My Mom spanked me bare bottom when we got home from the beach and grounded me. I am 15 years old. Was this a reasonable punishment. Is it ok?

[AshleyVance27]

We were on a beach trip with family and friends and my Mom kept on asking me to get up and get her a drink, her phone, towel etc. After a while I was getting annoyed and told her to get it herself and she pulled me aside and said that was rude and disrespectful and I argued back with her back and forth for the rest of the day. When we got home she grabbed me by my arm and took me to my room. She made me take off my bikini bottom and bend over my bed and she spanked me for like 3 minutes straight. Afterwards she said that was my punishment for being rude and disrespectful to her as well as talking back to her the rest of the day and embarrassing her in front of the rest of the people with use. I said to her that I was to old to be spanked and she said that I acted like a child and was immature so I would receive a child’s punishment. Afterwards, I was sent to bed early that night and grounded to my room for the rest of the weekend without any phone or electronic privileges. Was my Mom right? And was this an ok punishment?

[peedy]

No your mom was not right it was probably the alcohol talking, she was the one being rude and disrespectable treating like her personal slave rather than her daughter and spanking you wasn't the right either your to old for that form of punishment so it seems to me that the spanking was more of a establishing dominance "im still top dog here" she knows you're grown up and will push her aside soon so she's holding on to whatever she can and that in among itself isn't wrong a lot of people can't let go but the alcohol made her choose and do reality bad things and do it all wrong which brings me to this point, she was in the wrong treating like a slave nut rather admit it and apologize she puts the blame on you the victim than compounds her failure by punishing you and with a inappropriate punishment to boot
To many people point the finger of blame rather than looking in the mirror for the fault
She was punishing you for her mistakes and her failures because its the only why she can save her self respect by lying to herself that she isn't the one with the problem

[AshleyVance27]

Thank you for the reply. I am off of punishment now and still wanted some second opinions anyway to see what other people has to say. I eventually ended up apologizing to her and for my behavior because at the end of the day I have to live with her and she is still my parent. I did feel bad for giving her a hard time in front of others but I didn’t think that she had to spank me. It was painful and embarrassing. I guess I will just have to act accordingly to her wishes because I don’t want this to happen again and don’t know what else I could really do.

[peedy]

Does your mom drink a lot? The more I think about it the more I see some classic signs behaviors of an addict

[AshleyVance27]

She only normally drinks when she is out in a social setting.

[peedy]

My grandfather never drank but my relatives referred to him as a dry drunk
Food for thought I hope my words help you find your way and give you some insight of a different point view to see the problem from outside the box
Good luck to you & God bless

[MarkyMark77]

@AshleyVance27 does she spank u often or not really? yeah i agree u seem too old to get spanked.

[crossdressingrihno]

Hell no you're not her b****! If she wants a servant she can go pay for one you ain't getting paid for this and you deserve to spend some time doing things you like and not just sitting around waiting hand and foot for your mom's basic whims. Plus banking is outdated and I and some states is even considered abusive.

Your mom can get off her ass and grab her own s*** sometimes. As for her being embarrassed whooptie Doo I'm sure it was embarrassing for you to have to go grab your mom's stuff like some servant in front of a bunch of people. If she tries to lay a hand on you again make sure you have someone on speed dial cuz I can tell right now she ain't a good mother and she needs to just quit while she's ahead.

[laurieluvsit]

It sounds like your mom is a masochist and gets off on this type of thing.

I know a woman who does all sorts of perverted things to her 2 sons to correct them.

[Keyboardkat]

I think you mean her mom is a sadist. A masochist gets off on his or her own suffering. A sadist gets off on inflicting pain and suffering on others. The Nazis were an extreme example of sadism.

[laurieluvsit]

@Keyboardkat
Yes, I am not either one so I always get them mixed up... lol

[jennyjenjen98]

Is this how she normally punishes you? It seems like a pretty minor thing to get spanked for.

[Keyboardkat]

I think a girl of 15 is a bit old to be spanked, yes. But I also think you were wrong in being disrespectful to your mother. The Bible doesn't say you have to love your parents, because it understands that that can sometimes be hard, but it DOES say you have to honor them, and promises you long life it you do.

[altdbob]

I would have to have more background on your upbringing to give you a fair answer. But I do not see anything wrong with appropriate discipline when deserved up to and including a spanking. You are not too old if you are under the age of 18 and living in your parents' house. It is their house and their rules.

If you don't like it, there are ways for you to be declared an emancipated teen and have the same rights as those over 18. be careful what you wish for because no they can throw you out on your own and you have to figure out how to support yourself.

[mayur1598]

Hmm... You should have given her things in first place so that this all Could have not happened...
But for such little act she should not have punished you... at least not spanking on butts... You are too old for that... Actually nobody should get spanked on butts its private part... Unless you want it... 😂

[HighValue]

In my opinion, spanking is only okay for bad repeated behavior, or for behavior that is dangerous (playing with fire, etc.).
In this situation I don't think any punishment was warranted. She was just being lazy and was mad that you wouldn't be her servant.

You're not too old for it, but this situation didn't call for it at all. Spanking is legal though and not abuse.
If she drinks alcohol frequently she is likely a bad irresponsible parent though.

[WindAtMyBack]

I think I'd have to hear her side on this one. In general I'm going to be skeptical about a teen who complains about their parents. Virtually all teens think they were being treated unfairly. So it doesn't mean much without knowing more.

[crossdressingrihno]

Growing up as a teenager my mother would have me getting stuff for her all the time and I do mean all the time like to the point where I suffer sleep deprivation because she would have me doing stuff for her until 4:00 in the morning and then I'd have to get up at 5:00 so I can go to school.
1 hour of getting ready for school and then another hour where I just sit outside for the bus that way I can stay away from my mom at least for a little while

[exitseven]

I think that physical spankings are wrong. I have given my kids a couple of good whacks on the bottom but it was mostly to get their attention and not physically harm them. I would come up with another form of punishment.

[mark000h]

Sounds reasonable. You were being disrespectful and mouthing off.

[Liuz02]

I know how you feel also with step dad and I am older , but no. I not think is good and maybe is drinking.

[JohnK123]

Well I mean no she could’ve said to do what she asked… but the part bout taking ur bikini off… that’s a red flag

[Wise4myage]

Mom is very lazy, but you should have just obeyed her.

[skeetskeetskeet]

Thats kinda odd... I get it she wants to smack you or whatever... but bare ass spanking is out

[Snsl153]

No, this is not ok, this is abuse.

[Drumlin2001]

The spanking is a bit much.

[Creampiekarl420]

Yes it was respect ya moms💯

[In_Trance]

You joined just to ask this? 🤔

[truthisthree]

tell her striaght up she is stupid

[kao118]

Yeah

[MarkyMark77]

@kao118 when did u last get spanked? seems kinda old to get spanked lol

[kao118]

@MarkyMark77 not slanted but hit and up til about a year or two ago

[MarkyMark77]

@kao118 oh by who?

[kao118]

@MarkyMark77 my parents…?

[MarkyMark77]

@kao118 ohh ok. can u follow back? easier to chat that way

do u like being spanked for fun by a boyfriend or something?

[kao118]

@MarkyMark77 no I do not and sure

[Anonymous]

you should have fought back

[jackinoff]

Sounds a little much

[Anonymous]

Cool story bro.