I consider myself a decent girl. I've only been with one guy who I loved with all of my heart. I may not have been an angel but I'm not anyone's sloppy seconds either. A lot of men seem a bit misunderstood by me becuase sometimes I come off as too good to be true. I play a heavy game at first and I'm easy to fall in love with but I get comfortable quite fast. Being a good woman have had its ups and downs, because now that I'm single I set my bar way too high and I feel comfortable being single that I am giving up too many opportunities to be with some good guys and turning down good guys in the process. To the good guys, they think I'm only turning them down because they're good, instead of looking at the big picture and realize that I'm simply afraid of getting into a relationship after what happened to me. I'm relatively attractive and have a very ambitious mindset. I long to find a guy with the same character traits.
we found her guys! we found her. the one in the billion!
Thanks for MHO. I really said this from the bottom of my heart.
I too found one, after dating a bimbo.
But there are many good ones. The troll above just has a bad taste when it concerns women. Happens often to these internet incels.
It could be bad taste or simply just bad luck. Sometimes things happen. I had no idea that my long term relationship would end. I didn't know that it was written in the cards for me.
I've been with two guys and I'm dame near 30. I'm not proud of it but my standards do get in the way. Lowering then puts me into situations that remind me why I had a standard to begin with. I am more of an angel and I come off as well of being too good to be true. Like he said its very difficult to find women like myself I couldn't imagine guys trying to do the same. Why can't good people find good people. A guy told me I was his number one. I then had to ask of how many? He didn't know that would end the relationship. He was confused and hurt. I guess it works on most women but I want to be the only one. That's very rare even with married couples. I need a one in a million
We are here we just don't want to deal with all the shit relationships have become.
This may sound selfish but I rather have a relationship with myself than waste my time on childish things. I'm not slutty (I may be sexually open with my parent), I am a gold digger I dig my damn gold with both of my hands and I got the blisters to prove it, I'm not shallow I believe everyone had a degree of beauty you just have to take the time to see it, I am cunning I work in a male dominated field so I have to be smart about my choices everyday, and lastly I am not a bimbo I like to dress look and smell nice as often as I can, that doesn't make me a bimbo just a woman.
So please don't judge anyone before you know them. It obnoxious and quite rude.
agreed. i admit there are more scarred and dissapointed women than actual bad women... .
I meant partner lol not parent eww
And that's true.
Personally I think there are a lot of good women and men out there that are afraid of being hurt again. They have been in relationships where they were hurt and are now afraid to open up. There's that saying you gotta kiss a lot of ugly frogs to find your prince. Not actually kissing a lot of people but meeting a lot to see what kind of person you want to date to find the right one. And I also think nothing worth having is easy to come by. It takes hard work. So the point I'm trying to make is that you go through a lot of bad places to end up somewhere beautiful. Just like a relationship. I was in a couple bad relationships and now I'm completely in love and happy.
no there is not. we are in a new age. the new age is obnoxious, disrespectful, rebellious and are brainwashed by the media because they cannot think for themselves.
the only suggestion is pick up a church girl, then again even with this new age christianity you still got to be careful because the christian women will drown you in burning water and you'd probably mistaken it for a devils baptism.
so you actually say that even the supposed christian morality has collapsed today? well if you think about Christ talking about having just a cloth as your material wealth, and you see puritans with mansions and a car for each member of the family, there was always a distance between theory and actions in them... .
You seem upset. Have a Snickers. You are not you when you are hungry. Better?
damn tv, thats why there are no any humans left... .
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I'm a 9th grader who loves classical music, is disappointed by her peers's culture, and dresses in modest clothing. I abhor when girls ignore others, act to impress, are selfish. etc. I enjoy gardening (I build 5 garden boxes.) I also go to a 25,000 dollar school so I'm an urban girl. I love studying philosophy. I loved a few guys once (still do a little) with all my heart. Sometimes, I avoid liking someone because I like them too much and I can't sleep at night not knowing if they like me, too. I decided to invest in my future instead by studying a math class ahead over the summer. I am in algebra 2/precalc.
Oh, and what the girl below me said is true. I am looking for a guy with similar qualities as myself.
you probably also shit candies and rainbows and ride your special pink cloud-shapped spaceship and troll the mutiverse in several dimensions... .
In my dreams, yes. :) Wouldn't that be a cool superpower? No, really, this is who I am. I don't even like talking with someone while wearing sunglasses because it makes me feel too "cool". I'm really not trying to brag, but these are abstract observations i make about myself to keep myself in check.
You don't have enough faith.
in what sort of dark, wet, uncunny basement your kind is hiding though... ? you described almost my dream woman right there... .
Well, I haven't met anyone else like myself. It's really a bit frustrating. I'd like to find this basement!
Hmmm... Try a volunteer center.
Why would a good woman want a bitter man with such a negative attitude? You attract what you are. Maybe you'll find better women when you become a better man. A woman with a good spirit and a lot going for her probably won't want a negative angry woman-hater
"probably won't want a negative angry woman-hater" have you seen anyne like that around here? i definitely haven't... . im actually a lover and admirer of women. but not any women... certainly not... sassy women.
This is exactly it. A lot of time you attract people based on the type of person you are and if these are the type of women you keep coming into contact with then maybe you need to rethink your own attitude instead of generalizing. Woman haters are so unattractive and any woman who isn't any of those things that you listed wouldn't think twice about going for a guy like that, which could be the root of your problem.
this you attract what you are thing is pure nonsense. the shitfly doesn't only go to shit, it goes to floweres as well. to spoil them.
There's decent women here it's just that they aren't available
women are like toilets, the nice and neat ones are taken, the rest are full of shit... .
Courageous Anonymous, now, that's *real* alpha talk! Class and education, civilization... unbelievable!
There are plenty of great women out there, and they'll all start showing interest in you after you get a girlfriend.
that sounds quite messed up actually. maybe they aren't as top notch as you think in the first place... .
I wouldn't say that. It's just the way they are.
There are, but all the good ones are taken mostly... and the kind ones are the ones that nobody wants because they are "unattractive" by today's standards, or they are just shy and guys don't notice them. Guys only notice the "hot" women who are as you described.
You are dead wrong buddy. I am a lot of decent women around where I am. Yes I know that some women are "slutty, gold digging, shallow, cunning and crazy bimbos" but I know a lot of women who aren't you just have to find them. For example, if you ask anyone I know "is she nice?" they will say without any hesitation the I am one of the nicest people you will ever meet but unfortunately for you I have a boyfriend
thing is most people dont have true self-conciousness... .
what do you mean by true self-conciousness
know thyself kind of stuff... .
what the heck does that mean?
let it go... .
Ok what ever
Of course there are. I'm certainly one. I know plenty of others too. Too bad guys don't see them and go for the bitchy, gold digging hussies. Don't get me wrong, girls do the same, but you catch my drift.
Why should there be decent women when there are no decent men?
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tbh this is kinda offensive to us who aren't sluts. I'm sorry that the few girls out there are but most of us aren't... not only is it 10000% a wrong statement but also that should be directed towards men! all they do especially at my age is try to get into girls pants! and if they aren't then they are dating someone and trying to get into another girls pants... this goes for most guys
Well even though I'm not a woman, I'll I'm gonna say is that I'm sorry that you feel that way towards women. It's unfair to categorize all women as crazy gold-digging sluts just because you may have had a bad experience with them.
I voted A so you won't feel too insecure about your distorted world view.
It's probably not your fault.
There's no decent anything left. We're all imperfect people. It is what it is. Born alone, die alone.
(laughing)
Your definition of "decent" differs from mine.
Peace xo
then your decent is indecent. but let's not rush into conclusions here. what's your definition?
Correct.
My definition of decent IS indecent by your standards.
ie: Sexual + confident + financially independent.
did i anywhere refute the last two things? as for the first one it depends. your idea of sexual can be indiscreet and chaotic. my idea of sexual can be in a loving relationship where there is a lot of trust and the two members know each other very well... .
oh and "trying to prove a certain feminist, independent, flirtatious, macho girl ideal" is not truly confident. it's more like masked insecurity with quite a lot of makeup on it... .
(smiling) I am an upfront serial dater who doesn't believe in love or monogamy.
To be fair, you didn't refute confidence or financial independence.
My apologies here xo
upfront serial dater. that's kinda cute. i bet you invested a lot of thought in that definition. so you go on dates and dinners frequently?
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@jacquesvol sir you are completely misinfrmed and inaccurate, i actually had two whole relationships, one of which lasted a good 8 years!
(smiling)
A man coined me as that once. I liked it and adopted it, as it describes me puurfectly.
I do date & have sex with men but have huge issues with food + eating publicly + accepting any type of gifts. ie: I have an eating disorder and am financially independent, so anything I want, I can buy myself.
you seem quite concious about your eating difficulty. but are you really willig to overcome it. i mean... did you try to consult an expert? as for the gifts part.. as in to bribe your love kind of way, or you have an obsession against any act that counts as a gift. like a mere token of frendship and gratitude. now that i think about it though, although you probably are very societal, you proably dont have many deep friedships if any... .
I don't accept gifts because I want men to know that I am dating them for them, not for what they can buy me.
I have had eating disorders since aged ten and have seen every expert imaginable.
.
Peace out dude xo
then why do you keep trying with these categories of men despite the fact, most of them have this mentality. are you trying to prove something to your self? and no expert managed to help you? were you fat in a young age? did you lose anyone from a bad diet/excessive eating? i mean there must be a logical reason behind that aversion. would you like to talk about it? i'm open about it if i'm able to help in anyway. (thats not a gift, you gotta buy me an icecream afterwards.. hahaha)
a1. I don't "try" with men, rather, I just accept dates with the ones I am physically + sexually attracted to.
a2. Re my eating disorders, they all stem from my childhood past.
PM me if you want regarding any further discussions or questions.
Well if you are to fast from food be congruent. try to fast from everything. your work, your dating life, your hobbies. if you see you can't get through living like that, then you'll probably appreciate the phrase "moderation in everything". you can actually eat food, it doesn't have to eat you. also if you see how certain children in africa and all around the world live, you'll get to appreciate the abundance of food you have in your disposal and see it more as a blessing than a dreadful inevitable fuel that gotta keep your "factory"/body running. did you try any neurological exams? an mri scan maybe? were you force-fed by your parents when you were little in any occasion? or were you ashamed or embarassed in any way by them, for an eating habbit that you had?
As stated previously I won't continue any further conversation with you here. PM me.
Otherwise, have a nice life.
Peace xo
well there's many different kinds of women. What exactly do you mean by 'good women'?
empathetic, understanding, meek, secure with herself, simple, abundant, non judgmental and loving.
I'm sure there's many out there. but having a list of what a 'perfect' person is can be bad for relationships. Sometimes the person you never thought you'd want ends up being the person you fall in love with but having a list of how the perfect somebody should be can ruin your chances of falling in love.
falling in love is a myth creeated and promoted by the capitalism for comercial purposes. real love is built. on strong foundations, not pseudoromance.
The human race is certainly disappointing. Men fair no better, they are even worse, in my opinion.
yeah douchebaggery was always around, but in this day an age, the term has gained some sort of a universal value and application... .
it's good to romanticise the past at least its stronger points, which exist. but i also admit we evolved in a good way in certain aspects.
there are decent woman left you just need to find them.
typical response "there must definitely be some... like out there. although none of my friends is... and none of the girls they know is either... im sure a unicorn lies somewhere out there... . have hope!"
there are decent woman out there. find new friends!
"Slutty, gold digging, shallow, cunning and crazy bimbos"
You clearly have issues.
well they rarely occur alltogether in one woman, but god damn if they do she must be VERY cunning and subtle for me to not tell her from the start... .
There's a few out there. About 20 every million. JK, I have no idea. But I know there are decent women out there. They're just less common than the others.
Most are gone by the time they reach their thirties. Maybe you can get one that had a bad marriage and divorced.
no no no dude... they EXIST basically... among so many mnillions... won't they?
I have met many sweet and kind women. There are plenty of good women. You just have to open yourself up to them and not immediately expect they are not decent.
The nice people are everywhere it's unfortunate the smaller percentage has been the impression.
There are decent women but they are hard to find. Hell there are decent women who slept with dirtbags but id have a hard time committing to them.
You have to believe they exist.
how are you hypno, you seem exhausted lately. dont overdoit with your studies.
haha I'm not in school right now but thanks.
yes, there is (sic)...
kidding aside, i think you need to examine your generalisations... but you should have realised that by now.
That's like asking, is there no decent men left?
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Yep, we all have. Enjoy.
you all have what? gone extinct? am i talking to a ghost now.. ?
wow and you admit it like that. have got no shame at all? do you even know what blushing is.. ?
yup were just sarcasmed. but then i pulled a double bluff on you. {poker face}
like 0.3 seconds average... .
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Well there are plenty of good men
Is there no decent men left?
There are still some left.
I think there are no decent men left -.-
then lets make it "humans"?
You got dumped again?
you got dumbed again?
You sound bitter so we thought?
you + thinking in the same sentence = n/a
Your quick aren't you?
My thought is we shouldn't feed the trolls like this?
you + thinking in the same sentence = n/a? WTF?
who said so? haha
There's only you.
i've known one but it was like before ten years, before the internetmania age, but she unfortunately didn't care abot relationships and she became a nun. she'd be such a great wife. kindest person you'd ever meet... .
It figures. If she met you Lady Gaga might become a nun too.
no it was actually planned all along. she was straight, but had a natural inclination towards hesychasm.
.. And then she had to meet you, Poor girl. What a fate.
Life can be cruel.
well maybe she dated someone like you first. that can be a lifechanging experience and not in the best meant way... .
Not one of my exes became a nun.
You're wrong thus.
I voted A.
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