Do you prefer aggressive men or calm men?

[Anonymous]

Aggressive

Calm

[Anonymous]

Im calm but can be assertive when i have to ie haggling, training my dog, getting asked to fill out a survey, sold gym membership when i just wanted to try them all out first, phishing phone calls, standing up for someone etc
I can also direct frustration into work outs.

[Unit1]

I'm as calm as ocean waves at all times.
Sometimes aggressive in the bed ;).

[fauchelevent]

Calm. I've been around aggressive boys before and it ended up with me being shoved up against a wall with a fist next to my head and my friend telling me that I shouldn't make him angry. Yeah, reaaaaaaally not my kind of thing. I'm calm, I like calm people.

[cchris989]

That's a tough way to learn a lesson

[fauchelevent]

@cchris989 He was just kinda like that :P He acted aggressively to other people too, I was just the only one who'd back down and try to avoid getting him angry rather than call him out on his bullshit.

[cchris989]

Why do think women are attracted to guys like that?

[fauchelevent]

@cchris989 Literally no one was attracted to him at all, everyone just kinda tolerated his presence... I assume that if someone was attracted to him, it would be because he was very confident and when he wasn't being all shouty, he was pretty sweet to you but yeah, generally everyone thought he was a prick.

[cchris989]

Guys like that still get a lot of girls tho

[peachblossomluck]

Aggression is a sign of anger and hostility, and desperate behavior. It's abusive to act that way around others in social interactions. Calm is the thing♡ Still waters run deep.

[Victoriann]

Calm. I couldn't be with a guy who was aggressive natured

I'm a peaceful person so i need to be with a guy of similar nature to me

[Nondecouvert]

Calm men who are only aggressive when necessary and know how to be assertive without being aggressive. There's nothing like a calm, chill man with an occasional aggressive fire.

[FakeName123]

Assertiveness is by nature aggression. Unfortunately many people mistake aggression by equaling it to violent behaviour and such. Reality is that aggression is nothing more than an active drive. If I see a nice girl on the streets and approach her saying "hi", that already is aggressive behaviour.

The key about aggression simply is to valve it into a positive, constructive way rather than a negative, destructive one.

[Nondecouvert]

@FakeName123 False. Saying "hi" to a nice girl on the streets is not aggressive lol

All of that may be your personal opinion and idea, but it's not some set rule.

[FakeName123]

Aggression is a drive and overt. It is being Active and Doing. The association of it being forceful and negatively is something that has developed fairly recent (the past 15-20years or so).

And going forward to a girl, saying "hi" is the quite forward and overt.

[Nondecouvert]

@FakeName123

Actually, aggression is defined specifically as violent behavior or attitudes. It's specifically associated with hostility. Being forward and overt is not necessarily, automatically "aggressive". Not sure why you're persistent on analyzing the term on my post?

[YaBaba]

calmm

however once in a while if he gets angry for things like someone looked at his sister in a wrong way "eye raping basically", then that is attractive man

[Imbisexual19]

Aggressive in the bedroom, chill the rest of the time

[cchris989]

So there are actually men that will choke you in bed but won't choke you during an argument :/

Female "logic" hurts my head

[Imbisexual19]

Yes.

[Imbisexual19]

You hurt mine.

[cchris989]

Not as hurt as you will be if you find a guy like that

[xHoneyxBeex]

For me it depends on the situation. I prefer a man who is calm in most aspects of life and our relationship but can be aggressive in the bedroom. Lol

[Sara413]

My boyfriend is like annoyingly calm haha but it's good for me.

[MissDyno]

Somewhere in the middle. Not too calm and definitely not too aggressive either.

[Prof_Don]

Calmness is true strength, aggressiveness is try-hard

[JoyGirl]

Yeah, I will pass on the aggressive men. Give me a calm man.

[Anonymous]

In between, lol
Too calm guy would be confused me, if he really attracted to me or no. But too aggressive guy would be creepy.

[Anonymous]

I have had my fair share of aggressive men in my childhood and still struggling with issues this caused. Calm men, please.

[cchris989]

What do you think cause this love for aggressive men?

[Decentguy]

im aggressive in bedroom but calm the rest of the time :D

[shilohsheree]

aggressive is better in bedroom

[cchris989]

But worst for domestic relations. Which why single mother are thing :/

[shilohsheree]

Maybe it depends on how aggressive, and where it's placed. Too much of anything is no good. You don't want a jerk, and you also don't want someone who's so laid back that they're a doormat and seem to have no opinion of their own.

[cchris989]

So who is the idea partner in your mind and why?

[shilohsheree]

Has enough confidence to stand up for himself (e. g. not put up with my shit), and also stand up for his family, but is also level-headed enough to do so appropriately, not violently or abusively. Also, someone who is not afraid to tell me what they want or how they're feeling out of fear of my reaction. I, myself can be aggressive. I don't put up with anyone's b. s. But I know how to do that nonviolently and constructively. And would definitely need someone who's at least equally aggressive, or I would easily dominate the relationship... and I don't like that... I guess you could say I'm an aggressive woman, who prefers to be submissive to a worthy partner

[shilohsheree]

"worthy" is not a good word... a "challenging" partner is better :)

[cchris989]

At the end of the day men want a relationship to be easy because where easy going by nature, just because we are laid back doesn't mean we don't care, but I think girls think that being laid back means we don't care anymore.

I just think that life would be some much easier if women didn't take everything so seriously, cause at the end of the day where all gonna die :/

[shilohsheree]

I see easy as boring. But I also think it's important not to sweat the small stuff, which I don't. :)

[cchris989]

Yeah I've been called boring before but I guess I'm not the monogamous type, if don't get marred it wouldn't be the end of the world for me. Guys like us should just sleep with as many women as we can because they clearly don't want a long term relationship with a boring man anyways :/

[shilohsheree]

lol... awe... well maybe some chicks dig it :). Just not this one

[cchris989]

But let's not be naive, money is more likely to make a girls stay in a relationship more than anything else and that's just facts :)

[Princeofanons]

Aggressively calm men are rare

[Owl95]

Calm dudes are my freinds usually.

[Yanoa_Yanza]

Hell yeah, Calm men xD

[Anonymous]

I'm more use to agressive so

[LOGESH94]

I'm very very clam character...

[PurpleSweater]

Calm. I can't stand the aggressive guys

[archiz]

calm by far

[COCOCHANEL]

calm ♡

[IamTheBoss]

I am calm so its B.