How do you kindly reject a girl?

[Anonymous]

I know that most of the time, it's vice versa. But there's a particular girl at my school who admitted that she likes me. She's not really my type, though. Her personality is very bold and spunky ( not to mention that she's very tall), while I like girls who are a little bit more demure and submissive. Most of the boys are intimidated by her, too. She's not afraid to yell or fight them. Anyways, she treats me completely different. She's nicer and always tries to touch or hug me. It can get annoying at times, like when she constantly shouts my name or waves at me. I think my teachers know that she likes me. I also think they despise her because she doesn't do well in class and is defiant. Still, I only like her as a friend. My friends see me as an "intellectual" and introverted, so being around her can tarnish my image. I already told her this, but knowing how tenacious she is, she'll just keep insisting me to date her. We're both very young (and immature), only 15.

[xxAjjxx]

The way to reject a girl is to never reject a girl. Which basically implies that unless she directly ask you out, you don't need to tell her, "I don't want to date you." Set clear boundaries in the relationship, if they don't respect them then you choose how to act on that. Be fair and try not to flirt with girls in front of her. But she isn't your responsibility, if she chooses to get hurt over a shallow immature boy that's not even into her then that's her problem, not yours. Enjoy the friendship you have and try avoiding making things awkward for her.

Now if a girl ever out right ask you out then I can't help you, because I've done some pretty bad stuff when that happened.

[thetundrawolf]

Dude. Just because she is tall and outgoing doesn't mean when she won't be a submissive, kind, caring wife, if it ever gets to that point. You should give it a chance, and do yourself the biggest favor of your life, save sex for marriage.

[existing_not_living]

If she hasn't outright told you that she likes you, then you don't have to reject her. Just show her you're not interested. Be nice, but don't try to be overly nice. Set boundaries. She'll get the hint at some point. Also, don't assume what this girl might do just because of how "tenacious she is". Assuming makes you an ass as the saying goes and honestly just by how you are describing this situation you already kind of sound like one.

[Asker]

I apologize if I sound presumptuous or arrogant. Well, she has actually confessed that she likes me, so that's why I'm asking this question.

[existing_not_living]

There's really no easy way to reject someone. Just tell her you don't like her back if you don't. Simple as that. Telling the truth isn't mean, it's just the truth.

[Asker]

Thanks.

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

I don't know what she see's in you, people who care too much about their image and believe they are intellectuals are usually quite a bore.

[Asker]

Well, I put intellectual in quotation marks. I meant that it's what my friends refer to me as. I didn't mean that I'm a genius or anything. I'm far from it. I just work very hard, but the part about me being introverted is true. Maybe she likes how I'm mild-mannered and nice, unlike the other rebellious boys. I'm not sure. She said that I'm "cute and shy." :/

[xxAjjxx]

How is indirectly almost calling him boring going to help him? You're crazy if you honestly expect a highschooler to not care about what other people think of them. You being a girl should understand how that feels better then anyone. I strongly doubt you've NEVER in your life felt embarrassed for being seen talking to someone

[Asker]

@xxAjjxx Thank you :)

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

@xxAjjxx ummm no, I could care less what people think, it's my life not theirs. That's how I was raised and me being a girl has zero to do with how I feel about that.

Asker, but it appears it has a lot to do with your image, if you don't like her, that's it, but if it's just because of your image then that just sad.

[Asker]

I forgot to elaborate on this. We've literally known each other since elementary school. Back then, I moved to her school and was way shyer than I am now. She and her friends used to bully me a lot back then (I know it's weird to think about girls bullying boys.) At one point, I didn't even want to go to school since I was so scared of them. Eventually, for whatever reason, I have no idea, she became friendlier to me. Still, I'm kind of scared that she's just trying to bully me like before. I'm not sure if she genuinely likes me or not.

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

I see the dilemma dude, but are you into her?

[Asker]

Yes, I guess so. She's fun to be around and is nice to me. I like her, too. I just don't want my classmates or teachers to judge us for this.

[xxAjjxx]

You shouldn't worry about things that's out of your control. Especially when it may or may not happen, that'll only make unnecessary anxiety. I'm not saying become selfish, rather focus on your life happiness over other people's faulty judgment of you.

It's prioritizing what's more important to you.

[Asker]

@xxAjjxx Thank you. :)

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

Well if you want to be in a relationship with her then do it. If you're not ready then don't just remember your happiness is more important than what everyone else says.

[woooooooo]

girls should learn to kindly reject the guy