My Mom still spanks me. Is this normal?

[pinkesweet]

My mom spanked me a few days ago. I am really embarrassed because I'm 13 and I'm too old for that. She should have grounded me or something. Is this normal or is it because my mom is a total bitch?

[Cola7248]

i am only speaking as a mother. first things first, i understand the hurt and anger but you cannot call your mother a bitch that is not ok. second thing is this you make it sound like she does this all the time every day and i don't believe she does. you said she took your phone for other reasons and you still keep doing stuff? you had it comming. i believe she tried many other things and it took no effect because she ended up spanking you. she had to get your attention and if the other things didn't work spanking will. for most parents spanking is the last resort and it sounds like your mother went there because she had no other choice. You say you think you are to old to be spanked. Let me shed some light. You are NEVER too old for spankings. You don't like them don't give her a reason to hit your bum. I am going to tell you like my mother use to tell me "hard head makes a soft bottom." Spankings are suppose to hurt. You know, no one likes them. You need to be glad that it's just a spanking and not a beating. I know kids who get beat for no reason. You are getting disciplined for your actions. and honestly I would rather hear about your mother spanking than to hear about you getting beaten by the police or murdered by some street thug. And I understand your anger but you cannot continue to disrespect her because there are a lot of people in this world doesn't have a mother. Anyway, obey the rules and you won't suffer consquences. I am only speaking as a mother and nothing else.

[Cola7248]

i have a 13, 12, and 7. i just looked over some of the comments from some of these adults and i am starting to see why you got a spanking. just be glad it was your bottom and nothing else. and don't moan in pleasure it will make matters worst.

[pinkesweet]

I won't, I don't really get that part. Who the hell want to be spanked? My ass still hurts.

[Cola7248]

look when i was younger my sisters cousins was burning paper on the window seal playing around. we older ones went to bed and my yonger cousins was in my brother room playing with matches and caught his room on fire. Luckily for us we made it out a live. but we all got tore up. and i mean spanked good for that. yes it was an accident but playing with fire cost my brother his room and ours. we had to share a room with our parents until our room got fixed.
So that was justified when my mother passed many years later i was in a foster home where the foster mother use to beat me for no reason. she called herself trying to beat the black of me because she hated darkskinned people and took it out on me. do you see the difference. one was spanked with open hand for my actions and the other was unjustified and to this day she will deny any wrong doing. you got it easy young lady

[Cola7248]

your ass is going to hurt. It's to remind you of what you have done.

[Cola7248]

and think about it like this what if you have caused all the tenants to lose housing? do you know that arsen is a federal crime? Your lucky you didn't fo to jail for that.

[theakisses]

you do seem a bit old, so your frustraition is understandable. she might not have realized that it embarassed you or might not understand why you are feeling this way. maybe find a time when you are both feeling level-headed and discuss this with her, explain that this sort of punishment is not effective and will only make you resentful. discuss other forms of punishment with her such as grounding, confiscating your phone, etc.
im sorry this was a difficult experience for you and hopefully you can work things out!

[pinkesweet]

She already took my phone for a prior offense.

[theakisses]

i guess what im suggesting give this some time, allow the both of you to cool off, and try to discuss this experience without getting upset. explain that it was embarassing, and see if you guys can come up with pre-determined punishments, that way there won't be conflicts like this in the future as you'll know what the consequences of your action will be

[pinkesweet]

I always try to reason with her but she never listens to me. She treats me like a baby and I resent it.

[theakisses]

explain that to her when you are both calm. maybe sit her down during a family dinner and explain how it makes you feel, and why you think the punishment it unreasonable. listen to what she has to say and remain respectful (thats the best way, in my opinion, to get through to parents). have you tried asking her about this when you two are getting along better?

[pinkesweet]

I will try talking to her again but it is very frustrating. She is one of those women who think they have all the answers. But I will try again.

[Vesuvius87]

I guess instead of screaming, don't react at all when she does it. By giving her no reaction and even saying ''go ahead do it'' she might then figure out it's not working and come out with other alternatives methods.

[Vesuvius87]

I don't think it's normal for a teen to still have to be spanked. That means there is something not working in the household. Either the spanking shouldn't have been done in the first place or it should have stopped a long time ago.

[pinkesweet]

I didn't want to scream but it hurt like hell. My ass is still sore.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I reached a certain point where she can spank me her hardest... no reaction, no tears, I wouldn't even flinch. That's when my Mom gave up on that and resorted to pointing a gun at me... I said "go ahead and do it."

It was for trivial things like bad grades, or her simply blaming me for things I didn't do (missing cigarettes/beers she drunkenly misplaced, or accidentally making too much noise that wakes her from her Zoloft slumber) and I was older than you.

Study her, learn how not to become her... but quit feeling sorry for yourself. This is life and life is filled with overbearing people. It could always be way worse and this is just a spanking you probably deserved. She has standards you didn't meet, and she's not your friend's mom with their standards. Learn to live as expected of you until you can get a job and move out.

[pinkesweet]

Holy $hit , She pointed a gun at you? I'm trying

[Squeaky_Pickles]

You realize that you're 13 right? You're still a child. Its not your place to decide how you get punished, thats your moms. If its so embarrassing then dont get in trouble, because really it just comes down to how you act. She's your mother she can spank you all she wants, its a form of discipline. and no, 13 is not too old to be spanked, I was spanked until I was like 15 or 16, then they just started hitting me. Think about what you did to get spanked and learn not to do it again, plain and simple.

[mattmanyah]

my dad spanked me till I was 14 and my mom will still smack my hand with a spoon if she hears of me doing something stupid... I have a 4 year old nephew and my neighbors kid is 4 and my nephew asked me why I spanked him and not the neighbors kid and i told him that I love him and that I don't want his bad behavior to rob his future... it takes a lot to do what your mom does and one day you will be grateful for it... you will see someone act in a way that your mom taught you not to act and you will praise your mom that you don't act like that

[pinkesweet]

But I'm too old! I'm not 4

[mattmanyah]

my dad spanked me till I was 14 ... and have you been hit by a wooden spoon

[pinkesweet]

No she uses her hand

[mattmanyah]

your lucky... and go to sleep you got school in the morning

[AynonOMouse]

1. In this case spanking is totally deserving. Playing with fire can be far more dangerous than kids realize. You got lucky that no serious fire happened.
2. Sometimes being embarrassed will prevent you from doing something dangerous again.
3. Your mother punished you as much as she did because she cares about you and wants you to not ever make that kind of bad choice again.
4. Don't listen to the people saying perverted stuff about this. What you should do is apologize to your mother for doing something so dangerous. Then ask her to not spank you again because you feel humiliated. Don't yell at her. You really should be the one that is sorry in this case.
5. Don't play with fire. I know it can be fun but it seriously can be dangerous.

[pinkesweet]

I turned over my lighter and the remaining pinwheels. And I apologized to everyone in the building.

[AynonOMouse]

That's good. Everyone makes mistakes at some point or another. I hope you and your mom can get along better now.

[explainpls]

In my opinion it's not okay to spank or hit children.
Generally using violence as a disciplinary measure is horrible and doesn't help creating a safe place for a child.
Furthermore it destroys the faith in the parents & hurts, both physically & mentally.
I really don't understand how parents can physically discipline their children - no matter how old they are or what they've done; violence should never be an option, especially with people you allegedly love.

[Cola7248]

for some children its the only way they listen. Understand what you are saying but a little swat on the bum doesn't hurt them it guides them

[BaileyisDarcy]

So you shouldn't be getting smacked because you're fourteen, but its okay for you to act like a four year old?
Four year old behaviour gets four year old discipline.

How about just dont be stupid and follow the rules. Bam. No more smacks.

[pinkesweet]

I didn't do it on purpose.

[Cola7248]

@BaileyisDarcy couldn't have said it better myself

[BaileyisDarcy]

You were playing, literally, with fire and didn't mean to set shit on fire.

My mum burned her parents hay shed down at your age from playing with fire.
People have lost their homes from children playing with fire.

You didn't MEAN to set anything alight? Are you stupid?

[pinkesweet]

No. I'm sorry, I apologized to everyone in the building.

[GreyEyedGreyson]

Trust, you never get too old for your parents. My Nana is 107 and still threatens her 86 year old son with a lashing. lmao

[pinkesweet]

Wow that's weird.

[MilkyyM8]

Wot, my friend is 15 and he still gets beaten by some flip flop

[pinkesweet]

I think that's way toooo old

[MilkyyM8]

You should see his reactions xD

[Nikeleta555]

Here's a question: would you rather get spanked and have the punishment be over and done with or get grounded or have something taken away and have to live with the punishment for a prolonged period of time?

[matheus_mb]

No, spanking is never normal regardless of age. Actually, as the person gets older it's even worse since it causes a deeper revolt.

[pinkesweet]

I know. when I was cring afterwards I said some things I shouldn't have. I think I hurt her. I was trying to because I was mad and embarrassed. But now I kind of regret it.

[matheus_mb]

Well, you were spanked, I don't think you should regret. Maybe this is mean of me but I wouldn't regret my own relatiation after being spanked.

[audrey_aisha]

I know a 16 year old that still gets a beaten by his mother.
and you don't call your mother a b*tch.
Can you please learn to respect your mother.

[pinkesweet]

But Now I'm humiliated cuz a lot people know and it was't justified by a long shot.

[audrey_aisha]

how did a lot of people find out?

[pinkesweet]

I think they heard me screaming

[audrey_aisha]

Yeah but all I can say is that nobody is too old for a spanking. The way your mother Disciplines you is her choice. But I'm serious Never call your mother a B*tch, that is disrespectful.

[pinkesweet]

Even when I'm pissed?

[audrey_aisha]

Yep, you never call your mother something that disrespectful.

[pinkesweet]

How else can I vent my frustration. She rules my entire life and I'm 13

[audrey_aisha]

You have to be calm while venting. When you vent you don't have to call your mom a B*tch, you just be calm and try to calm yourself down. and Yes she does it because your only 13 your not an Adult.
And Have you called her a B*tch right in front of Her?

[lucius46ad]

I did that day

[lucius46ad]

when my kids got out of line

[baileytabitha]

I think it's pretty normal, or down here in the south it is.

[pinkesweet]

But this is NYC

[pinkesweet]

But I'm 13

[baileytabitha]

When I was growing up, everyone got spankings/whippings (whatever you wanna call it). There was no "grounding"

[rgb008]

Tell her you find spanking sexy and kinky and she will stop. hahaha

[rgb008]

Moan in ecstasy when she does it.
Gotta make it convincing.
Call her daddy.

[pinkesweet]

JFC you're as bad as the perverted guys!

[rgb008]

Dude she will totally stop tho hahah

[pinkesweet]

God I feel sorry for the guys who go out with you

[rgb008]

My boyfriend loves me OP.

[Nik1hil]

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She knows what's she has to do,
Rest is upto her, 😂😂

[pinkesweet]

So he hits you and you like it?

[rgb008]

Did I ever say anything another myself getting hit?
No.
I was just giving you advice on how to deter ur mom from spanking you at your age.

[rgb008]

About*

[Nik1hil]

It's entirely different
As a child you don't have excess body muscles and fats! Which makes spanking give you pleasure, and since you have thin skin I know it hurts
( my mom used me as punching bag from 8- 14yrs age)
The key here is your mom does not know you are getting pain or pleasure from it.
Your mom's aim is giving pain,
He hits you and you act like it's pleasure, then her aim is failing so she will resort to some other techniques.
You just need to act like you are enjoying the hits.
As of age 13yrs age it isn't much to explain you and I cannot, as this opinion owner advice says
AA little fake sexual pleasure outcome due to spanking, will instantly make spanking repulsive to your mom!.. Since it enters 'Inscest zone' she will never even imagine of spanking you! She will resort to other techniques like grounding

[pinkesweet]

Call her daddy? She hit me even harder! She hates my dad.

[pinkesweet]

@Nik1hil How can I pretend I'm getting pleasure when it feels like my ass is on fire?

[Nik1hil]

well solution isn't hard, and dont call her daddy its a silly advice, however if you can decipher that what is your moms psychological situation, then it will be much easier to draw a conclusion to how to stop her, my mom punched kicked me and even tossed me around room when she was pissed , when i was b/w age of 8-10 , when i was in 8th grade, she threw mixing jar on my face breaking my nose, i had 3 stiches, i responded by anger but then started studying her bonding with her, she was neurotic, pissed at my dad, and social rejection since i am bastard, made it much difficult, she even admitted this yr that she tried to kill me a few times, but as i grew, i realized it, and began assisting her and bonding with her, like stopped demanding things, having meaningful conversation, covered up chores, instead of eating food glued to tv, sat and ate food with her, and helped her snap out of neurotic moment, told her she can count on me, she doesn't need to win social approval,

[Nik1hil]

then my friends spoiled me and i realized what is romance and love and etc etc, helped in fixing her shattered relationship with dad, created moments that made them realize, she still has things to savor and cherish, learned how to make her laugh - understanding her type of humor pretty much did the half work, if i was funny , she stopped feeling like hurting me even when she was pissed, it wasn't easy there were days she went suicidal, it was all about suppressing her insecurity and creating a happy environment, her job stressed her but we made sure of a fun evening, that made her feel better things went into equilibrium and we grew up, now she is confident, is pissed but doesn't loose control feels secure, and she even regrets the way she treated us, but honestly i truly am scared and broken internally, i dont trust womens now , but i said to her ::" it wasn't your fault , you tried your best, it was too much for you handle, and nobody can expect more"

[Nik1hil]

i dont wanna distort her again by revealing scars, so @pinkesweet point is either you can act out a nice moan , and she will step back and you will have another sort of punishment, or you can go down the psychology lane study her , win her from inside, and then you will be the alpha and she won't even control you. but it will mean a lot of time and you will mentally grow up into a women by then

[Cola7248]

you dont tell a 13 year old nothing like that honestly some of you people on here are perverted.

[Enrique342]

Yes if only you're doing something that u weren't suppose to do then yes it's normal but if she hits u for no reason then call the cops

[Anonymous]

I have a 12 and 14 year old. If they step out of line I''ll give them something to cry about. Kids your age are too mollycoddled. by the way what did you do to make her so mad that she spanked you?

[pinkesweet]

I was lighting pinwheels on the fire escape and one of them flew back into an open window and landed in her purse. I didn't know until the smoke alarm went off. Then our a$$hole neighbor called 911 and FDNY sent a truck. It was a total fiasco. BUt it's not like I did it on purpose.

[bio_scientist]

Your neighbour is not an asshole because he called 911. Understand that he thought there was imminent danger because of the fire alarm. If you're playing with fire/ related stuff, please be more careful around them.

[Lyndin]

Maybe you shouldn't have been lighting pinwheel so close to the house. Your neighbor is not an asshole, he just didn't want his home or your home to be burned down.

[Cola7248]

@pinkesweet i see now why your mother spanked you. that was embarrassing to her to have the fire department called. and to have to apologize to all the neighbors and to have clean up a mess you made by setting pinwheels on fire. you are lucky no one got injured or no one lost there house. and i read that she used her hand. that wasn't even a spank that was a few pats on the back side. right now my 4 year old nephew is acting better than you. You better be glad your neighbor called the FDNY or you all would have been homeless by now.

[pinkesweet]

@Cola7248 She made me go to every apt. in the building and apologize. Some of the neighbors are still mad because the hallways still smells of smoke. She used her hand but it was on my bare ass. It hurt like hell.

[Cola7248]

well sweety understand the embarrassment but you must remember she was embarrassed as well. and think about it like this. would rather your mom spank you or the police beat you. just be glad she loves you enough to do that. i know many children who hate there parents because they are not disciplined at all. they resent they're parents for not being there and not teaching them anything. Your mom loves you enough to do that. Remember she is your mother and not your friend.

[peachblossomluck]

A pubescent child shouldn't be spanked. You should tell school authorities.

[Squeaky_Pickles]

What are they going to do? Tell the police that a mother spanked her own child? Its not illegal to spank a child you know.

[peachblossomluck]

@Squeaky_Pickles Yes it is.

[Squeaky_Pickles]

No its not, look it up. In all 50 states and the District of Columbia, you are not forbidden by law to use corporal punishment on your child as long as the form of punishment is reasonable and does not cause injury.

[peachblossomluck]

@Squeaky_Pickles Reasonable to spank a pubescent child? That's sick. She should report it.

[Squeaky_Pickles]

Just because she's 13 doesn't mean shit, she's still a child. I dont know where you get your information from but its absolutely not true. in all 50 states you are allowed to spank your kids.

[peachblossomluck]

@Squeaky_Pickles You're supposed to stop when they are about 9 or 10.

[peachblossomluck]

She could get her mother in trouble possibly for reporting this.

[Squeaky_Pickles]

Still legal though. It doesn't break any laws. Thats the point im trying to make.

[AynonOMouse]

@Squeaky_Pickles You are correct. I have a Criminal Justice degree and it IS completely legal to spank their own kid.

[pinkesweet]

I'm really mad at my mom, but I don't want anyone else to know.

[peachblossomluck]

Ok, that's up to you.

[Lyndin]

A spanking is discipline, she was just trying to teach a lesson. Maybe it was the wrong way of getting the point across, but it is a way.

[pinkesweet]

It's the embarrassment that's killing me. I don't even mind my sore ass so much but the humiliation is unbearable. If my friends find out I"m finished forever.

[Lyndin]

What's the worst that could happen? If your friends are really your friends, they'll respect your wishes that they drop it. How would they find out anyway?

[pinkesweet]

Some of them live in my neighborhood and may have heard/saw the fire engines at my building. Something like this could ruin me.

[Anonymous]

you're not too old for that...
i've seen 20-30yo guys that get spanked by their mom😶

[pinkesweet]

noooo way

[utsav19]

you don't like being spanked or you'll prefer being spanked by your bf? either way you'll have to communicate with mom in a nice way that this is weird

[pinkesweet]

who the hell wants to be spanked? It hurts

[utsav19]

many girls do, it's sexy in a way but definitely not by mom. but anyways do communicate with mom and let us know how did it go

[pinkesweet]

I do but she never listens to me. She thinks she has all the answers.

[pinkesweet]

You mean there are girls who actually like it?

[utsav19]

Haven't you seen Fifty Shades of Grey / Darker. I won't say all but many girls do like being spanked by their partner during / around sexual intercourse.

[utsav19]

If you have been communicating with her but she isn't giving a damn you could do two things, 1. Make mourning sounds like the one you make while masturbating, like you're enjoying / getting pleasure out of it, ensure she notice, she will find this super weird and may be stop doing that 2. Warn her if she spank you again you will lodge a Child abuse case

[Cola7248]

Don't tell a 13 year old nothing like that.

[blueprincess4177]

i had my butt beat black and blue till i was 16

[pinkesweet]

Oouuchhhhh! Dam! what is with parents today? I feel like I committed a crime. How did you get your parents to stop?

[blueprincess4177]

they got divorced

[blueprincess4177]

but I don't know... honestly id say it was worth it... im a much more happier person now that i can actually take their advice

[StainedClass]

Your mom is awesome.

[pinkesweet]

why? I'm mad as hell and Im not going to take it any more

[StainedClass]

Talk to me in ten years when you're asking for guys to spank you.

[pinkesweet]

pervert!

[StainedClass]

How?

[pinkesweet]

Fu (k off!

[StainedClass]

Okay I will.

[StainedClass]

Sorry if I upset you.

[Nik1hil]

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[bio_scientist]

lmao, this convo is hilarious xD

[audrey_aisha]

@bio_scientist I agree lmao

[pinkesweet]

@bio_scientist you wouldn't think it was funny if it was you. Everyone in my building knows and I'm afraid it will get back to my friends and school

[bio_scientist]

I wouldn't do such a stupid thing if I were you. You should always be careful when handling flammables without supervision. Also calling other people rude names just because they wanted to live safe doesn't justify your cause.

[pinkesweet]

@bio_scientist He didn't have to call FDNY over a smoking purse. There wasn't even a real fire. Just some smoke.

[bio_scientist]

Smoke is an indication about a fire. It doesn't matter if it was just smoke, many things could've been caught on fire if left ignored. He just took safety precautions and you can't say that taking safety precautions are wrong. Take care around such stuff next time so that it doesn't lead to more spanking. Cheers!

[eagle1951]

I got my last spanking at 14

[pinkesweet]

But don't you think it should stop around 9 or 10?

[eagle1951]

depends. i spanked my 2 kids only twice in there life