HELP PLEASE! I think my sister is a lesbian, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Hi, so me and my sister are not that close. I mean, we don't talk about our personal lives but when it comes to defending each other we get really protective.
I don't know why she won't talk to me, maybe it's my fault but I really wanna know more about her life!
I have a feeling she is a lesbian. It's not only because she has never had a boyfriend, but she like remembers like the hairdressers' (female) faces and comments on it. and sometimes she just makes really weird comments that just make me uncomfortable and then I say stuff like "you're so weird" and then she gets really mad and mean, which I get.
And on the other day, she borrowed me her pc and I "accidentely" read a convo between her friend (girl) and she said stuff like "couple goals" for their relationship/friendship and they call each "side hoe" and stuff.
I really don't know what to think, it sort of freaks me out. But I just wanna be there for her and support...
What should I do?

[JuicyBrain]

The fact you freak out and call her weird for petty reasons is why you don't have a great relationship with your own sister. She does not feel she can trust you as she is well aware that you judge her. If you think you don't judge her, well, take a real good look at the way you act with her and put yourself in her shoes and try to understand the way she is perceiving you and your behavior. Then you will understand.

[cth96190]

What should you do?
Nothing.
Your sister's sexual preference is her business.

[Asker]

Yeah I know! I just wanna be there for her, either way! She doesn't talk about her feelings to anyone... Im just really protective and wanna help her if she needs, the thing is she will never admit she needs hlep, not to me or my parents

[cth96190]

All that you can do is be there and wait for her to open up in her own time.
She may need moral support. The suicide rate for gays is huge, because so many of them cannot come to terms with their own desires.

[mrfoox]

Why does it 'freak you out' to think she's a lesbian? Even if she likes girls, boys, both or neither, she's still your sister and the same person nonetheless. You guys might not be so close since she thinks you'll judge her, or won't accept her. Don't call her weird, try to give her reassurance instead, let her know you love her/care about her.

[justagirl5]

Just be open to listen and be willing to accept her. I'm going through something similar with my gay friend who's like my little brother. It's stressful at times but the biggest thing is making sure she knows you're there for her. I get you about being protective. I'd just make sure she knows you'll defend her too.

[fauchelevent]

That doesn't sound like proof she's a lesbian to me. Loads of girls talk like that to each other nowadays :/ Anyway. If she is a lesbian - so what? It's none of your business so there's nothing that you should do.

[AzureGirl]

Just treat her like you always have. She's your sister, just because she may be interested in other women shouldn't change your views or behavior towards her.

[teawrecks]

I've never had a boyfriend, and sometimes I Ames coupley sounding things to my female friends.

But i assure you I'm not a lesbian and very much like dick.

It really isn't even any of your concern if she's lesbian or not. She'll come out to you when she's ready and feels comfortable about it if she is.

There's a 50/50 chance you're reading too much into it.

[teawrecks]

Send* coupley

[Najii]

lol she could be lesbian but if you think she is lesbian because of the convo, those convos are very common with close female friends, it doesn't really mean she is lesbian

[Intraluminal]

Tell her that you are supportive of gay people. Let that marinate for a week. Then tell her something that shows you support people coming out., then ask her straight up if she's gay, while telling her that you would support her if she was.

[Gozaru]

Do you accept her as being lesbian?

For some reason, lesbian women are more socially accepted than gay men.

[farscryer0]

Be her sister, don't assume, and if it bothers you that much, talk to her.

Be the sister you were born to be, that's it.

[Nik1hil]

Stop calling her weird.. And even if she is lesbian don't freak out!.. Even if she is a lesbian, she will only let you know that if she trusts you and have you on her side..

[BiscuitesSwag]

Let her alone, this is none of your business.
If she is lesbian and wants to come out to you, she will.

[jessicorn]

hmm... that doesn't make her lesbian tho? a lot of girls are like that xD

[Tarvold]

You should immediately apologize profusely for invading your sister's privacy. Reading her messages is not cool.

[NYkid27]

Don't do anything. If your sister is a lesbian she'll tell you when she's ready and it shouldn't change anything between you two

[Anonymous]

I don't see how that makes her lez... Maybe she is but think you'll judge her. Stop calling her weird.
Just ask her "So are you dating any girls now"

[ClariceOwen23]

Nothing. There's nothing you can do and nothing you need to do

[PizzaPrincess]

Nothing.

If she is, she will tell you when she is comfortable with telling you.

[Becky01]

just that! be there for her and not judge her. ask her to talk to you

[Crazeynate]

Go to the mall and buy the spray that turns lesbian sisters into strait girls?

[Anonymous]

Maybe she's bi but either way it doesn't matter and you can ask her or just forget it.

[9mfeo]

Nothing. If she's a lesbian, great. Who cares?

[Mesonfielde]

Well there isn't much to do.

[shy_girl96]

Maybe talk to your parents and see what they say

[Prince_teddy4u]

Let her live her life.