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Human being set the standard of beauty where most would believe that and media will come in handy in that situation to promote, anybody who decide or just happen to be outsiders wouldn't be tolerate, we finger shame, critisize and degrade them, as long as we put labels, any labels, to others, we just create more distance to one another, this is just one form of many forms of negative shame treatment and it's not woman problem but human as a whole, so stop labelling, it just creates more fraction, more fraction means more problems, can we just sit and be grateful
Well here is my story. I used to be chubby before. I weighed 158 lb at 5'3 and my mom was the one day shaming me. So I told her oh yeah mom I'm fat well that's good for me ok I live to eat not eat to live. I can lose 10 lbs any time. But the real question is how can we solve your droopy ass syndrome without a doctor. From then on she never complained about my extra 10lbs and I gradually lost it cause I started dancing hip hop and salsa. But the point is don't let no body bring you down about weight. It's a solvable issue that can be fixed with a little hard work. That's all. Anyway that's how I delt with it.
Anyway, the lesson here is, women shame each other to get what they want.
Lol what do they want. To be fat?
Oh girl they don't only fat shame, they slut shame, they education shame, every part of the body shame. I am skinny and I still get bullied for being skinny. Some women are just nasty and they will get at you for any reason. I was told ugly girls are bullied. I was a model and still I got bullied. Its just some women hate themselves and vent all their toxicity on other women to feel better. You can't win whatever you do with them. So just love your self and your body and be whatever u want to be
Nicely stated. A lot of (not all) women don't like having a woman as a boss, as a professor, etc., and seem to act like the only way they can bolster their own image is to put others down. Overweight women make easy and obvious targets. So do promiscuous ones, smart ones, and anyone who isn't in the "cool" crowd. Some of my friends, both girls and guys, could stand to lose a few pounds but I'd never shame them for it. Nobody with any class would shame anyone over physical appearance. Like you, I'm petite and slender, and I used to be picked on for being small. The guys used to make jokes like "it's windy out, let me hold your arm so you don't blow away." It wasn't hurtful, but it got old. The girls would be catty and mean-spirited about it.
Women are bitches. Point. I think it is women who are very insecure and sad in their own lifes, that they have to insult others just to make themselves feel superior and better. Nobody has the right to shame another for being overweight. It is a very sad world we live in...
Agree some women can be so cruel. I got bullied and name called by other women if I wore a skirt never a man did that to me
It's for 3 reasons I think:
1. Slim women work hard and sacrifice food and time to maintain their figure and gain acceptance and beauty, so they are annoyed when fatter women complain that they aren't as accepted when they haven't made the same sacrifices.
2 pity: When you see someone doing something that is self destructive, you wish that you could help them in some way. But when you see a food addict, they want that which damages them, so it end up being a condemnation of the fatter woman's addiction to food and her bigotry about the solution.
3. Natural selection makes unhealthy kin a liability to the local gene pool. We're programmed by evolution to "fat shame" because, evolutionarily, it's disadvantageous to a species to encourage/ accept behavior that makes the tribe weak and vulnerable, because that in turn could help contribute to the decline of the group.
Uhhh most skinny women are naturally skinny but ok
No, they made lifestyle choices while they were young that drastically improved their ability to be thin later in life
Lol no they didn't they were born that way!
This whole idea that folks who happen to be on the "plum" side ofthe equation is an absolute BS! Some people are build that way and why we tend to give such folks such a bad time, is beyond me!
Actually no, eating a lot while you're young makes you predisposed to become fat while you're older. For more info, look up "WHY YOU'RE FAT KILLING FAT CELLS = IMPOSSIBLE" on youtube. It's super informative and science-y.
I meant to say: "This idea that those on the "plumwas side of the equation is owed to their love of food is an absolute BS, because some of us are build that way. It's like saying why are some people red, black, white, greeen, brown -- well, you get the drift!
The height of genetic variation concerning fat distribution comes between men and women not among women. Men typically have more fat around their midline (due to neuroreceptors) and women tend to have more fat on their upper body and around their hips (also due to neuroreceptors). beyond that, having type 1 diabetes is the only real way to be genetically predisposed to be fat
Same reason why women skinny shame other women. Because either they are jealous as fuck or just plain assholes. Seems like girls are very competitive when it comes to beauty and always use "shaming" as a way to make themselves feel better.
Shaming someone for their weight is disgusting.
If you are really worried about someone's health, there are way nicer ways to tell them that.
Giving a healthy friendly advise is fine but downright shaming them for being fat is unacceptable.
And it's not just girls, boys do it as much with their friends.
Only difference is maybe men don't take it seriously and women do bcz aapearance is definitely more important to every woman.
Motive... well there isn't really. Those who do it just like to point out the imperfection or shortcomings of others.
It's none of their business what other women do.
Correct one would be, women body shame other women.
One of the biggest reasons I don't like hanging out with other girls. They keep commenting on other girls' bodies, their dress sense and so on.
"Oh my God, she's so flat"
"Oh my God such a fat ass"
I'm sick of it. I don't find such behavior classy at all.
Women can be too cruel to each other.
It's a sad situation everyone is lovely in there own way whether they are fat or thin i was once on a date with someone we went to Jimmy Chung's and she seen a woman that had problems with her weight. She was talking fine to her one minute then soon as her back was turned she was saying nasty things about her being over weight. I felt like reaching out to the woman and giving her a cuddle. I never went on a second date with that woman because of what she said. I think woman fat shame other woman because they are naturally bitchy with eachother. They take pride in there appearance and if they see a woman that makes no effort they slag them off probably take photos and tag them on social media. The woman probably had a problem with her weight and that's what has caused her to put on the weight.
Because fat shaming isn't bad
Bullying is
But fat shaming isn't
It works and makes you work to be better and healthy.
But if you believe in fat acceptance, then day shaming just makes you feel better about living an unhealthy life and convincing yourself that you are healthy and better than everyone else because you don't have thing privilege and all that intersectional crap
I never fat shame anybody. But I do notice that some of the more heavy women I meet hates me instantly. If its jealousy or they assume I woundn't like them? I dont know. But it doesn't bring us together thats for sure. Then I also noticed some trades that heavy people often share such as fysical lasyness, they are often weak and complain a lot if challenged to do something active. No will to push though the pain. The once I've met and had longer interactions with always feel like they are treated unfairly and complain a LOT about anything and demand special treatment. Oh and in need of a lot of attention and none of those is a good trade to me. So if I meet a more heavy person and they start to show signs like this I'll pull away cause its not trades I look for in a friend. But I'll never ever comment on their weight to anybody.
Fat women shame slim girls too.
They say there's "nothing of them," that they're "stick thin." My cousin who 10 called me anorexic when I was 17? I eat heaps yet remain slim, is just who I am. You always hear that fat shaming is offensive but skinny shaming is too.
Fat people need to sort themselves out but I guess skinny shaming helps them justify why they choose to be overweight.
umm Skinny shaming can be done by fit and normal sized people too. Hell, I've heard thin people shame each others. It's not just Overweight people. In general as human society we have this problem called "not being able to shut up about our opinions" 😂 But you do realize that just as you just remaing slim, it's not always a decision to be fat.
I guess they're just being honest. The thing is people take offense at someone just for being called fat. Sometimes it's good to be honest and receive some constructive criticism so they can lean more towards a healthy lifestyle. I get called skinny a lot and to put on weight. However, if one's flat out saying someone's a fatass and those sorts derogatory add on terms, that does reflect the level of immaturity of that person.
There is a big difference between constructive criticism and shaming; nothing good comes from shaming. It decreases one person's perception of their self-worth, while inflating the others.
It’s also very time consuming and energy consuming with little benefit to me personally and pretty much all benefit going to the other person. Unless they pay me for service I’m not helping them (unless we are family or something).
It isn't about gender, dear Anonymous, it's human nature...
We humans tend to have a set of aesthetic standards ( which are mostly influenced) anyone or anything that falls out of those standards are subject to mockery and ridicule.
Not just the case of fat shaming but other things too like skin colour, teeth size, hair growth among various things ( British, till last century thought that having white skin makes them superior to other humans that that different colored skin, so they invaded many countries and established their laws/colonies 'cause they thought their way of living was superior. A classic case of having different aesthetic standards).
Why do women shame each other period? Fat girls body shame skinny girls (vice versa), virgin women tend to slut shame their sexually liberated counterparts (and vice versa), etc. It's because the shamer is usually insecure and putting down the shamed because she thinks it will make her feel and look better.
Being overweight is unhealthy period. The no such as body shaming it a bunch of lazy overweight people that has psychological issues in there past that lead to eating out of sadness and boredom. These are mentally suffering and can get out of the loop because their comfort of of not carrying about their body but desire what a healthy person want. Which bring them back to sadness of eating again. This why we have personal trainer. But not everyone can afford to be healthy. That why diet exist. But really they need mentally strong and get past their urges to live a healthy life. There nothing wrong being thick or cubby. But being fat, overweight and obese is the danger zone.
Gender rarely makes a difference in this matter. Women do it for the same reasons men do it sometimes. People often put down others because they are jealous but more likely to raise their own esteem. I can't honestly say I've known many women to fat shame. I've seen a couple of female celebrities, skinny ones, fat shame other celebs. But in person and in my experience alone of every day life, it is guys who fat shame more.
Because it's nature of reproductive competition. We are still animals who compete for reproductive success. Now when it comes to obese people and anorexic people, both are unhealthy and are seen as poison to the community from a subconscious mind. It's actually a self defense for the species to distrust them, be unaccepting, and possibly violent.
There are so many BIG woman in the West. Now their bad food and habits spreading in the world. It is terrible! Terrible also that people want say everything is ok and everyone is great and beautiful. That will leading to world of fat women and men that is very unhealthy.
Well said, I don't see the point of dumb things like 'thin privilege' started out by the fat acceptance crown in order to feel good about themselves as they have more victim points.
Why are the western third wave feminists promoting unhealthy and destructive lifestyles is beyond me.
@TheFriendlyOne This is personal for me also. My mom is big and I can get big easy if not watch what eat. If everyone accept big in my culture, maybe I not care and just accept be big.
@TheFriendlyOne I have many people make fun of me so skinny here in HK. They make joke of so skinny and so fat. I think some western woman so sensitive and everyone want acceptance like everyone is beautiful. It is silly. O. o
@YingKim I'm sorry that you have to go through this, but I think even you will agree that being skinny isn't good either, I believe and I hope you agree that we all should strive to be healthy and fit rather than trying to justify those who are glorifying being aneroxic or being morbidly obese.
by the way you are incredibly adorable 😄
@YingKim ooo I think u r Korean from your name. I am too. I agree with everything said above.
@Kimmy88 I am actually from Vietnam and live in HK. I do have many friends is Korean 🙌
@YingKim oooo I thought u were korean cuz Kim is very common lol
Not all girls do that. But I agree most of them do. Those who do that, are just insecure about their own body and can't see a fat girl just be happy with her body and smile beautifully where as they have to work hard on their body shape with a fake satisfied look.