a faithful girlfriend while others may want you as a f***buddy.

By the way, people who really put in an effort and loose weight are impressive! It shows that they have discipline so props for you!

[obscene]

wild-tangent and the others got it

What two sizes are we talking about

40-->38? not very noticeable

12-->10 probably very good

2-->0 usually VERY unhealthy!

But I'll assume it's near the middle because people noticed

One of the stereotypes of fat people is a complete lack of self-control, so being able to lose the weight shows a commitment and that you take pride in yourself and your appearance.Another stereotype is the depression and self-esteem issues that come with the weight. Since you're successfully losing weight, they don't see that drama in you, unless you get TOO skinny (like from size 2 to zero)

[obscene]

EDIT:

First off, I forgot to congratulate you on your weight loss; I know it can be difficult, even moreso for women. At size 4, that's really good; even a size 6 is pretty good also. It's not like you went from "fat" to "hot" but rather from "hot" to "WOW!!!!!!" or something like that. You know what I mean. We need more athletic girls.

Anyway, size 6 wasn't even fat to begin with. Maybe you're just with the wrong crowd?

[Asker]

O no not wrong crowd size 6 isn't fat but I was def. not feeling good you know. I love to run, dress up etc. and when you have some extra it bothered me. I am still working toward getting totally toned up just for me. its just I really did not expect people to act just so diff.

[bersaba]

One of my ex's was a epileptic, and a side effect of epilepsy medication is weight gain. So she was always battling her weight and when she was younger (high school) she was quite large (not obese, but I was shocked when I saw her high school photos).

When we were going out she hovered between a size 12-14 (Australian, not sure how that relates overseas). Think Sara Rue at the moment. Or maybe "Betty" from "Ugly Betty"

However, she wore clothes that was right for her figure, and to be honest I thought, still do, that she was quite beautiful.

Guys are not as 'picky' as most girls thing. We tend to be pretty cool with all sorts of shapes and sizes.

As long as there's boobs we're happy. (/smile)

[kaiten]

that depends

if they're male friends that are with you everyday, they might be slow to catch on to the change

due to the fact that you change slowly before them.

they might note that their is something different but can't put their finger on it

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but to every other guy that isn't a friend the change is noticeable,

because to them its seems like just yesterday you were 2 sizes bigger,

and now you look drop dead gorgeous and appealing.

to sum up, they're now attracted to you now physically

[TexPlayboy]

You can't blame a guy for being more attracted to you when you look better. You decided to loose the weight for a reason, maybe because you thought you would like yourself better. Why would you blame them for agreeing with you?

Don't hate the people who like you.. enjoy the attention and keep up the healthy lifestyle.

Good Luck,

James

[augustine_64]

Well you basically answered your first question and welcome to the life of the unknown and I'm gonna make this blunt as possible. If your unsure don't jump yet let this sink in get the feel of it first. I know right now your thinking "omg guy are flirting with me and trying to hook up with me." to find the right one is up to you but I would tell most of them that line about sex b4 marriage. Make it a stern while saying it because some of those guys will just turn away. Most guys minds are perverted in one way or the other. It's in our wiring.

[sonic241928]

Try not to be offended that they're taking more interest in you now. Think of it as: you've made a conscious decision to improve your health, which makes you more physically attractive and more likely to get noticed than before. I would expect the same if I took measures to improve myself.

[Nooyen]

Let yourself have picks. If they're being shallow why not be shallow yourself but do not forget the golden rule.

But if anything focus on friendship. Realize that if you weren't attractive now they wouldn't be talking to you, so find a good guy that actually likes everything about you.

[knowitall]

if the people want to date you it should be because they love you not because of how you look so in response to your updates I would say think about who told you they wanted to date you before you got more "into shape" and remember you don't have to change for someone

[alpinestars-2002795]

We often wonder if they'll just put back on the weight once we are in a relationship with them. Because for some reason women usually bulk up when in a relationship? I don't know it it's perhaps cause they feel comfortable that the guy ain't going anywhere, or what, but that's how the cookie seem's to crumble. Thus, we tend to wonder, "Is she just gonna get fat again?"

[Asker]

Really. that's weird b.c. when I am with a guy its the opposite I try and eat healthier and just look good. I men I am with my guy why would I want to relax and look sloppy.

[alpinestars-2002795]

Beacause that's right you are with a guy and you don't have any reason to look good cause you do have a guy look at most married women they are fat slobs because they get this sensation that they can be, because its not like he's going anywhere. Besdes women are just lazy so ofcourse when they see the opportunity to lax they are going to.

[Ollie]

Good for you.

Well I think this reaction is quite typical... Wouldn't you do the same?

Who would you be more willing to walk up to and start flirting with:

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Don't knock them, you know they say its your looks that capture the eye and personality captures the heart and all that... It's difficult to do part 2 before you're past part 1.

[wild-tangent]

I'm brutally honest for better or for worse.

It doesn't matter if someone goes from a size 40 to a size 38 as much as a girl who goes from a size 12 to a size 10. It's like measuring a big screen TV. It's easier to tell with smaller TVs if one is larger than the other. With a big screen TV you have to put them side by side.

[obscene]

She says people noticed, so probably not from 40-->38!

[Asker]

Um no not size 40. I went from a 6 7 to a 4.

[cgiddings]

Both man and women are more attracted to those who take good care of themselves. Would you like a guy who compained of being heavy buy ate pizza three days a week? I mean c'mon!

I have lost a substantial amount of weight recently (23 pounds if you care), but have not noticed much of a difference physically aside from my damned belt being embarassingly loose.

My goal is to lose another 27 pounds by New Years.

I hope I've been of some help.

[ryanontario]

i'd definity like it if she was say overweight but still cute and she then lost some weight and started to look good , I'm just not really atracted to girls who don't take care of themself and get unhealthy and overweight . so if she got in shape and her body image improved I'd definity like it .

[sonic241928]

It would be better if you started a different question post instead of posting a new question as an update. Why not date a few of the guys you like the most at the same time? This will give you the chance to see which of them you're most compatible with, and enable you to start a "process of elimination" based on that.

[successfulskinnyguy]

Someone could like many things about you, but if they don't see you as being someone that could stimulate them in a relationship, perhaps that of mariage, they won't attempt ot be with you. Marriage is like 50 years of ebing with someone. Now, if they liked everything about you, and you just got prettier, that probably checked off the last thing on their list, which is why they will go for you now.

[westman74]

this is very good news... Take care of your self. you more than likely are happier and feel better too. So you smile more! men notice that. eye contact means everything... Also avoid subjects that are too personal till you get to know a man! Good luck!

[Cartiphilus]

Apparently you were too fat and now you're slim and sweet and they like your bod. They don't think of it so much as, "Hey, you lost weight!", but as, "Wow, you're hot!, let's go out on a date." They don't care what you were but what you are now...hot! Enjoy having choices!

[Tamikaze]

Take your time getting to know guys by dating them. Know what you want in someone so that when you meet a guy who has those qualities and you can see he really is that way by dating him a lot, then you will know the right guy to have as a boyfriend. If you don't want a boyfriend, then just enjoy dating and hanging out and don't worry.