Why am I most comfortable and happiest when I'm alone?

[ndya10]

I always feel alone. No matter where I am or how many people I'm surrounded with, I feel so alone and sometimes lonely. I do have so many friends or "acquaintances" better that invite me over and I always decline cause I know I won't have fun and I don't easily fit in with the groups of people they go out with it. I'm a smart girl, I have a great job, I'm very athletic- I hit the gym for 2.5 hours a day at least and to be honest that's when I'm most happiest and where I'm most myself. I do have "acquaintances" at the job and I socialize with them, talk normally and everything. I seem so friendly to people who approach me and I know that I'm admired for my character. Im really introverted and don't enjoy having small talk with people. But, again I'm always seen by myself or with my dog (when I'm outside work or not working out). Do you think I creep people out? People who know me have told me I'm very soft spoken and very kind hearted; however I always seem standoffish to people who do not know me. I know I attract attention from men for my body and looks, but beyond that I don't enjoy normal conversations. Am I normal? Is this social anxiety? Yes I'm relatively shy and hate attention but am I normal?

[Atreyu]

it's a form of social anxiety yes. if you can't find any enjoyable qualities in human interaction, at all.
either you are surrounded by a freakishly large number of weirdos or it's you.

odds are it's you. of course if it really makes you happy then what the hell, do your thing lol

[Atreyu]

reading some of your replies you don't sound too happy

[ndya10]

As a matter of fact it doesn't make me happy whatsoever. I often get depressed and feel so down, but again I feel worse when I'm around people I don't enjoy myself with

[Atreyu]

only in person it online as well?

[ndya10]

Both. In person, I seem "happy" and try to be as kind as possible to anyone who approaches me. I hate social media, don't have Facebook- I only have Instagram and keep my posts to the minimum

[Atreyu]

well I wouldn't recommend a therapist right away. lol

first of all try to meet new people who catch your interest. there is a possibility it's the people around you that you don't want to deal with.

if that fails for a certain amount of time. consider therapy

[WhisperingBox]

in my honest opinion... maybe that's what you are. being yourself maybe nothing great but that's what made you who you are and that I should say is the best. Your personal life should not be affected by people's opinion unless you're hurting someone.

[ndya10]

What would you think of a girl who you see almost everyday and is always always by herself?

[WhisperingBox]

I'll think " she's a lone warrior"...

[WhisperingBox]

But give a smile sometimes... You can be in your own but don't act like a robot.

[natannq]

u hv learned to enjoy yourself

[ndya10]

But sometimes more often than not I feel so down and depressed

[ndya10]

But then again I feel worse when I'm around people who bring my mood down

[natannq]

u consider urself smarter than the average?
why u thing is the reason u feel so down? with and with people

[natannq]

i hvn't read completely. i think u r like me and u r better talknig with only a person at a time and not in groups... since u dont talk much in groups everybody wants to talk and very little will listen. and i think u need to share more with people who do understand u and appreciate u and do activities with them that u or him enjoy. so will enjoy talking and enjoy the activity as well

[PlsWork]

You're a lone wolf, or in your case a lone fox since you're a girl. I completely understand your situation since I'm a lone wolf myself, the only difference is that I don't really care what people think about me.

[WhisperingBox]

Lol so wolf is a he and fox is a she...😂

[PlsWork]

I just thought it was more fitting so I used it

[Kim007]

I haven't read the whole paragraph , but by the heading I m also the same I also feel comfortable when I m alone, I enjoy​ my "ME time with myself"... are you a Capricorn?

[Kim007]

I m the LONE WOLF... 🐺

[ndya10]

No I'm a Scorpio and sometimes I feel like I hate my life- I don't get a lively boost from anyone or anything but from my daily runs

[Kim007]

maybe i can help. if you want

[ndya10]

How would you do that? Worst of all, I have this tendency to seem "flirty" to the opposite sex with no intention to date them cause I feel like commitment and going out with them is such a burden and distraction to my routine

[Kim007]

no problem

[Kim007]

I m flirty too

[Kim007]

DM me

[Kim007]

I think I can help

[Kim007]

coz we both are of same kinds

[ndya10]

Hey come on I'm serious I'm not here to play around i need helpful input

[Kim007]

damn , I am serious

[Kim007]

I will help you but u have to tell me all the problems

[ndya10]

Okay

[Kim007]

u have DM me or follow me so that we can talk

[Anonymous]

Read about "empathy people"

[Anonymous]

you like to be alone