WHY do I like hood boys and HOW do I stop liking hood boys?

[Anonymous]

I know it is bad but I always like/ fall in love with hood boys.

I always dismiss the good boys, the gentlemen and I know it is bad.

Is there some psychological explanation as to why I do this?

And how do I stop liking them?

(I'm being dead serious no trolling)

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+1 y

hood boy = the boys involved with gang, knives, drugs and etc.

[Esplorare]

Many females are drawn to the excitement, thrill, and toughness that guys from the hood often possess. It's alluring because it's almost like there's an intrigue to that tough, hardened guy. I think it also has to do with the representation of "bad a**es" in movies because their level of confidence, bravery, courage, daringness, and skill is admired by many men and women.

[Asker]

Thanks, but how do I stop liking them because I know it's not good for me

[Esplorare]

Well, it's not necessarily a bad thing to like hood guys so long as you're choosing the right ones. You have to be realistic about the fact that a lot of them are genuinely trouble due to the environment they live in. Some of them feel like they have no other choice but to be trouble otherwise they'll get eaten alive.

Best way to go about it is to make sure that they are consistent with practicing and displaying integrity, a sturdy value system, respect, and tact. Also, if there's a pattern of them getting themselves into dangerous situations, being reckless, and careless about their futures then move forward without them. So long as they possess those four things and a good moral compass, I don't see why not pursue them.

[Anonymous]

Don't judge a guy by where he's from or the way he dresses judge him by his heart. He might be a genuine guy but if he doesn't treat you well you might be desperate. You might want a male's attention because you don't get enough from your father.

[alonzoslade]

because you like low life rejects, you have no aspirations in life at all, you end up going to jail for doing stupid things, who earn little to no money but will say they make good money, and who are just a primitive form of monkeys. You are probably like them.

[Asker]

I'm not like "them". I'm a middle-class, privileged white girl that graduated secondary school and I am currently in college doing my degrees, aspiring to be a lawyer. But go ahead and generalize.

[alonzoslade]

It is not even a generalization. Countless statistics have shown that low income individuals or "hoodlums" are less educated, more prone to violence, and typically have no aspirations anyway.

[Asker]

Yeah I'm not like them but why do I like them that's the question, and how do I stop liking them?

[alonzoslade]

You can't help what you like. Your deepest urge is who you are. On the inside you are no different than they are.

[Asker]

On the inside? Some of them are nice people on the inside?

[alonzoslade]

Most are not according to countless statistics

[Asker]

On the INSIDE meaning personality.
You could do numerous bad things yet you could still be a good person on the inside.
Let's say someone stole because they had nothing else to give to their children to eat and they'll starve, does that make them a bad person?

[MattXRT]

What's a hood boy?
Guy wearing a hood?///
www.magic4walls.com/.../...ood-jean-background.jpg

[Asker]

A hood boy is a boy that is involved with things such as knives, drugs, gangs and etc.

[MattXRT]

Hmm well I guess your attracted to masculinity since masculinity is synonymous with testosterone and more testosterone means prone to violence and thus the carrying of knives and guns the tools of violence.
Therefore may I recommend body builders as a substitute.

[Asker]

Honestly personally I don't like body builders.
But thank you for trying to help me and the initial hoodie joke :)

[MattXRT]

No problemo.

[platona]

I do not know. maybe you should like other kinds of guys. wider your preparations

[Anonymous]

people of virtue love light over darkness. become a person of light then. only christian spirituality can give you that... .

[Asker]

I am a Christian but I don't attend church

[Opinion Owner]

then you are not a christian. if you don't attend to the liturgy at least once a week and don't receive the holy sacraments that's no christianity. if you don't pray to Christ and glorify Him daily that's not christianity. if you don't read His word every day then that ain't christianity. if you don't try daily to develop the divine virtues love, prayer, humility, meekness, discretion, quietness, sinlessness, courage, hope etc thats not christianity. if you don't try body, mind and soul to be in His image and liking, that's not christianity.

[Asker]

You can't tell me what religion I am.
I am a CHRISTIAN.
Attending church doesn't make you a good person just like going to the club doesn't make you a bad person.
I pray every single day and that for me makes me a Christian.

[Opinion Owner]

then make that a request in your prayers. say Jesus, clear my judgment and help me concentrate on better people... .

[Opinion Owner]

you'd be surprised from the work of grace on you when you attend a liturgy though. that stuff is real... no fiction... . didn't Christ himself left as legacy to us christians "do that in my memory" during the last supper? we can't cherry pick whatever suits us from the bible. i don't know in what denomination you belong but if you have your doubts i recommend reading klaus kenneth's "born to hate reborn to love", to find the true original Church, the Body of Christ.