Why do women fat shame other women?

Question

We give men crap for fat shaming women, but there are just as many women who do the same thing. Why do you think women fat shame other women? What are the motives behind this?

everdream · Accepted Answer

I would like to point out that there's a difference between obese and fat. Obese shaming, is OK in my book, fat shaming is too vague. For the record, you are at risk for all of those diseases and heart conditions if you are OBESE, not fat, as I will demonstrate.

We can't just eyeball a person and tell if they're unhealthy fat (high bmi/obese) or that's just their natural body shape, but they're medically healthy (moderate bmi, fit). So most of us just blanket-shame fat people. You have to understand that having a fat body has absolutely no correlation with fitness and health.

I was a chubby Asian kid in high school, not 'fat' but getting closer to it at 5'5" and 150lb. Plenty of others were lighter and more fit-looking. When it came time to test our fitness levels as mandated by state/federal laws, I put performed the vast majority of the others in my year. I ran a 6.5 min mile-run, (avg was 9:00 for my year), managed 90 push-ups (second highest), and took first place for sit-ups (325). When we tested our bmi, I was on the low end, at ~20. For those of you who don't know, that means my body weight was 20% fat. Obese is generally accepted as 35, slightly obese as 30, healthy 20-25. For the record, Asians have different genetics that automatically boost any bmi by about 5 points, so I was actually at about 25% by Asian bmi standards, still healthy.

Now, what does that all mean? I was a chubby kid, but damn if I couldn't kick your ass with those muscles under my fat coat all the same. After I got my fat levels tested at my doctor's later that year, we found that despite my weight, I had one of the most healthy fat levels he had ever seen in someone my age.

So yeah, looking fat doesn't mean you're at-risk; that's obese. All the same, you can't tell if someone is fat or obese with a glance, unless they're the type that look to be on the verge of a heart attack. My opinion is that if shaming obesity saves lives, do it, but that's not feasible. My take is that I'll point it out to someone I know well maybe just once or twice, but a stranger can have a heart attack not 5 minutes after I meet them, as long as their greasy chicken leg/barf doesn't land on my shoes.

King8401 · Accepted Answer

Women try to push their insecurities on other women it does not stop at fat shaming. So just avoid listening to negative people. If they're friends cut them off because they're useless if they can't accept you the way you are. Real friends motivate you.

FutureTrunks · Accepted Answer

Standards, jealousy, insecurities, etc. I can definitely say it’s something I hate. I once was all skin and bones until after I graduated high school and I’ve continued to gain more weight mainly in my legs but of course that weight distributed to other places such as my stomach and arms which makes me look a little unflattering and now I have to work to lose that and it’s not as easy as social media portrays. Due to this, I absolutely hate seeing slimmer girls fat shame bigger girls who are on the thicker side for not having a slim waist especially when these girls are all breaking there backs trying to look thick in photos. Everybody wants to be thick but nobody wants the other stuff that comes with it and due to social media, the only time “thickness” is acceptable is if your stomach is flat or someone never experienced excess fat and body came strictly from lifting.

I’m not fat but I’m definitely bigger than I was a year ago. 1st pic was around February 2016. Second is last Saturday

PrettyKitty31 · Accepted Answer

Of the handful of opinions I've read a lot of them mentioned health issues. This is fair and true. Being overweight or obese heightens the risks of heart disease, high blood pressure which leads to strokes, diabetes, bad hips and knees and a whole list of other issues.
But let's be honest now, the women that judge or ridicule women about their weight aren't doing it to be noble and becuase they're concerned about that woman's health. Let's go ahead and cut that shit right now.

Again though, let be honest about this, women shame skinny girls too. Bigger girls aren't the only ones that get shamed.

I can't say for sure why women do this, but I strongly believe it could be jealous and stems from insecurities about themselves. I believe 99% of women are insecure, and judging and shaming someone else they believe to be less than they are makes them feel better and superior.
I can't say for sure but that's my best guess.

PinkMichae · Accepted Answer

People who fat shame or do any shaming are narrow minded. They just make assumptions that every fat person sits on the couch 24/7 stuffing their face. They don't care enough to learn that people have different metabolisms And medical conditions that might make it hard to not gain weight. Even digestion issues or medication side effects cause weigh gain. Some people can eat crap and not worry about a thing while another person eating the same thing would balloon up. It makes fat shammers feel good about themselfs to put fat people down. It makes them feel like they are better.

Sana1995 · Accepted Answer

Has to do with jealousy and insecurities, but there's no need to shame any woman whether their bodies are bigger or petite. Clearly if you don't have anything good to say when it comes to fat shaming, you should keep your comments to yourself.

HughJass · Answer

I probably will get hate for this but anyways.

I'll start off by saying that fat shaming isn't only a bad thing, it is also a good thing. I'll explain.

In today's society, we have a lot of obese people which we always praise and tell the " shamers " to f**K off but do you know that your " praising " is actually gonna cost them probably their life? Being fat isn't anything to be proud of and the more we encourage the " fat " people and tell them how excellent they look and all that stuff, the more they will be like " Ah to hell with changing, everyone likes me! " and at the end, diseases such as heart attack and so on most probably will be the consequence. I've read many stories online and also my close friends who were fat and after getting fat shamed they hit the gym and turned their life around or basically they got INSPIRED. Wish I could post their picture and you could see their amazing transformation.

Also to mention that people nowadays get offended very easily. People can't tell the " fat " people the truth in fear of getting publicly shamed and having their faces and names plastered online and make a movie out of them.

What I have written above is directed towards the people who don't control their diet and eat anything they want anytime they want and It was NOT directed at people who have sickness such as thyroid and so on which causes fatness or in other words, the fatness which isn't voluntary.

C2000 · Answer

Women generally insult other femalea just so they can feel better about thwmselves.
Insulting a person because of how they look is a hollow, selfish self confidence "booster", by hurting or embarrasing a girl who is heavier the other female feels justified in her own looks.
Then again... some people are genuinely rude disgusting people and waste our air by even existing & they take true pleasure in seeing other people hurt but only by their doing.

I see one rude person on here... although being fat is not attractive it is a health problem for many people, overweight people are no more a burden to a health system than the vegan parents who accidentally cause the malnutrition of their children due to poor diet, or the morons who exercise to the point of hispitalization, or the people who insist on visiting foreign lands that are known for illnesses & then bring them back home.

So to the rude guy up top... the health system is made to remedy all health related issues and no one group of people or specific health issue is a sole burden to the system...

stawrman · Answer

I think the fact is, lifestyle is a matter of choice, and one has full control over the way they live. So if someone is fat because they're okay with not being thin or look fit, it's completely their choice. Difference is that if I'm a person who cares about my body, I may end up thinking if not commenting over people who live differently.
Coming to your questions, I do feel that there are plenty women who admire their physique and probably dislike a person who doesn't want to feel good about themselves. Truth is, they may be okay with being fat, but the shaming part may put them through self doubt. This is also because of a tiny Superiority complex either gender has. But in girls, the physical complex is a bit more of a vocal thing, whereas most guys are relaxed about it. That's also because guys would probably fat shame other guys in a joking manner than in an offensive manner.
Again, it may sound subjective, but I saw the pattern through my entire schooling and uni, so it's what I noticed.

Account · Answer

It's the other way around as well. I got a new job and I was constantly shamed about the fact that I look so skinny and my work clothes didn't even fit. They made fun of me so much for that, that I quit after working there for only a few days. It was unbearable. I acted like I was fine about it in the beginning, but it really got me mad after a few days. People are shit, we just have to accept that. Try to be the best you can towards other people, no matter their size, height, color, ethnicity, gender etc. So far, I have only acted in a shitty way towards people who did the same to me first, even as a kid.

Fitness-Fanatic · Answer

Although it's unhealthy being overweight , I'd never ridicule or insult anyone for their shape or size. Whether they are fat or skinny. It's not in my nature to intentionally insult people's appearance. Fat shaming is just an excuse to be an asshole or bitch. It's a form of bullying.

Kkstarzz96 · Answer

So, sometimes i see a lady so fat, that i can't even see the person, i just see fat. Ripping the arm sleeves, tugging at the hips, those poor tiny feet that carry that around, and she has a second head hanging below her face thats supposed to be her chin. It honestly makes me sad bc I don't know how someone gets to that point whether it be a disease or bad habits. But if i looked that bad, i wish i had someone who cared enough to help me, encourage me that that isn't my best. Im on the heavier side I've always been a size 9-14 usually but i dont feel like myself on the larger sizes or ill fitting clothes bc my waist can't squeeze in a cute top or pants. We all have to do our best esp. As a woman and we dont need our own weight to be pulling us down from all the people and influences that stop us from achieving more. A healthy woman is a strong woman.

TallAnon · Answer

Why not shame them? Being fat is against everything a human bring should be doing. You waste food (indirectly causing global warming), get less productive, you're not efficient and it's not healthy either.

I think it should be greatly discouraged. Ofcourse there are limits to that, as always, but I also think people should stop glorifying fat people. People being "happy with their body" is insane when it causes them to die earlier and all the other stuff I pointed out earlier.

I know this is an inpopular opinion and I might receive shit for this, but it's got to be said. If you are fat, you saw this coming from miles away; fix yourself or get professional help. Whatever you do, don't go crying later, you brought this upon yourself.

Fiddleus · Answer

Well for one being fat is generally not a good thing it's a display of bad health and makes them less genetically desirable to have as a friend.
Two, humans project there own insecurities at others and the path of least resistance is towards the ironically less attractive target.
Not justifying, just explaining.

DeviousSiddy · Answer

Jealousy? Pride? Ideal?
"Why does that fat bitch have a boyfriend while I am still single?"
"Why does she seem much happier with her boyfriend than I am with mine?"
"Who does she think she is? Fat bitch thinks she need special attention?"
"Omg so disgusting, get a life."

I mean... some women are cruel. Especially the younger ones. Their motives are even more vicious than men's. I believe that women are innately more competitive than men. Especially between women. It's more common to see women fight than man and when they fight, its for blood.
Sure, we aren't talking fights here, but fights are essentially just the extreme form of this.
So if another women has more, has less, or does not fit in her perfect picture... She needs to let it be known that she does not want "that fat bitch" around.

BergDurden · Answer

It is simple, when this people degrade others they feel better, not because it is a good thing, but because rlthis kind of person are insecure, they are not able to feel good about themselfs, they need to demote other people to feel good enough instead of just improve their lives. Besides that they think that are just one way to have a good life, their way, the rest of the world is not allowed to choice his all life. Some people don't care about be fat, they are happy so and there are no problems with that.

DeeperMeaning · Answer

I don't see the purpose of making fun of someone i. e. calling them ugly, or pointing out a flaw in their appearance when it wasn't asked for. I don't see what that does for you or for them. With that being said, I don't think being fat should be normalized. Being fat isn't healthy, being fat is not ideal, being fat is not okay. We've gone from one extreme to the other i. e. anorexia to obesity. Being obese is just as bad as being anorexic. Women who get criticized for their weight and lifestyle choices should stop focusing on people pointing out the obvious and start focusing on ways to improve their health and overall fitness.

Noasify · Answer

Because in this society you need to be slim to be accepted, if you're not, you won't fit in.

I don't care if someone is chubby, or slim, as long as they're healthy, because we shouldn't promote obesity or anorexic bodies. And just because someone is a bit fatter, doesn't necessarily mean that they're gross or unhealthy, same goes for slim women, they're not unhealthy or "bones".

And this is probably gonna offend someone. They get fat-shamed because we can see that she is unhealthy, but ques what? You're probably unhealthy too (not all people are) Maybe you sleep too much or less, or don't eat enough vegetables. Maybe you only eat junk food, but because you are skinny that is acceptable.

I don't promote Obesity or anorexic bodies, I promote healthy bodies, but that doesn't mean people who have obesity/are anorexic deserve less respect.

azzntittiz · Answer

Because they skinny shame us. All my life I never gave a damn if you aspire to be a cow, but I got sick of hearing how I look sick, too skinny, and made up stories o what men tell them about skinny girl.
I fat shame you so you can lose weight, feel better about yourselves and hop off my dick.

dragonfly6516 · Answer

I don't fat shame other women unless they're horrid bitches who do horrible things to other people for their own selfish gain. And I know a few: bitter at the world because no one will love them as they are when they have nothing to offer. They expect to be housewives to a wealthy man when they sit around all day being lazy.

My thoughts are that it's jealousy.

These girls probably feel cheated because they were lied to. You don't have to follow the standards of beauty set by society to find a decent lover, you just have to be a good person in general.

I don't feel like I *need* to be thin to be happy, and I'm not fat due to any fault of my own. I have a combination of several joint and circulation issues that make even walking difficult at times, but I stay very active.

I'm not a thin woman, and I have zero trouble finding men who want to date me, even without sex. I know that I've got a winning personality, that I'm interesting, engaging, and fun to be around.

ohshee · Answer

Why does anybody save anybody I think the people that do that feel so bad about themselves that is it's a way to make them feel better thank you grading of putting other people down they don't realize what they open their mouths and do that all they did is became more ugly on the inside is that a picture of you on this question anyway anybody that thinks they're better than anybody else is full of themselves and fooling themselves the ugly are you becoming the inside it becomes like a cancer he needs to be fed all the time and the more times you feed it the cancer just grows at a faster pace

wingattebaby16 · Answer

women do it to other women to make ourselves feel better.

I am a lot bigger than I want to be after my pregnancy.

Looking at the woman in the pic above, she is very pretty. I know a lot of guys that would go for her!

The "line" i feel we women think is okay to cross is when the "fat" woman has rolls and is so fat she has back boobs and her belly is so big i hangs down to mid thigh or knees.

The woman above is full figured, but i dont see her as fat.. she looks great! Full thighs, arms and torso is not ugly. Most of the guys i have dated would date her.

Cypherphile · Answer

Women do it to boost their confidence and self worth.
So when one goes up, the other goes down and it's a vicious cycle.

Women prey on the insecurities of others to make their own insecurities seem less significant, if not non-existent.

Not all women are like this, I'm sure, but the women that are usually have deep rooted issues behind this reasoning. Whether it be a problem at home, at work, at school, or some traumatic event that they're dealing with in an unhealthy way.

Then there's that really small percentage that just do it because they've got a cunty personality.

PlsWork · Answer

They feel the need to. It may be that they're feeling down and need to feel better about themselves so they shame someone else. It may be because they see that the person is happy and they don't like that, or that the person is sad, and they want them to suffer more. They could say it in an argument or to defend themselves in a similar way. They may do it to be liked by someone who thinks the same of the person. There are multiple reasons behind it, out of them, only one being a good one to use, and that would be motivation, which isn't even shaming.

sHiNii · Answer

Why would anyone want to put someone else down?

I think it's because women are in constant competition with each other. And when women see that the competition has qualities that make them more desirable they will find a fault with that person and make them insecure about it in order to maintain their own status as "the best".
I heard something once, I can't remember where, but they said: "to look beautiful all you have to do is surround yourself with ugly people" I would assume this also translates to exploiting people's insecurities to make yourself feel superior.

TheAshCooper · Answer

Obesity is an issue. And it's not always shaming it's could be attempting to get someone to loose weight. Cause it's bad for people bad for kids and bad for our species to be overweight.
At times it's gluttony too.

I do understand some people bound to wheelchairs or housebound etc with certain issues may be fat through circumstances alone.

That I would defend to the end of the earth.

But telling someone to loose weight is considered fat shaming. It's not. You'd tell a drug addict to quit. I'd tell an obese person to eat less and move more.

fredrick27 · Answer

Human being set the standard of beauty where most would believe that and media will come in handy in that situation to promote, anybody who decide or just happen to be outsiders wouldn't be tolerate, we finger shame, critisize and degrade them, as long as we put labels, any labels, to others, we just create more distance to one another, this is just one form of many forms of negative shame treatment and it's not woman problem but human as a whole, so stop labelling, it just creates more fraction, more fraction means more problems, can we just sit and be grateful

dandiecandie · Answer

Well here is my story. I used to be chubby before. I weighed 158 lb at 5'3 and my mom was the one day shaming me. So I told her oh yeah mom I'm fat well that's good for me ok I live to eat not eat to live. I can lose 10 lbs any time. But the real question is how can we solve your droopy ass syndrome without a doctor. From then on she never complained about my extra 10lbs and I gradually lost it cause I started dancing hip hop and salsa. But the point is don't let no body bring you down about weight. It's a solvable issue that can be fixed with a little hard work. That's all. Anyway that's how I delt with it.

Helena26 · Answer

Oh girl they don't only fat shame, they slut shame, they education shame, every part of the body shame. I am skinny and I still get bullied for being skinny. Some women are just nasty and they will get at you for any reason. I was told ugly girls are bullied. I was a model and still I got bullied. Its just some women hate themselves and vent all their toxicity on other women to feel better. You can't win whatever you do with them. So just love your self and your body and be whatever u want to be

Fairygodmother78 · Answer

Women are bitches. Point. I think it is women who are very insecure and sad in their own lifes, that they have to insult others just to make themselves feel superior and better. Nobody has the right to shame another for being overweight. It is a very sad world we live in...

Adam_INTJ · Answer

It's for 3 reasons I think:
1. Slim women work hard and sacrifice food and time to maintain their figure and gain acceptance and beauty, so they are annoyed when fatter women complain that they aren't as accepted when they haven't made the same sacrifices.
2 pity: When you see someone doing something that is self destructive, you wish that you could help them in some way. But when you see a food addict, they want that which damages them, so it end up being a condemnation of the fatter woman's addiction to food and her bigotry about the solution.
3. Natural selection makes unhealthy kin a liability to the local gene pool. We're programmed by evolution to "fat shame" because, evolutionarily, it's disadvantageous to a species to encourage/ accept behavior that makes the tribe weak and vulnerable, because that in turn could help contribute to the decline of the group.

Detemer · Answer

Giving a healthy friendly advise is fine but downright shaming them for being fat is unacceptable.
And it's not just girls, boys do it as much with their friends.
Only difference is maybe men don't take it seriously and women do bcz aapearance is definitely more important to every woman.
Motive... well there isn't really. Those who do it just like to point out the imperfection or shortcomings of others.
It's none of their business what other women do.

MissMonstaz · Answer

Same reason why women skinny shame other women. Because either they are jealous as fuck or just plain assholes. Seems like girls are very competitive when it comes to beauty and always use "shaming" as a way to make themselves feel better.

Shaming someone for their weight is disgusting.
If you are really worried about someone's health, there are way nicer ways to tell them that.

Schrodingerscat · Answer

Correct one would be, women body shame other women.

One of the biggest reasons I don't like hanging out with other girls. They keep commenting on other girls' bodies, their dress sense and so on.
"Oh my God, she's so flat"
"Oh my God such a fat ass"
I'm sick of it. I don't find such behavior classy at all.

Women can be too cruel to each other.

red7887 · Answer

Being overweight is unhealthy period. The no such as body shaming it a bunch of lazy overweight people that has psychological issues in there past that lead to eating out of sadness and boredom. These are mentally suffering and can get out of the loop because their comfort of of not carrying about their body but desire what a healthy person want. Which bring them back to sadness of eating again. This why we have personal trainer. But not everyone can afford to be healthy. That why diet exist. But really they need mentally strong and get past their urges to live a healthy life. There nothing wrong being thick or cubby. But being fat, overweight and obese is the danger zone.

dougle1 · Answer

It's a sad situation everyone is lovely in there own way whether they are fat or thin i was once on a date with someone we went to Jimmy Chung's and she seen a woman that had problems with her weight. She was talking fine to her one minute then soon as her back was turned she was saying nasty things about her being over weight. I felt like reaching out to the woman and giving her a cuddle. I never went on a second date with that woman because of what she said. I think woman fat shame other woman because they are naturally bitchy with eachother. They take pride in there appearance and if they see a woman that makes no effort they slag them off probably take photos and tag them on social media. The woman probably had a problem with her weight and that's what has caused her to put on the weight.

SnapTsch · Answer

Because fat shaming isn't bad
Bullying is
But fat shaming isn't
It works and makes you work to be better and healthy.
But if you believe in fat acceptance, then day shaming just makes you feel better about living an unhealthy life and convincing yourself that you are healthy and better than everyone else because you don't have thing privilege and all that intersectional crap

Anonymous · Answer

I never fat shame anybody. But I do notice that some of the more heavy women I meet hates me instantly. If its jealousy or they assume I woundn't like them? I dont know. But it doesn't bring us together thats for sure. Then I also noticed some trades that heavy people often share such as fysical lasyness, they are often weak and complain a lot if challenged to do something active. No will to push though the pain. The once I've met and had longer interactions with always feel like they are treated unfairly and complain a LOT about anything and demand special treatment. Oh and in need of a lot of attention and none of those is a good trade to me. So if I meet a more heavy person and they start to show signs like this I'll pull away cause its not trades I look for in a friend. But I'll never ever comment on their weight to anybody.

Anonymous · Answer

Fat women shame slim girls too.
They say there's "nothing of them," that they're "stick thin." My cousin who 10 called me anorexic when I was 17? I eat heaps yet remain slim, is just who I am. You always hear that fat shaming is offensive but skinny shaming is too.

Fat people need to sort themselves out but I guess skinny shaming helps them justify why they choose to be overweight.

Richareens · Answer

I guess they're just being honest. The thing is people take offense at someone just for being called fat. Sometimes it's good to be honest and receive some constructive criticism so they can lean more towards a healthy lifestyle. I get called skinny a lot and to put on weight. However, if one's flat out saying someone's a fatass and those sorts derogatory add on terms, that does reflect the level of immaturity of that person.

Abhijeet1992 · Answer

It isn't about gender, dear Anonymous, it's human nature...
We humans tend to have a set of aesthetic standards ( which are mostly influenced) anyone or anything that falls out of those standards are subject to mockery and ridicule.
Not just the case of fat shaming but other things too like skin colour, teeth size, hair growth among various things ( British, till last century thought that having white skin makes them superior to other humans that that different colored skin, so they invaded many countries and established their laws/colonies 'cause they thought their way of living was superior. A classic case of having different aesthetic standards).

silvermoon84 · Answer

Why do women shame each other period? Fat girls body shame skinny girls (vice versa), virgin women tend to slut shame their sexually liberated counterparts (and vice versa), etc. It's because the shamer is usually insecure and putting down the shamed because she thinks it will make her feel and look better.

snowshy · Answer

Gender rarely makes a difference in this matter. Women do it for the same reasons men do it sometimes. People often put down others because they are jealous but more likely to raise their own esteem. I can't honestly say I've known many women to fat shame. I've seen a couple of female celebrities, skinny ones, fat shame other celebs. But in person and in my experience alone of every day life, it is guys who fat shame more.

Fyourfeelings · Answer

Because it's nature of reproductive competition. We are still animals who compete for reproductive success. Now when it comes to obese people and anorexic people, both are unhealthy and are seen as poison to the community from a subconscious mind. It's actually a self defense for the species to distrust them, be unaccepting, and possibly violent.

JubJub_Hi · Answer

There are so many BIG woman in the West. Now their bad food and habits spreading in the world. It is terrible! Terrible also that people want say everything is ok and everyone is great and beautiful. That will leading to world of fat women and men that is very unhealthy.

brownbeauty23 · Answer

Not all girls do that. But I agree most of them do. Those who do that, are just insecure about their own body and can't see a fat girl just be happy with her body and smile beautifully where as they have to work hard on their body shape with a fake satisfied look.

Sandrino2 · Answer

Because skinny white women are the symbol of hotness according to tv. They often are put down as sexy, even though there are curvy women! LIKE ME! Who are maybe WAY better looking than these skinny model dolls. sorry for saying that, but it is stupid! and I dont let ANYONE call me fat.

kaylaS91 · Answer

Because framing someone else as less desirable will give the women in question a feeling of having the upper-hand. The whole idea of competition in the dating world and how evolution hardwired both genders to develop tactics that make themselves seem more desirable to mate with than others would explain why there's more shaming within genders (so woman on woman) versus women against men, too.

Christpaquin · Answer

Jaleousy and because when you feel like super crap it's better to make feel people like crap around you so that you can look better, so that you can feel better.

But it's superficial when you are alone you feel like crap.

Solve your fucking issues, its what it means.

englisc · Answer

For the same reason we men fat shame other men - it's not good to be fat. And yes, I got fat shamed too when I was a fatty.

I find it funny that a lot of people think it's jealousy. Usually people get jealous when someone is better off than they are - more money, more popular, funnier , better looking etc. But being jealous because someone's fat? That's like someone with money being jealous of someone else because they're poor - makes no sense.

ttelge · Answer

They get a kick out of it. But let's be clear, being overweight shouldn't be culturally acceptable - for the same reason that untreated athlete's foot shouldn't be socially acceptable. No, it doesn't really affect others, but leaving one's body in an unhealthy state is unsanitary and bad role modeling.

emmilo · Answer

I don't fat shame so I wouldn't know why people do it. I guess it depends on people's opinions of fat. For me fat is when someone doesn't take care of them selves properly, but "big" women is something I don't fat shame. If someone is bigger but healthy there is a difference.

brennxx · Answer

It's pretty sad that we have come to the point where we feel better about are self s when we have to insult others for how there look
There's a saying here in the UK what goes around comes around ie
If u insult others somewhere down the line your going to get it back ten fold. so if u have nothing good to say about anyone say nothing a keep quiet then u will not get hurt by insulting remarks it's that simple.

deraz24 · Answer

I don't know either way women of size are loved too so it won't take anything away from them. But I say as long as its not doing anything to anyone else dont worry ab them, its annoying to see people feed into something that has nothing to do with them

Aalila · Answer

They want to feel better about themselves insecurity jealousy we tend to look at our selfs and compare it to other women oh what does she have that I don't have or I have this and she doesn't I find that we can be critical of our body because social media wants us to see beauty as this or that and it hurts the younger generation they will look at it see a trend and try to follow it like the eyebrows thing that looks square in the front and a bit faded eye lashes and so on

Belorum · Answer

What do you see as fat shaming? If someone overweight asks me about my opinion, I'd say that trying to achieve a healthy weight would be better for both her/his body and soul. Not in some matter of attractivenes, a woman with "more meat" can be attractive as well, but she'll have a higher risk of several hearth- and other diseases.
I do not go to strangers and telling them that without being asked though.

yagirli · Answer

Fat shaming is a huge part of society and just like people don't like others because of there race or where they come from, people also don't like others for being over weight. Another thing is that in society women are put in competition with other women from a very young age, which is also why women often get along better with men

little_bird1 · Answer

I fat shame everyone because being fat means you are unhealty and lazy. I can't understand people who approve of fat. Its like deliberatly not brushing your teeth and letting them rot.

Gracefulhippo · Answer

Because women and men are generally (not always) in competition with members of the same sex to find a partner. As such, pointing out someone's flaws is a logical choice to increase your chances. Its not a nice thing to do in every case, but it makes sense. Aren't biological imperatives wonderful.

Chubby dudes get the same kind of shit for the same reason, but most of the fat guys I know could kick anyone's ass six ways to Sunday so they didn't really give a shit what anyone called them.

BruceWang · Answer

How about instead of saying being fat, having heart disease, high blood pressure, high blood sugar, and loads of other deadly diseases, we encourage them to lose weight and not stand by and compliment people that are bound to die 20 years prematurely?

Nineball_Seraph · Answer

I want believe it's competition among other women but they're not so direct like men. It's a common trait that women don't want direct confrontation, so they'll take an indirect approach. In this case, whittle down the other girl from the inside so she doesn't have the confidence to be competition.

ariadneR · Answer

Personally I think it has to do with seeing something in that woman that you are jealous of. Whether its the way she carries herself, her personality, her smile or her eyes. It could be anything. And it makes that person feel better about themselves.
I don't understand it - its so much easier to bring a woman up, compliment her, then it is to bring her down

Jgel1992 · Answer

Well, I don't think it has to do with the gender... I would like to respond with another question. Why is society making it ok to be fat and unhealthy? That's the easy way to live, it's awesome to accept the lifestyles of people eating too much or just being lazy and not praise the efforts fit people make to stay healthy in a world surrounded with junk food. In addition, having people say it's ok to be fat...

netkoN · Answer

I personally believe that girls who fat shame other people usually care really much about looks, most commonly because that is the only thing they've got going for them, this often makes them feel insecure and jealous of other people, so you should just remember, when somebody shames you, you should feel sorry for them and not for yourselves girls.

Anonymous · Answer

because of jealousy. if a girl calls another girl fat, overweight, obese, too large, etc, she's almost 100% jealous that the girl is probably skinnier than her and wants to lower the girl's self esteem because of jealousy. but if a guy calls a girl anything that relates to "you're fat", it's downright disrespectful

it's kinda the same reason guys shit talk each other, because of jealousy and "competition"

MaisGem21 · Answer

I don’t fat shame, I’m not wired that way. Pretty sure overweight people know they are overweight, don’t need others to point it out to them.

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