Girls, Spankings/Disciplining: Survey for anyone who was spanked growing up? (Page 7)

Question

Hey! OK so this is a big (and sometimes controversial) debate that came up in a class and its a topic thats come up in conversations with friends on how they were brought up. It's interesting to see how so many people view spankings as necessary discipline and a normal part of growing up, whereas others see it as a bad thing! Would be interesting to hear from the experiences of everyone here. This survey's probably not relevant if you weren't spanked growing up but if you were, copy and paste the questions and please share your views: 1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? 2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? 3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? 4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? 5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? 6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? 7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? 8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? 9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? 10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? 11) Did you cry every time? 12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? 13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? 14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? 15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? 16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? 17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?

Ronja00 · Answer

1. Not sure tbh
2. I guess rarely
3. Often dad, sometimes mom or one of my brothers. Once my uncle.
4. Misbehaving in school, staying out to late, breaking things etc
5. Not really.
6. Often across the knee in bed, but sometimes other places
7. 16, I came home drunk.
8. Sore
9. Hand or belt.
10. Both, but mostly bare butt.
11. Almost, I knew that if I cried they would stop sooner so
12. Both
13. They asked me after and I had to repeat what I've done wrong
14. Getting grounded or not getting access to my wardrobe.
15. I'm torn on that.
16. No I don't think so
17. I don't think I would be a very strict parent

thisisbreana123 · Answer

1) Nope
2) Everyday and most throughout the day
3) My mom and stepdad. But mostly m6 stepdad
4) any little thing I did wrong
5) No cause I was still learning
6) Well they used a belt on me. But I did go over their knee, 8 did hsv3 bend over. I went over a mattress and I just had to stand there.
7) It was 10 years old
8 ) It hurts since it was with a belt. I have scars on my back and butt from it.
9) A leather falling apart belt
10) bare And clothed
11) Yeah but more like screamed
12) it was embarrassing cause they did i5 in front of my friends. I wanted to die.
13) they didn’t
14) I was made to do push-ups over a candle that was lit until I either got burned or my arms fell off and more but I don’t want to say.
15) i Will never hit my kids with a belt or choke them like my dad did. It was abuse. I don’t want them taken away from me. by the way this is gonna be when I have kids.
16) it Did. I don’t trust them
17) No I will use other ways to discipline them.

Logical_Idolist · Answer

1) No
2) Very often
3) My dad or step mom
4) Everything. A bad grade, not doing something right, talking when not spoken to, etc.
5) No
6) Bending or standing
7) 13 and my stebother told my step mom I hit him
8) It hurt. There were always welts and bruises.
9) Yes. They often used belts or metal rods.
10) Over my clothes
11) Not every time
12) It was painful. I felt more unloved and hated more than anything.
13) I was more scared of them. It wasn't the spanking that made me learned my lesson.
14) They would lock me in my room for a couple months. They would tell me when I could go to the bathroom and stuff and I wasn't allowed to talk.
15) I don't agree with spanking. It has been proven that a child who was spanked is extremely likely to be aggressive and abusiclve themselves.
16) Yes. I felt like my dad hated me and I felt like my step mom was stealing my dad away from me. She always sent me away to get rid of me.
17) I would never spank my children.

LizzyHale · Answer

Of coarse it’s an effective form of discipline! Who wants to be hit? So if you don’t want to be hit DONT DO DUMB sh*t. It makes you think about things that your doing before you do them. If you know your going to get hit bad if you steal a candy bar most likely YOU won't DO IT, when it’s just a “go to your room” there’s nothing really bad about that and it’s something kids will not even think about if there’s no repercussions physically.

AnastasiaLane · Answer

Spanking doesn't have to be child abuse, jeez. It's a good form of discipline ONLY if your child doesn't listen to you when you use your words and have tried other methods. I'd never hit my future children but if they did something they shouldn't have even after being told time and time again not to, I think a spanking is in order. Spanking isn't the same thing as ACTUAL child abuse. It's only a slap on the ass, calm down.

Jaguar1818 · Answer

Okay well I grew up in a home where all types of abuse were present. Therefore I don't believe in harming children. However a good swat on the butt is enough to let the child know what's appropriate behavior and what's not. You don't need to hit hard, or do it more than once. Just enough to startle the child. Most children will instantly cry even though it doesn't actually hurt. This is because they are shocked!!! However it also teaches them. So spanking is okay in my book, but not to excess.

randomwords · Answer

1) no
2) every week
3) mom
4) everything
5) not at all, made me. Retaliate
6) yes, bend over the knee
7)14, smoked a cigar
8) bouncy 😂
9) wooden spoon), shoes
10) bare and clothes
11)🤐 maybe
12) embarrasing, aroused (ew, it's my parents)
13) i didn't learn my lesson
14) yelling?
15) I don't know they did it yesterday
16) no
17) nah not useful

PrincessProtection · Answer

I used to get bare bottom spankings until my cousin moved in with us, then my mom stopped because she didn’t want him seeing my butt.

Amberishot · Answer

1: yes
2: often
3: parents and yup
4: doing bad shit that I had no business doing lol
5: nope
6: the spot I was standing and sometimes over the bed
7: I was 10 and I cursing because I couldn't get what I wanted
8: my butt was on fire
9: their hand or sometimes whatever they could find
10: sometimes both
11: sometimes not every time
12: painful
13: they thought I learned but I didn't I kept doing what I was doing
14: signs that they weren't playing lol
15: depends on why they're getting spanked for
16: yup
17: nope I'd tell them to stop I don't hit kids

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Personally, I deserved all the spanking I got from my parents when I did something deliberately hurtful or damaging. It happened only a few times. I never detested them for disciplining harshly to teach me or my brothers a lesson. They were right to do so. I will always appreciate their very good parenting. However, I would never allow anyone else (aside from my parents) to spank me. I'd kick them down to hell if they tried.

princess_jenna · Answer

1) sometimes
2) rarely
3) my momma and no I didn’t.
4) talking back obsessively, it was honestly just when I continually misbehaved
5) sometimes
6) just where I was standing.
7) I don’t remember
8) it hurt obviously
9) just the hand
10) depends
11) yeah pretty much cause it was really upsetting to me, not cause it was that painful
12) both I guess. And angry
13) who knows
14) time out, the usual
15) at times it’s necessary but some parents do cross the line
16) not really
17) yes I would.

Azzanne · Answer

1. Yes and no. Whilst I don't believe hitting your children is ever okay from personal experience I know it stopped me from repeating certain things however it also made me terrified of getting in trouble.
2. Fairly often.
3. Only my parents
4. Most things. I once closed a door too hard, barely a slam and that got me spanked.
5. Answer to question one.
6. Depended what they felt like at the time.
7. 12, I'd locked my bedroom because I wanted privacy (not for anything in particular I just didn't like people just walking into my room)
9. Mother it was just her hand. Dad varied between hand, shoe and belt.
10. Again whichever they felt like.
11. Yes.
12. Both, also felt shame and sadness that I'd upset them.
13. Because I was crying so hard I couldn't do anything else.
14. I'm not going into that.
15. See answer to question 1.
16. It led to me being afraid of upsetting people
17. I wouldn't do it.

CurlyGirl42 · Answer

It actually surprised me to hear it is legal in the US since it has not been legal where I am from since before I can remember. It became illegal in my country in 1993, so I could potentially have been spanked as a 4 year old, but my parents have always been against this and did not hit my older siblings either. They were also not spanked themself by their parents, but in school it was still legal when my dad was a kid and I heard awful stories about this.

LovelyFlower · Answer

I don't believe in spanking as a good form of discipline. Question 2 - Never got spanked. Question 4 - None since my parents don't hit us. To the rest of the questions can't answer , I wouldn't know because that's not the form of discipline my parents use.

cocoaniable · Answer

1) Not at all
2) Never
3) My mom & dad and nope
4) /
5) /
6) /
7) /
8) /
9) /
10) /
11) /
12) /
13) /
14) Not really, they once took my books&sketchbook from me but that's it.
15) Nope I don't think that's needed at all.
16) /
17) No I wouldn't

laurenn1107 · Answer

1. No I don’t believe they’re affective
2. Rarely
3. Mom and dad
4. Only the really bad stuff
5. Yes it was effective
6. Spank while standing
7. Like 5 I think
8. Stung a little bit
9. No
10. Over clothes
11. No
12. No
13. I wouldn’t do it again
14. Time out
15. I don’t think it is necessary
16. No
17. Completely last resort I probably won’t ever do it

lomimore · Answer

I was not spanked often when i was kid only when i was being a brat and my mom had no other choice, my dad would sometimes threathen me too but he actually never did, spanking did not really do anything to change what i was thinking to do and most of my friends would do more stuff because they got spanked and it made them more rebelious so i don't believe at all in spanking as a way of discipline.

Nancy_ · Answer

1) yes
2) not often but it wasn't rare either
3) both parents, but mom more, yes
4) doing something dangerous or not listening after beeing told multiple times, being mean to someone
5) almost always
6) on the spot while you're standing
7) no idea
8 ) couldnt sit for 3 days from the bruises sometimes, more often it just stung for a few minutes
9) often with an object
10) both
11) no
12) just painful
13) i didn't do it anymore
14) grounding, phone, pc, mp3 restrictions... sleep deprivation sometimes, humiliation, treaths etc
15) as long as it doesn't leave bruises it doesn't even habe to be a last resort, a child will learn faster that something isn't good if you spank him once for it than explaining it for days, like said as long as it doesn't leave bruises it isn't abuse
16) spanking no, psysical & emotional abuse yes
17) yes i would spank them, control myself

imacatttt · Answer

1. Sometimes
2. Rarely
3. My mom & no
4. Fighting with my siblings
5. Not really
6. It depends
7. I don't remember my last spanking😂
8. It hurt IG
9. sometimes the paddle but most it was there hand (my siblings and I would hide the paddle😂😂)
10. Over clothes
11. No
12. Both
13. They didn't
14. Making me hug my sisters in a corner until we were quite or nice to each other for 20 minutes
16. I don't know
17. I don't know

menina · Answer

I have never been spanked during my childhood. My parents used to yell at me, punish me or slap me when they thought I did something I shouldn't.
I don't believe that spanking is a good way to discipline your child.
I think it's a way to traumatize them, turn them into hateful people and make them hate their parents or anyone who is responsible for them.
To me, it's a form of abuse.

Sana1995 · Answer

1- yeah but there's other effective forms of discipline 2- probably quite a bit and both of my parents and no 4- can't remember 5- yes 6- don't remember 7- not sure 8- most likely hurt lol 9- hand 10- probably both 11- yeah 12- painful 13- when I began cooperating 14- yelling 15- not really sure what my opinion on it is 16- my anger issues with my parents come have to do with something else 17- not so much spanking more like be verbal but watch what I say

Gabi_T · Answer

1. Yes
2. Often
3. Mom And Dad
4. Lying, disobeying, sassy attitude, etc
5. Always
6. Would make us bend over their knee
7. 10 or 11
8. Like it was on fire lol
9. If it was really bad a wooden spoon
10. Over the clothes
11. No
12. Both of those plus mad
13. Because we got our crap together very quickly
14. They will ground us
15. It's not abuse. It's necessary.
16. No
17. Nope.

Katherine3110hun · Answer

1. No my parents still failed at parenting me
2. Regularly
3. My mom
4. Not cleaning my room
5. Yah
6. Just spank me on the spot
7. I don't know
8. I don't remember
9. A belt
10. Over clothes
11. No, one time I laughed
12. I don't know wym
13. They didn't
14. Threw my toys away
15. Necessary discipline if it works
16. I was abused by them so I don't know if spanking has anything to do with my anger towards thrm
17. No

chloehatespeople · Answer

Okay, psychology has proven spanking kids literally does nothing but create unreasonably aggressive adults and that violence is okay. Also i was beaten so my accounts of "spankings" dont really count. "Spankings" for me was hard blows to face, being beaten with my own possessions and being starved.

este1864 · Answer

I have never been spanked by my parents and will never spank my children. i can never use physical violence against any child, ever. it's an inefficient way of disciplinary action and we know for a fact that it can cause lasting psychological damage in kids.

Gypsy_x · Answer

I thinking light spanks are an effective way to discipline small children, when they aren't old enough to be reasoned with. Beyond that, and its a hell no. It affects your relationship and pushes them away.

emmily2396 · Answer

Spaking is not right. You're parents may get triggered from anything... be alcoholic... etc. Do you like getting beaten up because you can't stand their bullshit and you talk back? Or just because they got annoyed over something small? That may be discipline to them and abuse and crazyness to you

AquaBoo · Answer

1) no.
2) often
3) parents
4) lying and cussing. Shit like that.
5) no.
6) all of the above
7) 15 I was texting a boy
8) stung
9) stick, rod, belt
10) both.
11) no.
12) anger
13) they didn't
14) grounding
15) won't do it
16) definitely do.
17) probably not. I would use other methods.

WickedIsGood · Answer

I was spanked.
1. I do believe so.
2. Rarely ( learned quick)
3. My dad
4. When we mouthed off or were just super rude.
5. It was.
6. While standing
7. I was about 7. I wasn't doing what I was told.
8. Stung.
9. Usually a wooden spoon. (Broke a lot)
10. Over clothes
11. Only when i was very little
12. I was embarrassed.
13. I stopped doing the things i got diciplined for.
14. Once I was smacked.
15. I believe in spanking incredibly misbehaved children.
16. No.
17. I would if I had to.

soulbabe · Answer

i dont belive they should be beat for everything they do but a little tap on the butt when their little is not a bad and i don't mean a beat you with a wilo branch i mean like a little tap like you would tap your dogs nose for getting on the counter tops

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